If you're out and you're breastfeeding somewhere, and somebody comes up to you and points out a feeding room...

[emkana]

... do you feel you have to go and move and feed there, or do you stay where you are if you want to?

I never know whether it's meant as a friendly offer or as something more.

That's a great story filly

Everybody else eats on the street,at the park blah blah blah.
I always found feeding rooms stinky so would feed dd in car

'I did not allow myself to get involved in any way in her disapproval'

I like that very much Spider.
Lol at Filly getting a quid!

There's a practical matter here too. If I'd got ds latched on sitting in a nice comfy chair, (possibly with a coffee and donut) I wouldn't have wanted to move because there was no way I could unlatch him once he started

I'm one of the 'Thanks, but I'm fine here.' brigade. Especially once settled. If, OTOH, I was struggling to cope with an uncomfortable perch, I might well take them up on the offer.

I like to presume that any looks, comments, etc while bfing in public are well-meant. That way I don't have to deal with anyone else's hang-ups.

The first time we went out with my family after ds was born my mum said 'the toilets are very nice here when he wants feeding' to which i said 'there is no way i am feeding him in the toilet, you dont eat in there so why should he'
She did not mean any harm, for some reason thought i would not feed in public.

Would defo stay put!!

"Thanks for your concern but I really like it here" - whilst smiling sweetly - you could add that they could go in a small room if they find it uncomfortable or offensive too!!

at Fillyjonk. Wish I had a quid for every time I'd breastfed in public

Aloud: "Thanks but we're fine here!
Silently: F*&k 0%%!!

Sorry but I would almost certainly jump to the negative conclusion.

And agree with all those who hate feeding in dingy, smelly rooms surrounded by unemptied bins of pooey nappies. You'd think that John Lewis (for example) could do a bit better for its valued customers ... sorry, I'll jump off my soapbox now!!

I mean, grey plastic chairs!!!

Or at best a moth-eaten, ancient armchair at a store which sells gorgeous stunning contemporary furniture!

GRRR

Sorry will un-hijack thread right now...

Depends on WHO was saying it and HOW they said it ! Usually you can tell if they are just being a pain in the a** or actually trying to help. Whichever, I would just stay were I was and say "thanks but I am happy here"

Filly - was the quid given in charity, as they thought you might be too poor to feed your child with proper food (give me a quid for each time I have been to a GP for my own illness not my son's and been asked why I wasn't feeding him "proper food"), or a bribe to get you to put away your boobs ?

Brent Cross. It's a shame because I spend half my life in there

I really wanted to be a militant breastfeeder -I was an "older mother" and wanted to go into battle for the less confident and outspoken, but I never had the slightest negative comment. An old man came up to me in Waterstones cafe once and I thought "Ohoh here it comes" and he said " What a delightful sight, my dear!" The only time I was offered an altenative was once in a very crowded train when I was trying to feed and manage bags and so on and the guard picked up all my stuff, said "Come with me" and installed me in an empty first class compartment then brought me a cup of tea. And another cup of tea an hour later. It was a wonderful journey!

When i was nursing my youngest now 2, ponchos were in fashion and i could do it any where discreetly although one day at the zoo i was sweltering under it (but at least she didn't get sun burnt)She was 5 weeks old at the time and spent most of the day under there!

Curlew,how civilised!
What a lovely man.

If you are a debenhams card holder, all the stores have a nice comfy room with free coffee and squishy sofas where weary shoppers can rest their legs and peruse the catalogues!

I always used to go and feed in there! I used to take my non card-bearing b/f buddies too!!! In fact if I remember rightly, I don't think I ever needed to prove I had a card! It was invariably empty, or the occasional older woman would be sat in there and we'd end up chatting about babies!

It was my top b/f tip at the time!

Do they, Catbert???

don't think I ever fed ds in a feeding room tbh.

I was offered one in a John Lewis once (kindly, but I turned it down as I couldn't be arsed moving) - went back another day and it turned out there was no 'parents' room' at all, only a disabled toilet with changing table .

I loved the feeding room at Lakeside shopping centre when I was breastfeeding.

A nice area, separate from the changing area, with a tv and lots of other bf mums to chat to.

Otherwise though, didn't use them - way too smelly!

the feeding room in daisy and tom in manchester used to be fab.big squashy sofas etc and then cubicles for people who would prefer to be private.
went tin there the other week to change ds's trousers and it was horrible.they'd got rid of the sofa and it all seemed dirty ad neglected.

The Debenhams places are the "Gold Card Lounges" most stores have one,(though not my local one, unfortunately!) I've only been asked for a card a couple of times in literally dozens of visits.
It is indeed an oasis of calm, and brilliant for baby feeding!