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Original poster

OMG, you'd think I was feeding my 3 week old fruit shoots and cheeese strings by the reaction I got a playgroup this morning.....

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LadyTophamHatt · 07/02/2007 13:16

beacuse I was giving him a bottle.....

I actually heard myslef justifying it over and over and pointing out about 2000 times that actually the bottle was full of EBM.

FFS the BF mafia has followed me to east sussex....

Honestly, the looks I got were shocking.....and I was embarrassed to be sitting there feeding him wih a bottle.
Yes, Embarrassed....WTF!!!

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bubblerock · 07/02/2007 13:19

Did you ask them what the problem was?

dejags · 07/02/2007 13:19

poor you LTH.

Take no notice. You know what's in his bottle and that's all that counts.

I can sympathise though as I have been through this a few times with the DS's.

auntymandy · 07/02/2007 13:19

why dont people mind their own business!!

LIZS · 07/02/2007 13:20

You should n't have to justify yourself . How is the expressing/bf going otherwise ?

Twiglett · 07/02/2007 13:20

ebm you say?

prove it or walk the plank

pmsl

TeeCee · 07/02/2007 13:21

Are you sure people were looking at you in shock / disgust?
Do you think it was some sort of in-built guilt chip that made you think people were looking at you in shock for giving him a bottle?
Just a thought??????

Pruni · 07/02/2007 13:23

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Miaou · 07/02/2007 13:23

Oh and lth - I get so riled with this kind of attitude!!

Come up here where b/f is as rare as tits on a bull (Miaou ponders the appropriateness of this phrase) - you'll find the breastfeeders apologising for being too attached to their babies or some such excuse

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LadyTophamHatt · 07/02/2007 13:25

Ohhh no TC, deffo horror/disgust.

I had 2 great comments...."Oh you've stopped BFing already then??"

and

"Thats not formula in there is it??"

Both siad in a nice way admittedly but still.....

There was a woman sitting e few chairs along who was BFing and he superior gaze at me made me want to jab her in the eyes!!

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Original poster
LadyTophamHatt · 07/02/2007 13:26

Ohhh no TC, deffo horror/disgust.

I had 2 great comments...."Oh you've stopped BFing already then??"

and

"Thats not formula in there is it??"

Both siad in a nice way admittedly but still.....

There was a woman sitting e few chairs along who was BFing and her superior gaze at me made me want to jab her in the eyes!!

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sandyballs · 07/02/2007 13:26

Blimey, things must have changed hugely since I bottle fed my twins 5-6 years ago. How awful.

DizzyBint · 07/02/2007 13:27

know what you mean there miaou- at baby group i used to find myself telling how i just couldn't stop breastfeeding because dd wouldn't take a bottle, so really i had no option at all and was doing it reluctantly. i was the only one bfing.

Twiglett · 07/02/2007 13:27

I do think, in all seriousness, that there's an amount of hormonal interpretation going on here LTH

honestly whenever I fed my babies my eyes would glance around the room .. I never had anything in my head though

most people in RL don't give 2hoots how you feed your baby just how they feed their own

put down the milk and back away

lulumama · 07/02/2007 13:28

LTH-- tell them it is hungry baby milk, with a rusk mixed in,make him sleep better !!

grrrrr......

aquasea · 07/02/2007 13:30

That's horrific! People shouldn't judge. There are some people who just can't bf... and those who choose not to. What's gives these people the right to comment?

ItsMeMellowma · 07/02/2007 13:32

Its terrible...I usedto feel the same when feeding my ds's, used to get asked:

"Oh so your not feeding him yourself, then??

Me: No I send him next door every time he is due a feed

determination · 07/02/2007 13:34

Or... "you think the bottle is bad?!, theres also some whiskey in it as he ain't sleeping enough for me!" That should shut them up..

Gee,, why does people not just live their own lives??

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LadyTophamHatt · 07/02/2007 13:34

I knew it would happen though, He normally has the EBM bottle at dinnertime as it takes all day to fill the bottle but I had a good expressing day yesterday so had extra.
I took the EBM so that I could say it's EBM in the bottle.

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dejags · 07/02/2007 13:34

Oh I just love the "so you aren't feeding him yourself then" line.

That and "are you still feeding him yourself?".

stupid arse questions to be sure, but not meant in a derogatory way (most of the time anyway).

LIZS · 07/02/2007 13:35

Agree with Twig that you may be reading more into those comments and looks than was intended. ie the "that's not formula" probably it didn't look like formula (ebm doesn't !) . The b'fed baby may not take the odd bottle which that mother might actually envy ! It will only get to you if you let it and most importantly you know there is no foudnation for it.

ItsMeMellowma · 07/02/2007 13:35

Its good the expressing is still going well

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LadyTophamHatt · 07/02/2007 13:37

I think you're probably a bit right right about the hormones Twigg, but there was deffo some shock/horror at the sight of a 3 week old with a bottle in his mouth.

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Chandra · 07/02/2007 13:38

Being there... and then every single thing you do is not enough because the baby had a bottle, and all the good ones are not due to your good efforts but to the "unnatural" effects of formula feeding...

Funny thing is that those women care much about what you are you feeding the baby but do not want to hear about the reasons why you are feeding baby that...

Twiglett · 07/02/2007 13:38

aside: you're doing bloody well LTH aint'cha?

ItsMeMellowma · 07/02/2007 13:40

When you go next week, at the same time as feeding ds you could attach your expressing thing onto yourself...then they will know.

okay maybe not...

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