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Infant feeding

Get advice and support with infant feeding from other users here.

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Breastfeeding toddlers and beyond

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Pluckedpencil · 26/11/2017 07:07

Starting a thread for all those tenacious ladies who are continuing to feed their little massive bundles of joy from a year and beyond.
I am a mum of two and have had my fair share of cracked nipples, weird comments in parks, acrobatic toddlers and breastfeeding multitasking. My nearly two year old is still feeding and my six year old has stopped now, although it was resurrected yesterday when he was crying with tummy pain!
Not an expert or even peer supporter but I'm sure those ladies will come along soon too!!

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Pluckedpencil · 30/11/2017 20:46

Might just be natural regulations Ng, like when you first start getting periods?

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OrchidFlakes · 04/12/2017 11:00

Hi, can I join? My eldest DS naturally night weaned about 2ys 3 months and stopped completely by 2.5. I was pregnant and think the change in milk spurred him on.

DS2 is now 2.5 and only feeds to sleep and overnight but the night wake ups are starting to get to me. Any suggestions for night weaning or ride it out longer? I feel like I have no clue how to navigate this.

Plasticgold · 04/12/2017 18:34

When I night weaned DD I told her that mummy's boobies had to go to sleep at nighttime now. We talked about it lots during the day and I said I'd give her a drink of water, sing songs and rub her back if she woke. The first night was hard. She cried lots but I knew she was ok, I was with her.

The second night she had a sip of water and went back to sleep. The third night she didn't wake.

I tried hard to be responsive, she came into our bed. I felt like not allowing her access to me wouldn't help but I know some people find that DH doing it is better. My DH works shifts so I needed her to settle for me without bf.

Tableauz · 04/12/2017 23:34

I'm in the process of night weaning and tonight is night 4. I haven't caved yet even though it is tempting. We had a lot of tears (screaming even) on the first night. Last night we had a 4am wake up, a 20 minute cuddle in my bed and she went back to hers until 7.30am. It was a revelation!

sozmix · 05/12/2017 20:49

Glad I have found this thread. My 2.2 year is boob mad and I keep telling myself she’ll stop when she’s ready but I’m starting to feel like that could be never!?

Also I really need to night wean. People with 6 month old babies are getting more sleep than me!

moonmaker · 06/12/2017 13:11

My 21 month old is on the boob for most of the night and day too 🤨

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Pluckedpencil · 06/12/2017 13:16

It does end, but it might not be as soon as you'd like. Mine was around 3, it might be sooner or a bit later than that though. It's a shame so few people get to this stage these days so we have so little information among real life peers!!!

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KalaLaka · 07/12/2017 12:39

sozmix I'm not sure mine would have self weaned at all! I actively weaned them at 3, after reducing for a year. I hope it's not too tiring for you.

tableauz me too! Night 4 was when it clicked for my baby too, after insanely awful nights 2 and 3. On week 2 ish and it varies from night to night, but I'm so happy I've done it. I hope it's going well for you.

SpaceDinosaur · 09/12/2017 00:59

Ooooh! Can I join? I'm checking in a bit early as madam will be 1 at the end of the year.

Her current best trick is standing on my lap and twerking whilst going "mmmmmmm" and some kind of "boobnastics" where she tries to twist me so her head is upside down...

Tortycat · 27/12/2017 21:25

Interesting finding this thread. Currently still feeding my 17 month old. He still wakes multiple times in the night for a feed. I can jusr about manage this but hate being used for ages as a dummy. I've started to stopvhim after a while which can result in a lot of tears, but i really do need some more sleep. In the day he's variable - can feed once or twice but always before nap and at bedtime. Ideally I'd like to reduce to before bed and waking. I have no idea if this is possible or how to go about it! I dont like the idea of leaving him crying but i am getting really fed up at night. Co sleep still.

I never had a similar problem with ds1 as we combination fed and he self weaned about 13 months. Any advice from you ladies?

totaldiva · 27/12/2017 22:04

This thread is great. I'm feeding my 2.5 year old, never imagined I'd be a long term breastfeeder.

Thankfully I seem to have night and day weaned! I only feed her at bedtime and nap time (if she has one). She does often wake in the night but she's happy enough to come in with us. She does always ask but I just say, "no, boobies sleeping!" Thankfully she's never got upset about it.

Tortycat · 27/12/2017 22:44

Total diva - was that planned or accidental? If planned how did you go about it and when?

Tableauz · 27/12/2017 22:50

I've finally managed to night wean my 2.5 year old as the constant waking was exhausting me and her. However she is still waking. I just pop her in our bed and she goes back to sleep but DH says we're making a rod for our own backs nit persevering with getting her back into her own bed. I'd rather be getting sleep though after so long of waking to feed than a night of battles when she just wants to be near me. I might not feed her at night but she says she can smell my boobie so I think she probably takes comfort in that!

IfYouDontImagineNothingHappens · 27/12/2017 23:07

Oh hello. This is a nice thread. Feeding an older 2 year old. Generally mornings and evenings unless something goes tits up during the day (or down if you are a long term feeder ).

totaldiva · 28/12/2017 21:19

Total diva - was that planned or accidental? If planned how did you go about it and when?
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Tortycat* I don't feel I can really take the credit! We had a few nights where she slept through and a few mornings where I was up before her because of work so when she woke in the night I just said "boobies sleeping" and she seemed to accept that as long as she was in next to me.

Randomname85 · 04/06/2021 20:19

Sorry to open up an old thread but keen to find some more people recently feeding older children 🙂

I’m still feeding my daughter (4.5) and I have aversion on and off, not terrible but I’m definitively not enjoying it anymore. She sort of self weaned when I was pregnant with number 2 as my milk dried up but as soon as I came home with the baby she realised the milk bar was back open! It’s been a tough time for her getting used to her new sibling so I was never going to refuse, but she would breastfeed ALL day if she could. I don’t really know who to talk to about it as my loved ones don’t seem to understand the emotional connection my daughter has with it. I’ve tried weaning books and talking to her about stopping and her lip starts to quiver and she says ‘but why do I have to stop I love milkies’. It’s pretty heartbreaking.

Anyone else in the same/similar boat? 🙂

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