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why dont younger mums breas feed

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codswallop · 14/11/2004 14:39

on the whole?
18 year ikd nighbour has just had a baby !) musch to her parents horror.. and isnt even trying to b feeed.
why is this?

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fairydust · 14/11/2004 15:06

i think it's a brillant point you've brought up cod - and i think it's lovely we can all answer for and against in a grown up mannor.

persoannly if no.2 does ever come i will still bottle feed it worked for dd and us (still does she's still on 2 bottles a night at 2 1/2)it worked once don't see why it wouldn't again.

I'm not against BF i just think you "know" wether it's for you or not.

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codswallop · 14/11/2004 15:09

aorry to haev offended Bh
I though this was rather interetsing

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fairydust · 14/11/2004 15:10

def agree blossom - i had my persoanal reason for not bf jsut the same as people have there personal reason for bf - at the end of the day were all doing what we feel is best for our children and that doesn't make anyone of us a bad person

fairydust · 14/11/2004 15:11

cod i agree with you for once (lol)

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codswallop · 14/11/2004 15:13

ansd as the health visiotr said to me " its nto on their cv!"

mind you I do think its good to have a go for a wekk or fro howver long you are holed up thinking " what have I done"

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blossomhill · 14/11/2004 15:14

Coddy - maybe I was a bit harsh - so sorry!
Just still feel that feeding is personal choice and have known young girls that do breast feed. Infact I know a lot of older mums that don't.
My personal experience of breastfeeding was rather negative too.

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codswallop · 14/11/2004 15:15

Mum reassured me by saying " well oyu dont want to be a page three model!"

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mieow · 14/11/2004 15:24

I was 18 when I had DS and I bf him till he was 8 months old, DD1 till she was 2 months old and DD3 till she was 7 months. I did mix feed all of them with DH using a bottle of EBM.

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codswallop · 14/11/2004 15:25

so you bbreak the stroeo type then!

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mieow · 14/11/2004 15:26

also my girls were premature so I had to express my milk for ages before I could BF, and a premature baby ain't easy to feed, I could have taken the easy option but chose to keep trying.

mieow · 14/11/2004 15:26

suppose I do in a way!

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codswallop · 14/11/2004 15:26

and what about your friends ,did they support it?

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mieow · 14/11/2004 15:29

I had a lot of mummy friends, so it wasn't a big deal to them as many of them also bf, the only difference was that they were all a lot older than me, All the people I know that have had babies young, tend to bottlefeed, (except misdee and other sister)

mieow · 14/11/2004 15:30

it wasn't a huge deal to me, used to bf DS in Asda, after shopping and I would go to the cafe and BF him. I think my younger friends partners found it more embarassing than anyone

Yorkiegirl · 14/11/2004 15:32

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Gobbledigook · 14/11/2004 15:45

I didn't because I don't believe it really makes that much difference to a child - mine are perfectly healthy, rarely ill, no asthma, no eczema, no reactions to bubble bath etc etc and I didn't like BF (did it with ds1 for a while), felt uncomfortable exposing baps in public and it just wasn't for me.

AND I don't care and won't feel guilty unless someone can point something out in my kids and say 'that's happened because you didn't bf'.

zebra · 14/11/2004 15:45

personally don't think it matters these days wether your kids use carseats or not - just think it's down to personal preferance.

personally never even considered seat belts and don't regreat it one bit

I felt comfortable with that choice using childseats for me was never an option

at the end of the day were all doing what we feel is best for our children and that doesn't make anyone of us a bad person

Gobbledigook · 14/11/2004 15:49

I think perhaps younger mums don't because they don't tend to stress out about every tiny little thing with regard to parenting from what I've seen. They just get on with it, do what's right for them and stuff everyone else.

I think sometimes, older Mums tackle parenting the same way they've tackled their careers beforehand - like a project that they have to do exactly right so want to do everything like bf, organic food (only home made, not jars), real nappies, send them to nursery for social interaction and so they can learn everything before they go to school....

I know I'm generalising but you get the point I'm making?

blossomhill · 14/11/2004 15:51

Zebra - don't get it??????

moomina · 14/11/2004 15:52

zebra, hope you're not implying what you seem to be implying...

blossomhill · 14/11/2004 15:56

I think so.........

Poo2 · 14/11/2004 15:59

Not sure if I count as a younger mum, but at 25 I have bf my ds. He's now 7 months and still has one bf a day. I was very unsure if I would like it, but decided to give it a whirl. As it turns out we were great at it, and I am glad I tried. The only thing I really have to say in general about this, is that a happy mum makes for a happy baby. If that means bf - great, if that means bottles - also great.

Zebra - might that post not be a little inflammatory? Implying that mums who choose not to bf also don't give a monkeys about their childs safety says more about you than it does about them.

blossomhill · 14/11/2004 16:01

I had to stop breastfeeding my ds for my own health (had a very traumatic birth and was extremely anaemic as I had a huge blood loss) and found the whole experience so distressing (because I felt a failure as a mum) that i couldn't feed him that I decided not to put myself through it with dd.

fairydust · 14/11/2004 16:08

zebra a little uncalled for me thinks

Gobbledigook · 14/11/2004 16:09

Oh just ignore it. I know it's not the same thing at all - it's a ridiculous implication and doesn't make me feel guilty about not bf at all.