yadee ya, the usual bloody discussion about me STILL breastfeeding.

[Jenkeywoo]

Met up with girl friends last night - one has dd the same age as my dd but didn't breastfeed. My dd is 22 months and does still breastfeed.

As usual - as it was last time I saw her at xmas, I had the usual questions.

"so are you still feeding dd?"
"do you think you'll ever stop?"
"what if she's still doing at 15?"
"I just find it weird and creepy".
"oh but she only feeds at night though doesn't she?"

It's like a bloody interrogation and I am sick of it - since when did my personal life become public property? It's bigotted and offensive.

Change the conversation to this and see if it's acceptable:
"so are you still gay?"
"do you think you'll ever stop?"
"I just find it's weird and creepy"

It would be homophobic and unacceptable and I think that all the breastfeeding-bashing out there is akin to homophobia. My lifestyle choice - no-one elses so bugger off and let me enjoy the most precious gift that parenting has given me.

TinkerbellesMum, Just checking I assume reading your other posts, that your 'CC' comment refers to Continum Concept rather than Controlled Crying ?

My parents are currently muttering about me breastfeeding is getting louder now my breastfed DD is 17 months old and I'm 3 months pregnant.

Even my dad said I should start weaning now, I just replied that we were working on it. By which I mean, she started on solids at 6 months old, so we are techically weaning

It always amazes me how much input family, friends and even strangers want to push upon mothers. Not just over nursing, but over sleep, dress, toileting, solids.

I feel like printing a T-shirt which says. 'I am not interested in your opinion. Have a nice day '

Babies, my eldest was 20 months old when her little brother arrived. She was still bf, and carried on when ds1 was born. it raised a few eyebrows, esp with my mum, who is one of the "you're making a rod for your own back..." brigade, bless her, but once she realised that i was going to carry on she came round to the idea. And having a nursing toddler is incredibly useful when your milk comes in and the baby's asleep! they both nursed til 2 1/2 ish, and i'm now on no3 and hoping to do the same again. extended bf is fab!

lol yes Continuum Concept! I'm used to the Americans on other boards saying CIO so I forgot that meaning.

I sort of agree about us being the first generation. Because in the past when it's been done it's been done as the norm. It was denormalised and now it's a "problem". We are the first generation to challenge the denormalisation of BF and BF in public.

PW, I started reading soulemama for the craft stuff, but I think I almost read it more for the idyllic parenting stuff.

Dotsie, May I be cheeky and ask if had any problems/issues whilst nursing in pregancy ?

So far we are going strong but it is very early days yet (13 weeks), we have no future plans just going day to day and seeing how things go

my ds stopped at 26 months,his choice totally and it never felt un-natural and certainly not 'wierd and creepy'!!??
Ignore the comments just respond 'yes,great isn't it!!!' and move the chat along!!
Weldone for keeping it up.