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Infant feeding

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10 minute feeds?

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CommanderShepherd · 25/03/2016 08:08

Just been passed over to the health visitor 2 days ago. She was asking about ds feeding, told her he could be on for 30+ minutes. She told me that after about 10 minutes he will be full or take him off and offer the other side for 10 minutes. She basically said after that point he is using me as a dummy. Just curious if anyone else has been told this. I've been doing the 10 minute feeds for the past couple of days, ds seems ok, dirty nappies are up etc

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maybebabybee · 26/03/2016 20:13

To be fair there's so much conflicting advice even amongst professionals it's ridiculous - one NCT practitioner, three breastfeeding peer supporters and four midwives have given me totally different advice.

In the end I just did what felt right for me and my baby!

tiktok · 26/03/2016 20:16

Sharon, I did not mean to insult your professionalism or your intentions or your training or your experience, and I certainly did not say, or think, you don't have a clue what you are taking about.

We're all learning, all the time, aren't we? I don't claim to be right all the time, either, but on this particular issue, I am surprised you feel so certain I have it so wrong. I explained why I think it's unhelpful to assess BF by the clock in my posts of 9.16 and 9.33.

What bits of these posts do you think I have wrong?

Why are you so very sure that feeds of 40 mins plus ( in the absence of anything else untoward, and where mother and baby are happy ) are something a baby should not be doing? By the way, I think it would be unusual for every feeding session to be more than 40 mins long, but some mothers and babies do experience them, either occasionally or as 'cluster feeds' or for a period when the baby just seems to need them, for some reason. I think it would be unhelpful for an HV or anyone else to tell her that her baby should not be doing this, and it's a sign of something wrong. You disagree, quite strongly, too.

I've explained my reasoning. What's yours?

tiktok · 26/03/2016 20:19

maybe, if your baby is happy and doing well, if you are comfortable and it 'feels right', then there is no reason whatsoever to do anything different :)

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 26/03/2016 20:22

Tiktok I'm not offended about what you say about length of feed being ok or even if you said it wasn't. It was the snarky remark about my training not 'teaching me' there was a problem with my own child. Which ftr is totally incorrect. I sought advice from various sources only to be told everything was fine maybe I was being over anxious no I don't think it could be this..and then when it was in fact admitted oh yes you are correct then waiting for the help by which point it was too late. Not once but three seperate times

SoftSheen · 26/03/2016 20:32

Ideally you should not remove the baby from the breast, but wait until he comes off naturally. Absolute nonsense to suggest timing feeds, some babies naturally feed in 5-10 minutes, others take an hour or more, many (most?) vary the length from feed to feed. Babies are good at self-regulating, and will increase their intake according to their needs . Also, suckling for comfort is a good thing!

My DC1 fed for an hour at a time every 2.5-3 hours during the day until she was about 5 months, when her feeding got more efficient. This was hard work, but she grew well, and I never had any problems with thrush, blocked ducts or anything else.

Women have been able to breastfeed for thousands of years longer than we have been able to measure the passing of time!

tiktok · 26/03/2016 21:00

I don't know what you are complaining about, sharon. You definitely said you were disagreeing with my views on 40 min plus feeds. Now you say you are resentful of something 'snarky' I said yesterday, and you are ok with what I said today. So somewhere along the line you have changed your mind :)

I didn't mean to be snarky, though on re reading, I can see it sounded a bit as if I was, especially as anyone is going to be sensitive about what happened with their own baby. I am sorry. I do think it is a shame you struggled for eight weeks, not being sure if things were normal or not, , and heaven knows, when it's our own babies, it's not easy to be sure we have it right....but better training would have helped not just on your own part but on the part of the people you asked for help (presumably among them, other hcps inc hvs).

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 26/03/2016 21:22

Like I said in my last post I KNEW something wasn't right, no bugger listened.

tiktok · 26/03/2016 22:45

Sorry to hear that, sharon.

Perhaps it's this bad personal memory that explains your vehemence now? You worry that if you don't follow a rule that 40 min-plus feeds are not what a baby should be doing, you'll be like the hcps who insisted all was well when it wasn't?

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 27/03/2016 22:15

Tiktok go away

WellErrr · 27/03/2016 22:28

sharon you're being pretty rude. Sorry but I had to say it.

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CommanderShepherd · 27/03/2016 22:57

Well thanks for derailing my post for this little pissing match. Thank you to those who did offer advice, I've decided not to 'watch the clock' like hv advised, thankfully though ds seems to not stay on more than 20 mins now

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tiktok · 27/03/2016 23:57

Hope it goes well for you, commander.

Was dragged into the pissing contest, sorry :(

sharon, I don't deserve your disapproval, but heigh ho. Maybe you'll be a bit more open to being flexible from now on :)

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 28/03/2016 18:43

Sorry. I really am just upset tbh that not only has my training been good enough to offer advice but also my own very recent personal experience. You jumped on me tiktok and were very rude and snarky. I like many others will just avoid this board now due to the attitude of certain point posters.

BingoBonkers · 28/03/2016 19:50

Commander thanks for the update!

tiktok · 28/03/2016 20:02

sharon I apologised the other day for the unintended (genuinely unintended) snark.

The rest - jumping on you? I said your rule about timed feeds was dogmatic and misleading, and I did my best to explain why this was the case, in some detail. And I thought you said that was not what you were offended about :(

But defend the rule if you disagree :) Prob best to start a new thread.

I really don't want people not to come here. I don't want them to be put off because you think i was unfair to you. I think you have been really rude and really prickly, so if people are put off, I don't think it would be my fault.

Dixiechick17 · 28/03/2016 20:49

My health visitor said feed on demand and was still happy with me doing this at six months. My DD was an effective feeder in the end and would get what she needed in ten mins but would still sometimes have a feed of epic proportions and be on there for an hour plus. I never had an issue with blocked ducts or thrush, but then everyone is different. I also only offered one boob per feed, comfort feeding was a god send at times, particularly post jabs or when under the weather.

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