Baby wont stop feeding and crying!

[PL2021]

I am at my wits end today and really looking for some advice and other people's experiences. Over the last few days baby just will not settle at all! She is on EBM via bottle, is taking 130ml per feeding and still seeming to want more afterwards! She just screams until we give her more. We have tried to pacify her with a dummy and winding her incase it is wind but nothing will settle her apart from more food. However she will then end up bringing mouthfuls of it back up (not huge vomits but mouthfuls of sick with hiccups/burps)

I have wondered whether it is reflux and I have spoken to a midwife, a health visitor and a breastfeeding support line. 2 of which have said she just sounds like she is hungry and probably going through a growth spurt and give her bigger bottles and see if that helps settle her (which it doesn't seem to be). The other 1 said feed her less more often but that's impossible as she'll just scream the house down non stop.
She tends to cough and choke during her bottles sometimes and sometimes afterwards also.

I am wondering now whether my breast milk just isn't satisfying her needs and considering switching to formula?

I cant stop crying because it's upsetting me seeing her so unsettled and upset all of the time, and not knowing why.. whether it is hunger or pain. We have considered trying infacol or colief incase her problem is wind/bottom wind, but the midwife said to avoid them as they can make her constipated and cause more problems.

I am not even getting time to eat! I had to skip dinner last night and didn't get chance to eat until 3pm today when she finally settled for an hour but is now up and crying again. I'm very sleep deprived as I cant even nap in the day when she does because she just doesnt!

Has anyone else had a similar situation and have some advice for me please?

I dont want to make the situation worse by trying formula, but I also am going insane trying to figure out what she needs/wants

@headinthecloudsnow You haven't hijacked my thread don't worry! All of your responses are making me feel so much more relaxed and less of a stress head!
Oh hot meals have definitely gone out the window at the moment, unless it's a super quick takeaway delivered by my brilliant mum hahah!

Thank you everyone for all of your advice and words of wisdom, it's nice to know that it's fairly normal to feel this overwhelmed and that I'm not just completely clueless haha!

Just when I thought things were getting better yesterday, through the night and today we seem to have taken 10 steps backwards.

I don't know who has cried more today, me or DD! She is now crying all the way through her bottles, not just after them! And she's getting herself so worked up she is choking whilst drinking them. As soon as I take the bottle off her to try burping her she just screams and won't stop. Does this mean she is in pain? Is she windy? When I give it back she will stop crying but she then doesn't doesn't seem be drinking properly anymore. She kind of drinks it like she doesn't want it even if she's only just started. I'm all alone today as my partner is at work and I feel completely helpless

Will she take a dummy? It might be the sucking which is comforting for her but she doesn't want the milk.

It’s the three week growth spurt.

DS was similar to your baby, I was pumping for the first few weeks then on week 4 he finally started to get the hang of breastfeeding with the help of nipple shields and the ‘dummy trick’ (putting a dummy in his mouth, then deftly pulling out the dummy and slipping the boob in his mouth before he notices that the dummy has gone).

When DS had his three week growth spurt he was on over 40oz per day and he was never satisfied no matter how much milk we gave him. He also spits up a lot of milk - if you end up running the washing machine twice a day then you’re not alone.

Let me add that when he was born the midwife said that DS had a tongue tie. He couldn’t stick out his tongue until he was 6 weeks old and when he did start sticking out his tongue it looked heart-shaped. We never managed to get it cut but eventually he was able to breastfeed well using nipple shields.

I haven't rtft but a lot of it - my 2nd baby (im 36 weeks with my 3rd) who is now 5 years old had horrendous colic, i was beside myself for weeks from about week 5 he would be constantly miserable and i just thought it was gas. turns out from a paediatrician he had colic caused by lactose intolerance in my breastmilk. he wanted to feed but cried a lot and a lot came up. Stuff that did go in ended up in his intestines but he couldn't poo and was in lots of pain. Colief was the only thing that helped. As I was ebf it made giving the colief v hard, but I would suggest giving it a try if i were you seeing as you already are ebf via bottles. I ended up going onto lactose free formula, by 7 months his gut had matured and turned into a completely different baby. sleeps like a dream. hang in there. It will get better, it just doesn't feel like it at the time