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I am upset at my mother's take on dd and formula

49 replies

Thomasina · 13/10/2006 14:12

Basically I ff my dd and she is now 5 and rght at top of the weight chart (like, just boderline on danger-of-becoming-overweight). my mum says she isn't fat but is sturdy (says like I was) but it is probably because I ff her.
Anyways, I am really upset and feel terrible. Don't know how I can do anything beyond what I am - she truthfully eats a very healthy diet (with occasional treat), is very active - well, playground every day and swimming etc. she does have a very healthy appetite and will often eat all her tea and still be hungry for more (so give her fruit). can anyone help? feel really gutted about this.

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evilanniedividedin2byalargeaxe · 13/10/2006 14:15

I bf dd1 for 10 weeks then formula until weaned. She is at very top of the centiles (but also tall) and like your dd 'sturdy'. I bf dd2 for 7 weeks then ff until weaned. She is at the very bottom of the centiles (but tall!) and very skinny.

They both eat the same diet now, I have never worried about it being because of the ff at the start.

Does that help?

gigglinggoblin · 13/10/2006 14:15

tell your mum to keep her nose out, if your daughter is healthy thats all that matters. ds2 was mostly ff and is incredibly skinny, ds3 was bf and is very chubby. i dont think ff or bf makes any difference to a childs weight 5 years later.

gigglinggoblin · 13/10/2006 14:16

sturdy might be a better word than chubby actually, he isnt fat either but is just much bigger built!

evilanniedividedin2byalargeaxe · 13/10/2006 14:17

Yes gigglinggoblin, dd1 has been described as 'well made', I like that description!!

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Thomasina · 13/10/2006 14:18

yes, a bit, thanks Evilannie - have huge hang up about a. my weight as a child (suffered with anorexia in teens and 20s as result) and b. not breastfeeding my daughter. feel like everything has come to a huge head or something.

just DO NOT want dd to have the same insecurities I did.

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edam · 13/10/2006 14:18

Oh, FGS, tell your mum to stop talking nonsense. If you were the same, then it's probably genetic and nothing to do with formula or b/f. Even if it was - and I don't think it is - there's sod all you can do about it now so no point worrying. And if she's got a healthy diedt and plenty of exercise, it's obviously just where she needs to be at the moment. She'll have a growth spurt and level out soon, I bet!

geekgrrl · 13/10/2006 14:18

oh, ffs. what is your mother on?
my dd1 is the same sturdy build and she was breastfed until the age of 3, and had no solids until 8 months. Hope that helps a bit.

NastyNemo666 · 13/10/2006 14:18

I wouldnt worry, my ds was bf for a couple of weeks then formula fed on the hungry baby stuff. He is now 3 and tall but keep being told he is underweight. Has nothing to do with formula IMO more to do with metablism of the child.

gigglinggoblin · 13/10/2006 14:19

i like chunky children, you feel you can give them really good squeezy hugs without squashing them

Cassoulet · 13/10/2006 14:20

Don't be gutted thomasina it's not worth it. Your dd is healthy, active and clearly has no foody problems. Your mum should be grateful for all that, but if she isn't that's her look-out. Is she the type who always has to know best, always looks for the imperfections? Sounds to me like she's clutching at straws and if she's got nothing else to worry about then she should be b**y happy.

evilanniedividedin2byalargeaxe · 13/10/2006 14:20

Exactly goblin!

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Thomasina · 13/10/2006 14:22

I did ask her opinion, to be fair. She didn't bf me (though wanted to very much).

I shouldn't try and cut down on dd's food intake, should I?

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Cassoulet · 13/10/2006 14:23

nonononono

(imo)

TwigTwoolett · 13/10/2006 14:23

some kids just grow out then they suddenly shoot up

.. its growth spurts

if she's active and eating healthily don't worry

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Thomasina · 13/10/2006 14:23

dd is 110cm and 3 stone 3, btw. or was when I last looked a month or so ago.

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edam · 13/10/2006 14:24

No, definitely not! As long as she's eating a healthy diet don't restrict her intake without advice from a properly-qualified NHS dietitian. Children need plenty of calories as they are growing.

lulumama · 13/10/2006 14:25

formula fed both of mine

DS tall and lean

DD small and petite

so , if you were 'sturdy'' and your daughter is now, then i doubt it's to do with formula....she'll have a growth spurt and even out... wouldn;t give it a second thought....

edam · 13/10/2006 14:25

Blimey, my ds is only three and he's already three stone (and a little shorter than your dd). He's not fat, and neither is she!

bluejelly · 13/10/2006 14:26

I bf my dd for nearly 2 years, she is right at the top of the scale and sturdy. She is v active and eats well.
Nowt to worry about if you ask me

misdee · 13/10/2006 14:26

this child is off the charts for her weight, does she look it to you?

i dont like those charts. as long as your dd is healthym active and weight/height is more or less inline IMO, then dont worry too much.

i mean obviously, dont give her a chippy tea every night, but dont put a child on a diet.

TwigTwoolett · 13/10/2006 14:26

if DD was a DS do you think you'd be bothered as much?

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Thomasina · 13/10/2006 14:28

Misdee, she looks perfect.

Twigtwoolett - sadly, I wouldn't be worried if dd was a ds. Am totally ashamed of feeling like that and don't know why I do

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TwigTwoolett · 13/10/2006 14:30

no I understand .. I have one of each and sometimes find myself looking at DD (2.5) and wondering if she's too fat

then I slap myself .. hard

misdee · 13/10/2006 14:31

my dd in the pic is only 4 years old, she is about 116cm and well over 3 stone in weight.

your dd sounds fine.

dd1 who is 6, is small and slight but has tum on her.

dd3 is looking to be going skinny and tall.

Pruni · 13/10/2006 14:31

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