what would you say to a pregnant friend that said they just dont fancy bf and dont want to try

[robinredbreast]

yea one of my friends is pg doesnt like the idea of bf and says she doesnt want to try either
not that sh thinks its gross or weird or anything ,just simply doesent want to do it

prebaby i wouldnt of even thought anything of it as tbh i didnt really know anything about bf
id heard brest is best
but i didnt know why or anything
now i know how benefical bf is
should i try to v gently encourage her ?
or is it best to not really say anything ?

shes 37 weeks 1st baby

wildpatch, that would come across as extremely patronising.

Some women don't want to bf b/c they have been sexually abused in some way.

Who knows what can of worms you could open if you speak out of turn?

ooh i'd definately leave her alone on this one and let her decide for herself. its her baby, her life. and yes the baby will be fine if mum decides to give formula.

robinredbreast would you like someone to discuss formula feeding with you, which brand,how to prepare it, sterilising bottles - maybe not?so why assume your mate wants you to discuss BF. her baby up to her. the information is out there if she choses not to BF, so be it. danger u come over all preachyholier than thou, it is a contentious issue, tricky to be tactful

Scottish, i think the working of your post was rather harsh there, don't you?

was not meant to be - apologies if seems that way to robinredbreast

scot mummy no worries
but if i was planing on ff when pregnant i wont mind someone showing me how to steralise or make up bottles etc
it really would not offend me at all
id pleased someone would be bothered to helpme as i know you dont get much help from the mw

im not trying to boss said friend around,why the hell would i she is a friend
just want her to know that im here to help if she chooses
thats all

thing is...is the information REALLY out there?
I mean, yes, one hears it over and over...Breast is best...and it's like a mantra of some kind...but because people, that are pro breastfeeding are to bloody scared they could offend, the message usually is diluted with a ...but if you formula feed that is just perfectly fine too...
which brings sort of the assumption around that there isn't really much of a differentce between breastmilk and formula milk, and there are PLENTY of people believing this is the case...so, why would someone then want to make the decision to breastfeed, when it really doesn't matter anyway...