breastfed my son for 2years 3mths- stopping....so sad...sore boobs

[jkb]

hi

Can anyone give me any support/advice... I have breastfed my son for the last 2 years 3mths.... it has got him through some terrible times...he has been a poorly child & without the boobie...god knows what would have happened.. I have loved evey minute of it!
Lately.. i have tried saying to him that we could have a cuddle rather than feed (as soon as i would like to try for another child)... it worked every now & then..but most of the time he would scream & scream so i gave it to him.. however.. last night..it hit me.. its been 2 days since he has fed...he asks..but seems happy to accept a cuddle instead now...oh my god.. I did cry!! it suddenly hit me.. that that was it, no more feeding him.. Is this normal!!?? surely I should be happy that he has had it for this long & now its the right time... I then started to feel guilty that maybe he isent ready... but i dont think he would have been happy for a cuddle instead if he wasent??
what a mixture of feelings i have... i feel silly feeling like this.. none of my family understand.. they just say.. you have fed him for so long.. just be happy. I feel upset too that the last feed i gave him.. I didnt actually know it was the LAST feed.. probaly for the best though...as would have probaly cried whole way through!
Im cryng now writing this message & wish I didnt feed like this... I do hope I feel better soon.. my boobs are full too & sore!

xxxxxxx

[jkb]

Thank U so much to all of u .... to be honest, you have all been far better than my family (hubby is great though too).... just got off the phone to my mum... she asks.."has he had any boob?" i say no.. none since last thursday...& im feeling really down about it.. finding it hard to let go... she says "oh my god... no more boob... its all over... oh my god... well... you do realise you prob wont be able to feed if you have another one..you prob wont have any milk... that happened to me"

I mean.. what a XXXXXXXX insensitive thing to say!! stupid women.. shes really made me mad.. so not only is she going on & on that its all over ..she is trying to make me worry that i will NEVER feed a child again as i probably wont have any milk for the next one!!

My sisters.... everytime I say im finding it hard to come to terms with stopping feeding... i just get "hummmm.. well you did it for long enough...shound be proud..had to stop some time" & then a uick subject change!??!

Be honest with me... please be very honest.. what are the chances of me not being able to feed if i have another?? it would kill me? has it happened to any of u ?? GOD im going to worry about that all thru my preg next time.. why is my mum such a witch!?

sorry for the rant xxxxxxx

[spottyzebra]

hi sounds like its more to do with your mums own issues tbh

your sisters prob just dont ubderstand how you feel.did they bf and ifso for how long?

im sure you will find it easy to bf another child

how are you feeling today ?

do you really feel ready to stop ?

[PuppyDogTails]

Really feeling for you jkb - I'm trying to stop with my 8mo DS and my emotions are all over the place, must be much worse for you after over 2 years. DS doesn't seem bothered about taking a bottle instead, which makes me more convinced that now is the time for me to stop because it will be more difficult at a time where he is strongly attached. I'm thinking of dropping to just a bedtime feed to make it a bit easier.

Hope you're feeling better today.

xx

[Tangas]

Well done for bf for so long jkb. And I do understand what you mean by feeling upset, low, depressed. I too felt sad when I gave it up. Its such a nice bond we experiance, the closeness!! I only wish I did it for longer, stoped at 3months with DS. But to be honest- If you dont give it up now then you'll only find it harder and harderlater on down the line. Even now I still want to feel that closeness. Don't listen to your mum. it will only make you worry more thru ur nxt pregnancy like you said. ask your health visitor nxt time you see her, see how likley it is. I think it highly unlikley.

[spottyzebra]

hi jkb hope your doing ok