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How long do you think your baby should sleep in your room for?

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josben · 06/10/2006 15:38

DD is 10 weeks and we are thinking about moving her into her own room this weekend as she is a very light sleeper and so we think she'll sleep better (and hopefully so will we!)
But I know that the recommendation is that babies should sleep in parents room for first 6 months (as we did with DS1 & DS2) but I was just wondering if everyone follows this advice?

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nailpolish · 06/10/2006 15:39

i aimed for 6 months but didnt last that long

both dd's were just almost 4 months iirc

lucy5 · 06/10/2006 15:40

Dd stayed with us for about 7 months but I was obsessed with cot death so it was more for me than her.

sweetkitty · 06/10/2006 15:41

DD1 - 15 months (would have been 12 but we had a nightmare house move - long story)

DD2 - will be moving into her own room before Christmas I reckon as she's a nightmare with cosleeping and breastfeeding so about 11 months.

Personally I wouldn't have moved them into their own rooms before 6-7 months but that's just me everyone is different.

mumfor1standfinaltime · 06/10/2006 15:43

I moved ds into his room at 4 weeks old, we do live in a shoebox though, so not much space between the rooms! I just left the bedroom doors open for the first few nights as it made me feel better that I could hear him etc.
I think it helps them and you to sleep better, you don't wake each other up if you need the loo in the night, or if baby wakes up in the night they could just settle again, without you getting up to every snuffle!

lemonaid · 06/10/2006 15:44

We kept him in until about 8 months. Was planning on the 6 month target but then DH was working out of the country for a couple of months so it was less faff to just have DS in the room with me until he got back.

With friends it's largely depended on how much of a grunter and snuffler the DC was. DS wasn't too bad on that front (although he managed some stupendously loud farts as a newborn... I'd look at this tiny wee thing as a stentorian rumble echoed off the walls and think "How?").

yellowrose · 06/10/2006 15:51

lemonaid - - what were you feeding him ?

Lio · 06/10/2006 15:53

Just a few days - so LOUD!

yellowrose · 06/10/2006 16:00

We never moved the baby, we moved ourselves !

I was breastfeeding, so I let DS sleep in the middle of our double bed (safe, couldn't fall off) and I slept on a mattress on the floor. I am a terribly light sleeper so co-sleeping in the same bed as a baby never worked for me. Some nights I would sleep on my own in the spare room, for a proper few hours of uniterrupted sleep and DH slept next to DS. He would come and get me to feed DS !

Some nights he would wake up every hour on the hour for a feed, I would just climb up onto the bed next to him, feed him lying down once he was asleep again I would get down onto the floor again. I like sleeping on futtons, not for everyone, I know !

The first few months were a total nightmare, but it got better and eventually we manged to put DS in a cot and ourselves in the big bed I think we moved him into his own room when he started to sleep through (around 8 hours without waking) at around 10 months.

Libra · 06/10/2006 16:14

DS2 was - um - three when we moved him out. Yes, three years. Our bedroom is downstairs and his was upstairs and neither of us could face the idea of him being so far away at night-time. So we waited until he went into a big boy bed in his bedroom.
Stands back and waits for the incredulity.

SCARErenity · 06/10/2006 16:34

DS1 was about a year old, and it was a nightmare. He was a bad sleeper and moving him out made him worse rather than better. Due to that DS2 didn't go until he was 18 mths.

DD is 3 in November, and is still with us, but that's because of space rather than wanting her there!

asleep · 06/10/2006 16:38

until you feel you're ok with her being in a different room. both my kids moved into their rooms after about 2 weeks.

hulababy · 06/10/2006 16:40

I was aiming for 6 months because of all the cot death recommendations.

She ended up being in our room till she was 16 months old though - because of problems with our house move.

Wasn't an issue in the end. She did a bit of co sleeping anyway, so easier - and none of us disturbed each other.

MKG · 06/10/2006 17:07

3 months, He was in a cradle in our room for three months. When he started sleeping through the night we moved him, since he didn't really need us around anymore.

saralou100 · 06/10/2006 17:17

6 weeks, after sleeping through the night since 4 weeks.. i always had the monitor on it's loudest setting though!

how does sharing a room reduce the risk of cot death?

pointydog · 06/10/2006 17:24

Don't think it m atters.

foundintranslation · 06/10/2006 17:36

ds is 16.5 months and 'still' with us - we do only have one bedroom, but even if we had more space I don't think he would be in his own room yet. He sleeps fairly well but usually comes into our bed for a bf and/or cuddle back to sleep for at least part of the night.

foundintranslation · 06/10/2006 17:38

... or otherwise (when he sleeps 'through') early in the morning - giving us all an hour or two's extra sleep.

Peridot30 · 06/10/2006 17:46

Both my children were moved from our room at 16wks. BOth slept through the night from only a few weeks old so was easier in own room rather than ours.

moondog · 06/10/2006 17:48

Six months minimum.

poppiesmum · 06/10/2006 18:44

Dd moved into her own room at 10 weeks when she started sleeping through and I didn't need to feed her in the night. She (and we) slept better as a result.

OOOOOOOOooooooooOOOOOOOOO · 06/10/2006 18:50

We co slept for 3 years also. You will have to do better than that to provoke incredulity round here Libra.

I think it is up to the parent and child, but I think the guidelines on sleeping in the same room up until at least 6 months are sensible.

QuiQuoQua · 06/10/2006 19:50

5 months only because DH could not face his little princess 'all alone' [pathetic emoticon] in a big room (which, BTW, is a spit away from ours).

do what you feel it's best for all of you.

for me it was good to have her in the basket next to the bed for feeding, I was too lazy to get up. But once she slept through, quite early actually, I'd have moved her.

Yes can someone explain what difference does it make where they sleep in re to cot death please?

clairemow · 06/10/2006 19:56

DS2 is in his own room now, at 5 weeks, it's right next door and we hear him waking for a feed and if there's a problem. I figure that with a 5 week old and 2.4 year old, I need to be as "with-it" as possible in the day time - that means getting some sleep between feeds instead of listening to DS2 grunting and snorting. DS1 was in his own room at 11 weeks, once he was sleeping through from late feed. He must have been quieter!

I also don't understand the link to cot death - surely if that's going to happen it won't be noisy, and would I hear it? If I'm wrong, I would really like someone to put me right, and then we'll move back in with him!

chocolateshoes · 06/10/2006 19:59

5 months - would have gone to 6 months but he was getting too big for his Moses basket & after that it was a cot bed & there is no room in our bedroom! Did have the monitor on high & his room isn't far away. He was sleeping through by then & I don't quite know what we would have done if he hadn't been & I had had to get up to bfeed in the night.

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