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Please tell me why I'm continuing to bf ds 'til a year & beyond!

28 replies

GreebosWhiskers · 27/05/2007 18:18

I know that sounds strange & I know that it's the best thing for him but my mum was horrified on Tuesday when she found out that's what I intend & tried to talk me into giving up now he's 6 months saying that I've already given him a good start.

I just mumbled something about it still being better for him than formula/cow's milk even after a year but I'd love to be able to give her a proper list of reasons when she asks again (which I'm sure she will).

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lljkk · 27/05/2007 18:27

Because formula is fake human milk so why not give him the real stuff if you can?

Because you don't mind breastfeeding?

Because you can't be arsed to learn to use formula now if you don't have to?

Because real human milk is cheaper to make, always sterile, and the longer you give it, the lower will be your risk of various cancers later in life?

Honestly, if those reasons aren't good enough I don't know what will be. Just smile sweetly and remember you can't please everybody. She had her chance to raise kids how she pleased, it's your turn now.

CorrieDale · 27/05/2007 18:34

It's free. That was always my number one. Also, having gone through the hassle and pain of learning how to bf, you might as well reap the benefits now it's got to be so easy and convenient and just plain enjoyable for both of you. Must admit I really like lljkk's final reason - she did it her way now you're doing it yours.

belgo · 27/05/2007 18:35

Because bfing is relaxing for you.
It's convenient for you.
I could eat chocolate and still got my figure back - but only after I'd been bfing more then a year.

and all the reasons for your ds as well.

GiantSquirrelSpotter · 27/05/2007 18:40

Here's a useful Dr Sears response about bf over the age of 1

www.parenting.com/parenting/child/article/0,19840,1220096,00.html

GiantSquirrelSpotter · 27/05/2007 18:40

Oops

www.parenting.com/parenting/child/article/0,19840,1220096,00.html

GiantSquirrelSpotter · 27/05/2007 18:41

One here from treehugger mums

www.treehuggermums.co.uk/articles/breastfeeding/article.php?article=107

choosyfloosy · 27/05/2007 18:41

God, you've established bf, it's all going swimmingly (I presume) and your ds is flourishing, and now your mum wants you to do all the faff of bottlefeeding? Why? It is an immense faff. And still much more of a risk re gut infections, though i can't give your references on that i'm afraid.

I'm afraid the only response from me would be, why on earth does she think you should change?

My MIL and dm were quite a factor in my not doing too well with bf, although i take responsibility too. So i feel quite angry when these sorts of comments are made. My sister is going through much the same sort of thing atm.

aquababe · 27/05/2007 18:43

approx 500 Calories a day
No messing around with bottles cleaning sterilising etc
lovely big boobs

Why would you want to pay for something That is of inferior quality
You never forget your boobs
It's the easiest way to make your dc feel better after an accident.

and they're just the tip of the iceberg.

belgo · 27/05/2007 18:44

lol at you never forget your boobs!

missgriss · 27/05/2007 18:44

I would have bf for over a year but dd decided at 11 months she couldn't be arsed with it anymore and would rather nip me instead

Hey Greebos, Ava has got her first two teeth through this weekend. About bloody time!

GiantSquirrelSpotter · 27/05/2007 18:44

Am on a roll here - this one's from that woman who did the Channel 4 programme
www.themothermagazine.co.uk/extraordinarybreastfeeding.html

FrannyandZooey · 27/05/2007 18:44

benefits of extended breastfeeding

This is talking about babies who are over a year but all the reasons are relevant to you as well

lyrabelacqua · 27/05/2007 18:45

Why would you want to start making up feeds and sterilising bottles at this stage? it's free, it's easy' it's portable, you don't need any paraphernalia to do it, it's the best thing for him.
I hate this attitude that we should all give up at 6 months, like the Government guidelines were the only reason for doing it.
I bf both my DSs till they were a year and a half.

bionicley · 27/05/2007 18:47

It is a myth that breastfeeding a baby after 12 months is of little value because the quality of breast milk declines after six months. The fact is that the composition of human milk changes to meet the changing needs of the baby as he matures. Even when a baby is able to take solids, human milk is the primary source of nutrition during the first year. It becomes a supplement to solids during the second year. In addition, it takes between two and six years for a child?s immune system to fully mature. Human milk continues to complement and boost the immune system for as long as it is offered.
(American Academy of Pediatrics Policy Statement on Breastfeeding and the Use of Human Milk 1997, 1035-39; Goldman 1983, 461-62, Gulick 1986, 51-54; Innocenti Declaration on the protection, promotion and support of breastfeeding. 1991, 271-73, Mohrbacher 1997, 164-68; Saarinen 1982, 567-71.)

