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Infant feeding

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When should my milk come in?

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Pixiefish · 04/11/2007 07:29

I thought it was day 3.

dd2 is now 3 days ld and i have just had a totally sleepless night. Tried to feed her but nothing there. this has gone on all night and as it was a saturday i couldnt send dh anywhere for emergency supplies to keep us going.

Am at wits end. I can't remember when it came in with dd1 but I think it was longer than 3 days. Lost a lot of blood in labour, had 2 transfusions. don't actually know if i have any colostrum as i have failed to get any out.

Shall i send dh to shop this morning just to feed her till my milk comes in

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SuperMonkey · 04/11/2007 07:34

I was in exactly the same position and I fed DS some formula in the end out of desperation. When my MW came round she assured me that he would have been getting colostrum, even though I couldn't get any out and that the third night was always the most difficult. Your milk should be in any time and he will be fine if you wait, but on the other hand you might be at the end of your tether! I felt like I had failed with the BFing by giving him formula but she comforted me that I hadn't done any harm and at least it had given me some rest!

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Pixiefish · 04/11/2007 07:39

she's been screaming all night and i feel crap that she's probably hungry. i'm trying to feed her, she latches on and then comes off which i s what makes me think i've nothing there

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lemonaidtreasonandplot · 04/11/2007 07:39

Typically about three to five days, but can be a week. You don't need to supplement in the meantime -- it's very difficult to express colostrum, especially if DD2 is at the breast all the time, so not being able to express any isn't much of a guide. Their stomachs are still tiny at this age so she doesn't need to be getting much each time anyway.

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Pixiefish · 04/11/2007 07:44

but what about her screaming all night? is that not a sign that there's nothing there for her. Am also worried that my milk just won't come in

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JARM · 04/11/2007 07:45

oh mate, no advice, but lots of hugs.

All I can suggest is letting her suckle away as much as she wants, lots of skin to skin contact.

Hopefully one of the clever BF lot will be here soon to help you xxx

CorrieDale · 04/11/2007 07:57

Poor you. The third night is typically one of the hardest. The screaming and sucking and feeling as though there's nothing there is pretty typical. Sorry. It's one of the things I WAS warned about in my antenatal classes, which made it easier to cope with. Also I was in hospital at the time and had heard other women going through their third night on the previous nights. Call a BFC if you're concerned about the latch but I wouldn't supplement. Not yet. I had to express colostrum in hospital and it was bloody difficult but there was certainly some there for DS.

And I didn't even know when my milk had come in - a week after the birth I was still fretting and a MW said 'well if you're not sure, check for yourself', I gave the nipple a squirt and sure enough, my milk was well in.

iris66 · 04/11/2007 08:31

Pixie I do feel for you. I had this with DS and was in bits. Try to relax (difficult I know) and trust your body. Can you just stay in bed for a morning and get DH to take DD out for a couple of hours whilst you just keep LO at the breast. The more she sucks the better, even if she keeps coming off (she's having to learn too). Give your MW/labour ward a call for some reassurance. Is your MW due out today?

mandymac · 04/11/2007 08:40

It was day 4 for me. I remember it because night 3 was such a 'mare' - no sleep for my or DH, due to crying, fretting DD and then the inlaws all rolled up first thing in the morning (just as my milk came in) - oh joy! .

We didn't suppliment and dd was fine and it was a really hot time of the year.

TheBlonde · 04/11/2007 08:44

With my second I didn't get that engorged feeling so my milk actually came in without me noticing it - it was about day 4 from what I can recall

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Pixiefish · 04/11/2007 08:59

ta all.
Mw due out today but no idea what time.

Touch of the baby blues as well I think

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Pixiefish · 04/11/2007 09:00

she was born at 5.08am on thursday morning so she was actualy 'just' 3 days old this morning iyswim although last night was the third night

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mmelody · 04/11/2007 09:38

Mine didn't come in till end of day four and was very stressful as my LO was just like yours. Keep putting her to the breast, it WILL happen soon.

tiktok · 04/11/2007 11:17

pixie, this is a crap time for you

There are many reasons why your baby is distressed, but 'no milk' is the least likely of them. Not getting colostrum out manually is not unusual - does not indicate the absence of it for the baby.

Keep your baby skin to skin with you so she is comforted by being close.

Today will be a better day.

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Pixiefish · 04/11/2007 11:27

thank you all.

I have slept this morning, dd is feeding now, she's had a wet nappy and she's having a dirty meconium nappy every day.
she has also slept all morning.

Even though she's my second and everybody thinks it's easier second time we still have insecurities don't we

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tiktok · 04/11/2007 11:38

This is a good account of what a baby might be experiencing in these very early days, and why they cry and show signs of distress.

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Pixiefish · 04/11/2007 11:41

fab tiktok.
She's sleeping with me but i was putting her on th bed so as the article says it's away from the breast.

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moondog · 04/11/2007 11:57

Oh Pixie!!!!
Llongyfarchiadau !!

Just keep her close like Tiktok says.
You do know that the queen of breastfeeding, Sharon Breward, runs a drop in clinic in Bethesda don't you?

She is God.

JARM · 04/11/2007 11:59

thinking of you pixie - really hope dd2 settles soon.

i think this is the mistake i made with DD1 and she ended up on bottles from 4 days old

ill be in the same situation soon and you will be able to tell me it will soon pass!!!

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Pixiefish · 04/11/2007 15:41

mw has been. feel loads better. mw expressed some colostrum so at least i 'know' i'm not starving her. i know i was being irrational but who said being a parent was easy

THANK YOU ALL for your words of support and encouragement. It meant/means a lot

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Pixiefish · 04/11/2007 19:04

fab hv just moved to cfon- working on some of the things you do- galeri- helen heywood- she is fabtastic bf counsellor-the best, common sense attitude to everything

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moondog · 04/11/2007 22:13

Oh gwych!
I don't know her.Is she newish?
Our Arwyddo ar Gan is growing brilliantly by the way. Chief Exec. of Mudiad Ysgolion Meithrin expressed interest in buying it.
We have won grants for lots more community based sessions in the Spring. Would be good timing if you care to join us.

JARM · 04/11/2007 22:15

im getting lost with all these welsh words coming out!

Hope things have settled a little pixie, take care ok x

moondog · 04/11/2007 22:16

lol
When are you due then JARM?

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