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desperate plea for help from hosp bed

38 replies

Tutter · 20/07/2007 08:35

sorry, bbbrief as hard to type with patientline

ds2 born 10am on 18th. i was nil by mouh for 30 plus hrs and went theate. fark all sleep so far.

ds2 haas been on the breeast a lot. good latch but v fussy

am guessing he's had next to nothing from me (dry nappies) ue to all of the above and worried about milk coming in

don't want to top up but eqqually am upset tha he''s upset. v little sleep for him too, he's just at the breast or crying, or both

staff here too busy to help

would love advicee,

a very tutter

ps sorry for typing

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massivebigpantsface · 20/07/2007 08:38

firstly, congratulations on ds2, sorry you are so worried though. I'm not an expert but weithout doublt there'll be plenty on the way.
hurrah for mn even from your hosp bed!
hope things go ok.

massivebigpantsface · 20/07/2007 08:43

sure they'll be along soon
just thinking, have you/can you have plenty of fluids yourself now?
when i had dd she was latched on about 90% of the time untl milk came in on the 5th day.

chopster · 20/07/2007 08:43

congratulations! jsut keep putting him to the breast. The more he suckles, the quicker your milk will come in. And try to drink tons of water to rehydrate yourself. I actually coslept with three of mine even in hospital. Kept the bars up, and padded with blankets.

If you lay on your side and lay him down beside you you should be able to feed lying down, which means you can rest and doze a bit too. when dd was newborn she used to feed like this and even managed to relatch her self on afew times while I was asleep!

slinkyjo · 20/07/2007 08:43

you have to put you and ds2 first before the rights and wrongs of feeding, ds2 is going to find it hard to fed if your stressed out and sometime brest just doesnt work i bf my dd for 6 weeks but then had to bf as she wasnt taking to the breast, just hope your ok

FlameDelacour · 20/07/2007 08:44

Oh Tutter

Methinks your body is just a mess with the theatre, nil by mouth and everything else. Don't all newborn nappies feel dry though? I remember having to do the cotton wool inside DS's as I didn't think he was weeing, and even then it didn't help as he pooed on it .

Your milk will probably come in tomorrow (based on my whole experience of me ), along with baby blues which is hitting today/tomorrow.

Hassle the staff - they may be busy, but YOU are what they are meant to be busy with too.

tiktok · 20/07/2007 08:45

Tutter - your baby is so very new, and your milk will not have come in yet. Most mothers find it comes in on day 2-4. Staff should not be too busy to help with something as fundamental as getting feeding going.

Babies age 2 days may well not wee enough to make much impact on a disposable nappy. Put a muslin or cotton wool in the nappy and you will see more easily what's happening.

It is normal for babies to be on the breast a lot at this stage, not just for the colostrum but for the closeness and familiarity, and holding him close and skin to skin with you between times will comfort and soothe him.

Unless he shows clinical signs, it would be totally unnecessary to give formula....your milk (colostrum at this stage) and your closeness is what he needs most

If you need help from the midwives you may need to get assertive - OTOH, maybe all is well, and they are leaving you to it 'cos you are actually doing fine

morningpaper · 20/07/2007 08:51

Oh tutter poor old you, being in hospital is so stressful and so lonely

we are all thinking of you

Babytutter is a good size (7lb 6?) so try not to worry. You are still in Hormone Crazy Hell and your poor ego is taking a battering. Babytutter's tummy is SOOO tiny tiny and he will undoubtedly be getting enough for now and your milk will come in very soon. Keep drinking and eating to keep your strength up and try to rest yourself.

Chin up mousling xxx

motherinferior · 20/07/2007 08:53

I agree with titkok and morningpaper!

You poor love. xxxxxxxx.

motherinferior · 20/07/2007 08:54

I reckon your milk will come in with a BOIINNNNGGGG tomorrow or the next day.

GryffindorGHOSTY · 20/07/2007 08:57

Jumping on the back of tiktok, MP and MI ...
Did you have a c/s then tutter? My milk came in on Day 4 after my c/s's ...
Poor you ...
{{{}}}

EscapeFrom · 20/07/2007 08:57

I think maybe your milk will come in tomorrow - both babies, mine came in after 3 days precisely.

Congratulations lovely Tutter - sorry I wasn't more helpful

littlelapin · 20/07/2007 08:58

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mytwopenceworth · 20/07/2007 08:58

Congratulations Tutter! Sorry you are feeling anxious, glad you have had v good advice here below. Give your baby a cuddle from me. I'm broody just thinking about him! I bet he's got that wonderful baby smell. I love that.

It will all be fine. Take care, try to rest!

Give him another squeeze from me now.

