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So, would you BF at a meeting with your boss?

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welliemum · 09/10/2006 21:34

I have a meeting with my boss tomorrow, and will have 3 month old dd2 with me.

I'm worrying that she might get hungry during the meeting. Am I being a wuss? I have no qualms about bfeeding anywhere else.

I feel embarrassed about feeling embarrassed IYKWIM!

OP posts:

Tortington · 09/10/2006 22:52

good for you amjee. hope you got the job - its great your so principled.

wish i had enough money to be principled!

hunkermunster · 09/10/2006 23:36

I'm not wealthy. But I would do this. It's not about being rich.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 09/10/2006 23:37

Custy, what on earth is up with you tonight?

Tortington · 10/10/2006 00:10

its not about being rich. is it. its about having sufficient funds to be so principled.

and why has it got to be something up with ME?

if you went for a job appraisel where - lets say hypothetically your bonus percent for the year - 2, 3 or 5%

( which is how ours used to be worked)

and you need that money to help pay the mortgae, car loan, etc etc.

and your place of work was a place where such things had never previously happened.

lets say hypothetically that your principles tell you with all your might
"it shouldnt matter that i breastfeed, i need to breastfeed. its not like i am doing something wrong - there is no reason not to"

then your money head comes on and says

"lets face it the minute sucking noises are heard my 5% is out of the window"

is it right

an i saying it is

no no no nio

can i say
no
did i say no

is breast best
yes ye
did i say yes

yes yes yes

however i do think you need a certai amount of personal comfort in your living environment - whether you can survice on 10K or 80k - makes no mind to this argument. you assess your level of comfort

you assess your level of comfort and your level of need against your principles. and make a trade off.

its not about being rich
its not about class - dont twist things dont make me out to be or say something i'm not

how dare i go against something someone says in the breast feeding topic

fuck me its something up with me is it?

i have a valid argument.

Greensleeves · 10/10/2006 00:12

I luv you custy

VeniVidiVickiQV · 10/10/2006 00:14

Of course you do. You are just pretty abrasive with it tonight.

Your perogative though. Shall mention it no more.

Greensleeves · 10/10/2006 00:15

..but yes, I agree with you to a degree - I have been in situations where I would have crawled naked over broken glass to secure another £20. When it was the difference between eating and not eating, and I was living in a on-room flat with candles instead of electric light etc etc.

But I can see the other point of view too - there isn't, and can't be, anything more important than a mother's right to feed her child.

So as usual, it's me on the fence, whining "But I can se both points of view"...

So I'll fuck off then, with my ultimately pointless musings on a theme of nothing in particular

hunkermunster · 10/10/2006 00:16

But that's not what you said.

You said you wished you had enough money to be principled.

I happen to work somewhere where this wouldn't be an issue. Hence I'm happy to bfeed a little baby in front of my boss, and have bfed an older child in the same room (albeit not in an appraisal situation - I wouldn't do that, because a 14mo can wait to be fed and I would like to demonstrate to my boss that I can plan my personal life appropriately so I wouldn't have to feed a 14mo in a business meeting).

But I do object to the "only if you can afford it can you have principles like this" line. I'm having to go back to work next week so that we can afford food, we have debts the size of Gibraltar hanging over our heads and I'm a bit sick of the "you middle class fuckers" line that you trot out each night about this time, Custy.

But I do bloody love you too, so not quite sure how that works

VeniVidiVickiQV · 10/10/2006 00:17

Greeny you wussy

Greensleeves · 10/10/2006 00:18

It would be interesting to know what proportion of bog-standard ordianry bosses would actually object (as opposed to being a bit surprised/embarrassed but it not really affecting anything).

I wonder.

Greensleeves · 10/10/2006 00:19

Acksherlee, I was Being Sincere, VVV, you tired old cynic

But I do love you too!

Greensleeves · 10/10/2006 00:20

But this is not the first time this week I have been exposed as a big fat wuss. So I suppose it must be true!

VeniVidiVickiQV · 10/10/2006 00:20

Shit!? That was sincerety?

I bloody love you Greeny

Greensleeves · 10/10/2006 00:22

you're my best mate you are

Are you gonig to the meet-up in Nov?

VeniVidiVickiQV · 10/10/2006 00:28

I sure am

You are staying with Franny, arent you?

Tortington · 10/10/2006 00:28

but its not about class - i know absolutley nothing about you - and really i see your name a lot - your a reguler - but i know nothing of your circumstances - and i am not assuming anything

i said this

i wish i had enough money to be principled

its you who took it as me saying you mc fucks or something.

my argument - think principles are traded according to how much finance is important. 10k or 80k

nothing

nothing to do with ow much money
what clas your in

or whether i am citizen smith taking on the whole of the MC universe which is mumsnet

becuase what has really happened is this

i feel i havebeen labled me as some citizen smith power to the people type. and no one reads whats infront of their face iwthout assumptions that i am affecting their MC sensibilities.

putting it into some context - whioch i have not.

my argument is plain - if i wanted to say "only rich people can afford to go to interviews and breast feed"

i thinki would have said .just that.

how can i be accused of being brash when in actual fact the words are being provided for me.

the irony of everyone else turning their posts into a defensive class thing " i am sick of you having a go at us mc types"

eh ..what?

and trott out every night

not likley. either trotting - which in iself is an insulting ter becuase my posts are thought about - and not trotted at all. hence the fucking length eh?
or every night. becuase my husband is online with goblins

Greensleeves · 10/10/2006 00:30

Well, it has been put about by Franny and Boris that I am staying with NQC - and NQC has very generously invited me - but I have In No Way Said I Am Coming.

I am shit-scared, if truth be told, Vicki - there are going to be too many people there who don't like me, and I am fat, and I am not used to big posh nightclubs...and....

Greensleeves · 10/10/2006 00:31

Custy, are you going to this shindig in November?

Tortington · 10/10/2006 00:31

yes - dont worry greeny if it gets too much for either of us ( with the hating mn massive) then we can always go over to maccy ds

Greensleeves · 10/10/2006 00:33

Oooh, yes, that would be great - I don't mind telling you I am shitting it about meeting all these Boden clad smartarse yummies - I don't really "do" posh clubs and smart shoes

Tortington · 10/10/2006 00:35

i'm a sticky carpet pint o lager kinda girl - who has heart attck when barman says " that'll be £3.90" for ONE bottle of beer.

tilba63 · 10/10/2006 00:35

Of course you should breast feed. I would not give it a second thought. I agree I would just maintain eye contact sit back and relax and be appraised! Can't imagine any educated person objecting about a tiny baby requiring food from it's mother.

Greensleeves · 10/10/2006 00:37

Some of the cocktails in that fucking place are £6.50 - I've told dh, if I do go, I'm taking a hip flask

VeniVidiVickiQV · 10/10/2006 00:40

Oh Greeny! It'll be fine - really. There weren't that many "boden-clad" types that I came across last year, were there custy?

I was bricking it myself last year, and was a bit mental, to boot. It was fine. I met hunker and LGJ and mars and flossam and COV and hub and many many more, and i am SO glad i did. You will be too.

How can you think people dont like you?

Chandra · 10/10/2006 01:06

I think it all depends on the job and the culture around it.. sorry... I agree with custy. If they are like minded perfect but... I have never worked in a place like that.

However, if it is a university it should be fine, actually my supervisor offered to come to my house for the reviews so I didn't have the problem of going around with a small baby. But, he and his wife were big fans of the NCT so, he was bound to be "forgiving".

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