4m & night feeds

[Victoriaspongecake1]

Hi,
my little girl is 4 months old & we have a good bedtime routine. 6pm bath, bottle bed. She goes down without a fuss & everyone’s happy however she still wakes for a feed anytime between 3-5am which is fine. But she’s now taking an hour to resettle after her bottle. Babbling away to herself, high pitch noises & what not. Once asleep she’s not up again until 7/7:30am however if she wakes at 3, she may not go back to sleep until 4:30/5. She’s currently on 8oz.

i don’t change her unless she’s had a poo & I tried doing the dream feed at 10/11pm however she was then wide awake come her 3-5am feed (‘sleep experts said about dream feed but found that didn’t work for us)

any advice? TIA

What is her day sleep like? I found it quite a transition from 3 to 4 months, where my lo started waking at 3-4am and would take an hour if not more to go back to sleep and it was because he was sleeping too much in the day and I was still letting him nap for the recommended time a 3 month old should nap for. Once I cut it down he started sleeping through until 6-7am again until 5 months old where I needed to adjusted his nap total again.
i think for 4 month olds they recommend 3-4 hours of day sleep and 10-12 hours of nighttime sleep.

Could you maybe push the bedtime a little later? My dd is 4 months and we found doing a bath, massage and a bottle around 8pm means she sleeps through to around 6am. There’s only the occasional time she wakes during the night but that’s only if she’s maybe not fed enough during the day. I must say her feeds during the day seem to go on for much longer now and can take over an hour as she now likes to have a little break during!

I have tried doing that however come 6pm she’s rubbing her eyes & in a crabby mood so can’t keep her up. I just I’m getting a good stretch from 7-3 & I shouldn’t really complain but would love a night of undisturbed sleep

Most babies hit a 4 month sleep regression. If you can leave her to babble without her getting upset and she puts herself back to sleep then you will be putting yourself into a good place foe when it does hit.

I would say her sleep pattern currently is very good though so enjoy it whilst it continues as it can change in a instant!

What you’ve described is a split night usually caused by too much daytime sleep. Try tweaking the naps, and make sure longest wake window is before bed.

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I get it completely! My dd has really hit the 4m sleep regression so shes waking herself and babbling away during the night. For a few nights I was getting up and feeding her but she didn’t want it. Last 2 nights I’ve let her babble and she’s fallen back to sleep after a little while. Won’t lie, I’m lying there awake whilst shes thrashing around and making noises but Im going to see if I can leave her to it.
does your dd have a few naps during the day?

Thank you!

she has 2 naps - 1 around 9am & another around 12. I have left her to babble away & like your baby she’s put herself to sleep. Me on the other hand Is wide awake listening to her.

thank you for all your comments, it’s good to know I’m not the only one experiencing this ☺️

It’s so tough, I’m a ftm and feel like I’m doubting myself all the time as well as comparing myself to other mums. I keep reminding myself that dd will go at her own pace and not to worry.
Hopefully your little one will push on during the nights and give you a bit of a longer sleep!

Thank you. I’m exactly the same. You hear how some peoples babies sleep through from such a young age and you wonder if it’s something you’re doing wrong. Always doubting yourself and it’s hard! We’ll get there in the end, as long as DD is healthy and happy that’s all that matters x

Hi OP, just wanted to say hello, I’m up with my 4m old twins who are going through a little phase of being awake for an hour or two in the middle of the night. DS still woke every three hours when he was this age so I’m accepting that I at least get a long stretch either side. I don’t plan to change a thing, just ride it out. I’m BF so I’ll just wait until the babbling turns to crabby and then attempt to feed them back to sleep.

Oh and when you look up the stats available
on when babies sleep through, the very vast majority don’t at 4m. DS was 20 months! And now he’s 3 I’ll still occasionally see him overnight. In fact, as if by magic, he’s just walked in…

His ears must have been burning.

hopefully you can get to catch up on some sleep when the babies are napping x

I probably hadn’t seen him overnight in a couple of weeks too so really spooky! But it’s such a beautiful age when you can just redirect them back to bed in a mere second or two.

No chance of catching up on sleep with three kids but that’s OK. I’d advise anyone with one to sleep in the day whenever they have the chance!

I must say I do enjoy the daytime naps to catch up on sleep. I’ll be sad when she drops them 🥲