classic comments from mils, mums and friends and family about bf

[robinredbreast]

seems that alot of negative comments come from your "nearest and dearest"
rather than from the general public who seem quite happy for you

heres a few quotes ive had

"yuuukk a baby sucking on a tit thats disgusting"

"that should be kept private"

"dont do THAT when so and so is around"

"yes i agree with the woman on that programme that bf in public is inflicting it on others"

along with the standard anytime your having any problems with ANYTHING get her on bottles !!!

anyone else got any others to add

Sherazade's hv: unbelievable. No wonder joe public is so ignorant if this is what you get from health professionals.

Staggered Sherazade.
Bloody staggered.

sherazade my mum keeps saying to DD "you want a bokkle don't you?"

Once ds got to five months, my mother used to ask 'have you weaned him off the breast yet?' with tedious regularity. Somehow 'the' was really offensive.

She knew damn well exactly how hard I'd struggled with b/f, too. Grrr.

When my mum bf her first 3 dc in the 50s (I was bottle fed later) she was told by hvs to wean at 9 months. Mil (in a different part of the country) was told 6 months. They were completely arbitrary time limits dreamed up without any reference to research-based evidence at all, and foisted on women who thought they were getting expert advice. That's why so much crap is spouted by the older generation. Except my dad who was was from the generation before that.

MIL said 'It's not natural' WTF????? Mostly family have been really supportive but my mum did say the other day 'you're not going to carry on after a year, are you?'. Errrrmmmm - probably!

When you have a baby, so many people think they can make decisions for you, and how long to bf is just one of them. When I was first pg, the most boring night out we ever had was with a couple who spent all evening suggesting different names for the forthcoming child. Soon learned not to discuss babynaming with any one else because they all seemed to think that their personal likes and dislikes about names should be taken into consideration. One even asked me straight out to name our baby the name of their choice. I said fgs buy yourself a hamster.

Mostly people around me are very supportive. My mum often says "not a very good advert for breastfeeding are you?" as DD is a horrific sleeper, has bad eczema, very wriggly to feed, very petite and wired to the mains! DS was similar. I'm still overweight, boobs huge and look like utter cr*p due to a few hours sleep a night for the last few years!

I guess she has a point. But on the plus side, both DS and DD are healthy and DD is a bright spark too.

I've only had negative comments about public feeding from those nearest and dearest that think I should find the quietest corner possible that isn't 'near any men'. They think they're trying to help me out by saving my blushes. I've had plenty of positive comments from members of the public though.

I got a corker from the maternity unit this week - I called to request my booking appointment and said I couldn't give them a date of last period because I'm still bfing DD (13 months) and the reply:

"Naughty girl, you'll have to put a stop to that when the baby comes".

So to cheer myself up I went to M&S for a cup of tea and a sticky bun and I obviously looked knackered and the person at the till asked if I was all right. I explained I was pregnant and DD was desperate to nurse and she said and I quote: "Oh I've heard about that, it's like smoking right, if you keep on breastfeeding, your new baby will be smaller and it'll be easier to get out"

I did not know what to say to this woman, I was just boggled!!!!

"and when she was borderline dehydrated and wouldn't take anything but breasmilk ''you better not breastfeed her till she's better''."

I was told to stop bf my lo by a very young, posh female doctor in A&E when my lo was 12 months and was admitted with severe vomiting - she had gastro and breastmilk was the only thing that was keeping her alive!

whomovedmychocolate

I had this week from a friend "you're not going to be one of these people who bfs till she's 4 are you?"

I just made a joke and said "oh I'm sure I will have stopped before she moves out" which she didn't find funny, but thinking about it now what I should have said was "so what if I am?"

bumper - you could try saying "oh you're not one of those people who's hung up about breastfeeding are you? you surprise me, I thought you were quite well balanced. Isn't that interesting, I wonder where that issue comes from."

Ooh harpsi, if only I had the gumption... give it a couple of months and I might just be pushed to it though!

ah go for it bumper

And once again I'd like to nail the myth that smaller babies are easier to "get out". Not true.

quite right elasticwoman, not true at all.

I haven't had any negative comments (yet) when bf DD. She is only 12 days old and my mum and dad think it's wonderful that I am bf. My in laws haven't said anything for or against it, I dont think they would dare say anytghing negative anyway. Not that I care what they think. DH loves to wacth DD feeding, he is really supportive.

In M&S cafe I was so worried about this, I decided to do it early) DD was 8 days old and my mum was with us and I fed her there. 3 little old ladies commented on how lovely it was to see DD being fed, and that I should pat myself on my back

I will now feed where ever and when ever.

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When my MIL commented that she was suprided I breatsfed in public my Great Aunt who was visiting quipped " Whats the problem you Europeans love getting your boobs out"

Shreksmrs: When my dd was on her first solids at 5 months or so, I was astonished when an aged aunt wanted to offer her cake! Crumbly Victoria sandwich! But at least she didn't press the point when I refused.

Re the sugar: in the 50s before there was easy access to formula milk, some doctors used to recommend their own formula for mothers to make up at home with ordinary cow's milk and added sugar. (Forget if there was anything else in it.)

Sitting here typing whilst DS2 feeds I have to tell you about my mothers classic comment said in all seriousness .... well actually she's said most of the above about bottles, getting enough, bottles, etc etc....

DS2 was 2 weeks old (for background info I have an age gap of 6 years between middle and third child and am now approaching the end of my thirties)

'Well I suppose you are quite lucky that your milk has not gone off now that you are so much older. '

The things I have to contend with, it would be enough to send a weaker person over the edge !

Out of interest I asked my DD aged 10, if she thought she would BF, and without hesitation said 'of course... why wouldn't I ?' So a tick in the box there me thinks. She's not taken with the idea of using real nappies so I might have to work on that one

i've been lucky really and seem to have escaped negative comments.... amazing as dd is now 15mths. i did however have an indirect comment recently, via my mum when a friend of hers asked if i was still bfing. when mum replied, yes, i was, her friend commented that she thought it was more for me now, than dd