In most periods of history and in most parts of the world babies have been breastfed for years rather than months - two to four years being the general norm (Mead, M. and Newton, N. Cultural patterns of perinatal behaviour in Childbearing: Its Social and Psychological Aspects, ed. S Richardson and Guttmacher, A. Baltimore, Maryland: Williams & Wilkins Company 1967.)

The World Health Organisation recommends two years or more.

Breastfed babies are dependent on mother for both food and comfort. This dependency frightens a culture that places a high value on self-sufficiency. A breastfed baby who will not be satisfied with anyone other than his own mother is looked upon as a liability, when in reality he just knows he needs his mum to develop in all dimensions.
What is there to be gained by abruptly putting an end to breastfeeding? You meet the need and it goes away.
Fewer illnesses are reported in breastfeeding children. Breastfeeding is a ready source of comfort and nourishment when a child is ill and can often take no other food. Breastfeeding provides a natural outlet for sucking that promotes proper oral development which has been found to improve speech.

Continued breastfeeding also has advantages for the mother. Lactation suppresses the nervous system?s hormonal response to stress, which is why many women recognise that they feel calmer and better able to cope with whatever comes along during the time they are breastfeeding. There is a decreased risk of breast cancer, with the greatest risk reduction seen in women whose total amount of breastfeeding for one or more children totals several years. It is convenient and cheaper.

How about you both enjoy it? And that there are more than 13000 research studies establishing the risks associated with giving formula.

MOTHERING YOUR NURSING TODDLER by Norma Jane Bumgarner is well worth reading.

lyrabelacqua · 27/05/2007 18:47

A lot of older people seem to think it's weird and unnatural to bf.

GiantSquirrelSpotter · 27/05/2007 18:47

This one's from La Leche

www.lalecheleague.org/FAQ/advantagetoddler.html

choosyfloosy · 27/05/2007 18:49

my mum and an awful lot of her generation (births in the 60s, maybe older than yours ) were often, often told that they couldn't breastfeed, often in so many words. The implication or direct message was often that formula was better, scientific etc. I'm sure you know all that!

Turn it round and ask her more about her experiences of birth and bf? Can be a little tricky if she had a bad time but it's always interesting.

aquababe · 27/05/2007 18:54

bionicley: did not know that about stress. best not tell my dh as he'll have me breast feeding next dc forever..

domesticgrumpess · 27/05/2007 19:01

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danceswithbaby · 27/05/2007 20:40

My 15 month old feeds like a newborn. My mother thinks I'm some sort of pervert. When she askes why I don't try her with cow's milk I usually reply "she isn't a cow".

pistachio · 27/05/2007 20:49

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PondLife · 27/05/2007 21:09

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Astrophe · 27/05/2007 21:09

I was just about to start a similar thread, but my DS is 15 months.

My friend who is a doctor said yesterday that "he gets no real benefit now - they only get all the fatty acids and antibodies until about 6 months".

I felt like a fool and just said "oh...um...yeah, I know...but its an easy way to get him to sleep" and then felt even more foolish and like a real sell out...I'm pretty sure what she said is wrong...or is it?

rowan1971 · 27/05/2007 21:12

Astrophe - read the web links below. Sounds like your friend is talking nonsense - and why is s/he undermining your choices, anyway?

I love the term 'full-term breastfeeding', as used by the C4 woman. Will start using that, I think.

fishie · 27/05/2007 21:16

i am (oh why do we have to say it) still feeding ds at 2.1. i don't mention it much, often find that it makes people who ff uncomfortable and even worse someone might disapprove and then i'd have to punch them.

carry on greeboswhiskers, it is very easy for no-one else to know about it if that makes it easier

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