FlameDelacour · 20/07/2007 09:00

lol @ boooooooooooooooing

I'll never forget asking DH to bring me in a top (I had all pjs with me and wanted real clothes), and he managed to bring in the vest top with the most twang in it possible - was ready to thump him because it squished the milk filled norks sooo much.

MadEyemarthamooDy · 20/07/2007 09:02

Oh poor you - it's so horrible being in hospital (I was in for 10 days with ds1 and 3 with ds2 and I didn't feel at all like myself while I was in there). Lack of sleep will not be helping your state of mind.

Nothing to add to Tiktok's advice, really, re the breast-feeding - but wanted to reiterate that you might have to shout a bit louder for help. I think when you are on baby no.2 the midwives can sometimes think you're OK - I felt very much "left to get on with it" with ds2 and, in fact, spent the whole second night weeping over him only to read the comment in my notes the following morning "Mum self-cared all night. No problems. Doing well." I didn't feel like I was doing well at all!

Oh, I really feel for you, I remember it so well. That little mouse will be OK and so will you.

EffiePerine · 20/07/2007 09:11

Where are you? Can you get a bf counsellor out to visit, just for your peace of mind?

Hope things will improve soon - sounds like you're doing all the right things despite all the stress

determination · 20/07/2007 09:13

yep tutter, your doing great. keep it up. LOADS of skin to skin and LOADS of nursing your milk will come in soon. Likw tiktok said no topups unless absolutely clinically necessary. I would actually ask to speak to the consultant regarding this if its mentioned.. as more often than not the SHO's and Registrars dont have a clue

FirenzeandZooey · 20/07/2007 09:14

Tutter

I love you (don't expect that helps really )

throw money at it, speak to a bf counsellor on the phone today and see if they think they should come out to you

meandmyflyingmachine · 20/07/2007 09:16

Hang on in there.

It was like this for me and ds. Post delivery drama, no food, no sleep, ds on breast all the time, seemingly to no avail, and when not feeding he was yelling. But it was all fine. Milk didn't come in 'til day 5, and when it did I relaxed so much more.

Just keep doing what you're doing.

And some babies take ages to wee. Dd, with whom I had no such problems and who fed like starved thing from the moment she was out, didn't wee until she was three days old. Not one drop. But boy, when that first nappy came...

Take care.

HuwEdwards · 20/07/2007 09:17

Tutter - listen to what the other have said - you'll be taking someone's eye out with your norks in a day or two.

DD2 was like this and I just felt she was getting nothing. Exhausting, isn't it?

As soon as I got home had breasts the size of brazil (slight exaggeration). Unfortunately, now they're walnuts (no exaggeration).

Wags · 20/07/2007 09:25

Does your hosptial have any BF councellors there or any attached to the hospital that you could ring and get to come in? Our hospital has them on site and they would come and sit with me (I was very lucky I think hearing other peoples experiences). I had both mine by CS on a Wed and milk (and tears) definately didn't come in until the Saturday. Hope it starts to improve for you, so stressful and worrying but sounds like you are doing all you can. Feel for you

callmeovercautious · 20/07/2007 09:45

Tutter - Firstly Congratulations!!!!

The first few days I was a mess, DD spent the whole time latched to me or shouting to be latched on. It is normal if somewhat exhausting [understatment emoticon]
Keep going and if his latch is good he will be fine when your milk comes in. Some babies just get compfort from the suckling and hate being taken off.
Let us know how you get on.

gringottsgoblin · 20/07/2007 10:16

sounds very like when ds4 was born, crash section, no food for 2 days. my milk took a lot longer to come in than normal, think it was about day 5 and even then it didnt arrive with a bang, it took a couple of weeks to get going properly. he didnt regain birthweight til over 3 weeks after he was born, one mw said to ff as i def wasnt producing enough, thankfully i came on here and everyone said persevere and we are still excl. bf at 5 months. i have never know it be so difficult to get going, the other 3 were easy.

it will be fine, just keep plodding on. agree with who said to feed lying on side so you can doze, i didnt sleep at all in hospital he just wanted to feed all the time but it does get better. i spent a couple of weeks on the sofa at night, half dozing, half watching dvds, i found lying in bed not being able to sleep was really stressful. it was a huge relief to get out of hospital, things improved massively as soon as i was home. good luck, i really feel for you

but congrats on your lovely new ds

meandmyflyingmachine · 20/07/2007 10:19

Oh yes. Lying on your side. The midwives would tuck ds in next to me,and we would lie there, him sucking away, me dozing.

hoxtonchick · 20/07/2007 10:20

hello tutter

i had a small pph after i had dd & my milk didn't come in until day 5. those were a looooong 5 days, but we got through it & i fed her for 18 months. please try not to stress.

xxx