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i have just put dd to bed without breastfeeding her.....

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hoxtonchick · 19/01/2007 21:45

..... for the first time ever. she's 19 months. it was surprisingly easy actually. she is however in our bed, so i am aiming to wear a top to bed tonight .

looking forward to a reinvigoured social life!

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LadyTophamHatt · 19/01/2007 21:49
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hoxtonchick · 19/01/2007 21:49

i will send all my breastfeeding vibes to you lth . and that bloody cot!

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blueshoes · 19/01/2007 21:50

wowowowow. How did you do it? Did you speak to her beforehand? Were there tears? How did you know she was ready?

Storing this up for ds ...

LadyTophamHatt · 19/01/2007 21:55

LOLOLOL

George is the first baby I';ve had who actaully like the moses basket so I won't be talking about you behind your back for a while yet
"that bloddy HC promised DS4 a cot...and now look at him..poor thing... he's sleeping in the recycling bin in the shed"

really, don't worry, the moses basket is mahooooooosive too so it's all FABBO!

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hoxtonchick · 19/01/2007 21:56

it was a bit of a spur of the moment thing actually. dp & i had another row about me still feeding her this morning, he hasn't been that impressed since she was, ooooh, 6 months. and i'd just told him i'm going out on sunday night before bedtime. so it wasn't really fair on him to put her to bed as she kicks off (sorry, my tenses are all over the place).

i fed her during the day today, before her nap this morning & also about 5 this afternoon when she asked for it. at bedtime, we took a beaker of milk up & lay on our bed as normal. she asked for didi (her word for milk), & i just said "no more didi, didi all gone" & repeated it a few times. offered her the milk in the cup which she had a bit of. she cried a bit for b-milk, but really not much & not wholeheartedly iywkim. eventually, & after quite a bit of fidgeting, she went to sleep with me cuddling her.

part of the reason i've fed her for so long is that i was worried she'd be so upset about stopping. not so far though, which is such a relief.

hth blueshoes .

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hoxtonchick · 19/01/2007 21:57

it's my cunning ploy to turn you into a co-sleeper lth .

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kama · 19/01/2007 22:02

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fishie · 19/01/2007 22:03

hmm your dd seems to have sent vibes a litle way east - have just given ds first late evening feed in many many months

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hoxtonchick · 19/01/2007 22:03

it's ok kama. i am stopping for me. i am fed up with her feeding all night & me feeling knackered in the morning. if dp had had his way i would have stopped at 6 months like i did with ds. we are also going to carry on co-sleeping.

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hoxtonchick · 19/01/2007 22:04

whoops, sorry fishie (where are you btw?)!

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fishie · 19/01/2007 22:06

forest gate. i am super lucky though, dp does bedtime so i just sat queenlike on sofa with glass of wine while ds was attached and removed (he 21m).

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hoxtonchick · 19/01/2007 22:07

just a bit further east then.

i put ds to bed too, am supermum tonight . whilst dp cleaned the kitchen, to be fair.

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kama · 19/01/2007 22:12

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hoxtonchick · 19/01/2007 22:25

no kama, you didn't offend me. i'm an extended bfeeder, i have a steely exterior .

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hoxtonchick · 20/01/2007 12:03

well i didn't feed her all night! she woke up a fair amount, & did ask me to feed her but i remained resolute. am bloody knackered now though. i did give her a quick feed this morning, but only about 2 minutes each side & she wasn't that interested. strangely, i'm not engorged at all. weird. next challenge will be tonight.

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kiskidee · 20/01/2007 12:30

following your thread hc. dd is a proper milk monster at 21 months and we co-sleep. i can't say i have any courage to night wean at this time as, like you say, dread feeling like death warmed over the day after the first night. i am interested in your progress for future reference though!

well done so far.

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hoxtonchick · 20/01/2007 12:43

i was just saying to dp, i feel like i did when she (& her brother) were newborns. weird. she's having a lovely long nap though.... at least it's saturday. i did give her a bit of cows milk when she woke in the night, but think i might offer water tonight in the hope she decides it's not worth her while to wake up. or maybe i'm deluding myself!

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princessmel · 20/01/2007 12:46

Hi HC,

Well done. I am still feeding dd at 17months ( at least once in the night) and morning, and I can't go out unless she's already gone to bed either. She's usually asleep by 7 though so its not too bad.

We are gradually stopping the afternoon one (2.30, 3 ish)as she doesn't seem to need/want it as much now.

Our bedtimes are changing slightly too as she wants to listen to the story with dh and ds now. She isn't completely focussed on bf at bedtime now.

We have decided to do what you are doing and wait untill I can tell her thats its all gone ( in the night, first) when we are sure she understands. I'm not really in any rush to stop at the moment though. Like you I'm a bit terrified of how she'll be and I/we still like it.

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hoxtonchick · 20/01/2007 13:00

dd does have good language, so she understands when i say it's all gone. she said didi & made her sign for don't touch last night which i thought was sweet & a bit .

she has been ultra cuddly all last night & today. looking for reassurance i think, which we're very happy to provide.

i feel bad for her for stopping, but not bad for me. and she's had a good bite at the cherry....

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kiskidee · 20/01/2007 13:06

see, my dd understands all gone but her speeck is well behind her peers so that is another thing that tells me to wait.

kiskidee · 20/01/2007 13:06

oops speech.

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hoxtonchick · 20/01/2007 13:10

do what feels best for you kiskidee. i am not saying i'll never feed her again (or maybe i did, further down...), but really want to stop the nighttime. and before bed. i've hardly put ds to bed at all since dd was born & i'd really like to do so more regularly.

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princessmel · 20/01/2007 13:19

The bit about the 'don't touch' sign is a bit sad HC, but like you said you're just cutting out the night feeds which must be a good thing.
She and you, will (hopefully in the end) get lots of unbroken sleep which is always positive.

I know what you mean about putting ds to bed.
We all do bedtime together in the lounge. Dh or I read them a story whilst I'm bfeeding dd then usually dh takes him up as dd's still 'on', then I go in and kiss him when she's in bed. If she's in bed before him then I take him up.

purplemonkeydishwasher · 20/01/2007 14:02

i'm in this club too!
last night was the first night of DS not being nursed to sleep. I bf downstairs then brought him up. it was remarkably easy to get him to sleep. the trouble comes when he wakes up a half hour later and wants 'guppin' (his boobie word) but i didn't give in. he only cried for about 30 minutes or so.
HOWEVER i did feed him a couple times in bed. BUT he slept batter last night than he has in a while. it was the all-night feed-a-thon that is usually is. he only woke a couple of times.
this co-sleeping thing is a great idea til you want a full night;s sleep!! (though i wouldn't trade it, i love having my whole family in the bed!)