tell me how to stop breastfeeding my 3 (in a fortnight) year old

[popsycal]

He only has a short feed before bed and a slighter longer one in the morning. Although he does occasionally ask in the day if he is upset/hurt - usually I can distract him.

So far:

• I don't offer ever and usually distract if it isn't at bedtime/morning
• have bought him a special cup to encourage bed time drinks (he tends to have a short feed then has his drink)

He is keen to be a 'big boy' so that might be a possible angle.

I feel the time has come now for me and have felt like this for a good few months. I want my boobs back for the few months before dc3 (OMG I SAID THAT OUT LOUD!!!) arrives and want enough of a gap from him feeding so that he does not feel pushed out.

Any suggestions?
I fear 'cold turkey' will be extremely difficult and quite upsetting for him.

my dd stopped on her own when dd2 was born,although she had been feeding less and less and I had deliberately dropped some feeds(which I still feel sad/guilty about,wierdly)I did tell her she could still have boo but she said she was a big girl now and it was for the baby.she was 2 and four months.She still puts her hands down my top and feels about when she's feeling cuddly,and I'm glad about that as it felt like usurping her at the time (9 m ago).

sakurarose39-sorry to hijack thread-yes my dh is Japanese, and i signed up to your group.....sorry to not get back to you before.