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THIS IS WHY I GET PISSED OFF WITH MUMS NET SOMETIMES!!!

76 replies

amijee · 14/11/2006 14:04

Instead of helping people with genuine queries it is fast becoming a soap box ( and i'm on one now!)

I posted a thread and bumped it - and still only got one reply. Others have been in similar situations asking questions about their feeding methods. And yet, when there is something contoversial...such as nursing a 7 yr old ...or bottle vs breast feeding...there are literally hundreds of posts.

I wish these breast feeders would stop fighting their bloody corner all the time and actually help people who need help!

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Lio · 14/11/2006 14:32

Amazing good, or...

Pitchounette · 14/11/2006 14:33

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RanToTheHills · 14/11/2006 14:35

but people are on here to have fun/engage in heated debate etc not merely to dole out advice to strangers! And she did get some advice, anyway!

hunkermunker · 14/11/2006 14:36

There's only so many times you can post exactly the same advice as somebody else though.

FrannyandZucchini · 14/11/2006 14:37

I disagree

We are not paid or committed to helping out here

Most of us do, when we get time and when we are in the mood, but if people just want to sit around and shoot the breeze that is their prerogative

I think to suggest otherwise is very rude and presumptuous

would you walk into a parent and toddler group and start complaining if people didn't all immediately stop their conversations and rush over to you?

Macdog · 14/11/2006 14:38

I saw your original thread and, like many people here didn't know what to suggest as I've not been in situation.
Next time I will tell you I can't help, if it will make you feel better.
TBH, when I saw you were a GP I wondered what I knowledge I would have that you didn't.
Hope you are happy with all these replies

WelshBoris · 14/11/2006 14:38

And posting a thread title in fecking CAPITALS with SWEARING in it doesnt help your CAUSE

lockets · 14/11/2006 14:38

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KathyMCMLXXII · 14/11/2006 14:39

I really don't understand why you're annoyed. People on MN are giving advice out of kindness - it's not like people are getting paid for it. If I ask a question and I get help I'm grateful; if not, I might ask myself if I can present the question in a different way, or ask it at a different time, to get more replies.

hunkermunker · 14/11/2006 14:40

And I agree with others who've said they don't like it when people's advice is ignored and a "bump!" is posted without acknowledgment.

People in glass houses shouldn't start ranty threads, OK?

WigWamBam · 14/11/2006 14:41

Not acknowledging posts, slagging us off when you then don't get any more replies, not listening when people are trying to tell you WHY you didn't get any more replies ... mmmm, that's the way to ensure your next thread gets lots of support ...

You have lots of good replies on your original thread now, by the way. You might like to go and have a look ... don't forget to say "thank you" while you're there, hey?

lockets · 14/11/2006 14:42

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Rhubarb · 14/11/2006 14:42

I see the OP hasn't bothered to reply to messages on her own thread now.

If the board is busy then threads can get missed. I'm a regular and sometimes my threads asking for help don't get any replies too so I have to bump them.

But for all this criticism of Mumsnet I have only one answer and it lies here .

PinkTinsel · 14/11/2006 14:45

i think tbh very few people have experiance with bf and working and therefore there were very few people who could have given you a response anyway (especially during the day on a weekday when most of them would be at work!), and the few that could probably were put of by the way you bumped without aknowladging sally's extremely helpful post. very rude of you.

Flossam · 14/11/2006 14:47

Ahem - she is a GP - she will expect to find the answer to any long and complex problem within 10 minutes. Even if it is a wrong one.

This is just a joke BTW.

I too Hate it when people ignore posts and bump. I have spent time this weekend feeling guilty that I didn't respond to someone who answered a thread of mine as I had to dash to work - am off there now!

Lio · 14/11/2006 14:48

hear hear rhubarb.

RanToTheHills · 14/11/2006 14:49

thought they could all find the answer to anything using google now anyway. At least according to the Today programme

piglit · 14/11/2006 14:50

My gp doesn't listen to anything I say and is rude. Hmmm, is there a pattern here?

hunkermunker · 14/11/2006 14:52

I bfeed.

I'm at work now.

I've expressed for two babies now while working.

I have now replied to Amijee (well, asked more questions of her) because she's brought the thread to my attention - I'd not seen it before.

I do think she has been rude - the last line of the OP here got my back up. But I wouldn't like her to struggle with expressing, etc - it's a bloody hard juggle and she must be getting stressed about it - I know I did. So I can forgive the rudeness - this time

misdee · 14/11/2006 14:53

i come onto to mn and offer advice aboput extended b/f, allergies, organ donation awareness, buggies , cloth nappies etc and also to have a laugh. i cant offer advice about expressing and returning to work as have never done it.

i am also on the thread about sending xmas pressies off to others.

lemonaid · 14/11/2006 15:03

"these breast feeders" do help a lot of people who need help. I'm rather humbled by the number of people I've seen talked through BFing problems on Mumsnet.

Not everyone is on here all the time. If you post a very specific question that needs specialist knowledge to answer it, it may take a while for someone who knows the answer to read it.

moondog · 14/11/2006 15:05

God,but you're fucking rude Ami.

Shall make a point of steering clear of your threads henceforth.

Jimjams2 · 14/11/2006 15:11

If you're a GP there's lots of things you could offer advice on. For example people on Health and Special Needs always need GP type advice. There's a question in SN you could help wiith now if you wanted.

flutterbee · 14/11/2006 15:17

Oh do shut up Ami.

What a ridiculous way to try and draw attention to your thread, personally I would have said "thanks for the reply I will have a go, anyone else have any thoughts on the matter" but you decide to ignore and dismiss someones advice totally and then post a thread about how other MNers annoy you.

Hmmmm not really going to win you any friends is it.

GoingQuietlyMad · 14/11/2006 15:18

A bit of a cheek tbh.

Having looked at your original thread now, your question was very complex and people tend to respond from personal experience. Therefore it was unlikely (not impossible) that someone would have had the same situation as you, and therefore who could be qualified to respond. As someone else said "not many people have expressed and worked." It is more prevalent in the USA though if you want to post on one of their sites.

Then to rant because you didn't get the instantaneous advice that you feel you are entitled to demand????

When I have had advice I have been very grateful to the person who has taken time out to respond. But it is a privelege not a right, and you are lucky, not entitled.

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