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Calling all night time feeders - always up feeding when we should be sleeping! Let's keep each other company PART 2!!

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Writerwannabe83 · 05/06/2014 21:14

I think to start the new thread off we should reintroduce ourselves and our babies for the sake of our own memories and also for any newbies who may join Smile

I have a 10 week old DS who is EBF. Has been sleeping through the night for the last week and I'm just waiting patiently for things to go downhill as I'm sure they will Smile

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midnight1983 · 24/06/2014 20:46

Mrsmugoo, I have had so many days and nights like that! I just try to remember that in a year from now it'll be difficult to pin him down for hugs so I just enjoy it. Good excuse to watch telly and have various snacks bought to me too!

Cannotbelieveit · 24/06/2014 20:48

Usual colicky evening here Hmm

However he fell asleep after his last feed so will miss his bath out tonight and see how tonight goes

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Writerwannabe83 · 24/06/2014 20:52

DS is crying again.

I made the mistake of thinking he was in a deep enough sleep to be transferred - how wrong I was.

This crying/grizzling has been going on for almost 5 hours now bar the odd 20 minutes of silence whilst he's been distracted by something else.

I think I'm going insane.

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mrsmugoo · 24/06/2014 21:03

Writer - I have spent almost all of DS's life holding him sleeping in my arms to stop him waking up! I'm on my stopping now because he's getting too big/heavy and it's too hot to have a 14lb baby on me for an hour at a time 4 times a day!

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Writerwannabe83 · 24/06/2014 22:28

It's 22.25pm and he's still awake.....

My DS is approaching 14lbs now and I've really started to notice the effects of him getting heavier in that my ankles hurt, my calves are always sore, my pelvis is usually sore and I normally have back ache. I think this is because I spend so much time standing up and rocking him that the weight of him is just pressing down on me. It used to be that he'd be happy sleeping over my shoulder whilst I was sitting down but now he only seems happy to do it if I'm standing up and it's getting a bit more difficult now.

I have put him in his Crib now and leaving him to self settle because I can't keep rocking him all night or letting him feed to sleep and then him waking up when I transfer him anyway etc - it's just such a relentless circle.

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Cannotbelieveit · 24/06/2014 23:21

Ryder randomly slept from 8 until now. Just feeding and hopefully he will go down for the night!

IdaClair · 24/06/2014 23:24

For hurting arms and hands, get a sling - a good one, don't rely on high street' get good advice before buying. Can save sanity and let you get around and things done with babies in arms, as well as just keeping the weight off arms and hands if all you want to do is sit (that's ok too) I keep one in the bedroom for night time rocking and pacing. Dd is 26lb.

My older child is 8 and so needs sleep for school etc. And means we have to get up for school no matter when smallest has decided to sleep.

The problem I have is just the long wake ups. I don't know how to tell her it is night. Tbh often it is light (tho we have blackout blinds) she is only 20mo so can understand simple direction etc but anything abstract is out.

And there isn't even the choice of leaving them to cry etc when they can get out of their cot and come find you !

Thankfully she has been asleep since 9pm so we are tiptoeing to bed now.

IdaClair · 24/06/2014 23:25

Also, unless you have to be somewhere, take down the clocks, and scramble your phone clock.

Watching the hours tick down drives you mad!

midnight1983 · 25/06/2014 04:08

3rd wake up...

mrsmugoo · 25/06/2014 04:32

Another shitty night - on 4th feed and barely a wink of sleep so far.

mrsmugoo · 25/06/2014 04:42

Seriously how can't this baby need to feed so much??

Cannotbelieveit · 25/06/2014 05:11

Sorry mrs

5.5 hours so can't moan Smile

puggywug81 · 25/06/2014 05:48

A bad night here too.

Fin spent 2 hours farting himself awake, then slept for 2 hours, then thrashed around with trapped wind till now. He is now feeding and I am ready to cry with frustration I am so so tired!

midnight1983 · 25/06/2014 05:54

Now we're on 4th feed since 2 am! I think it's thirst because it's bloody hit in our room... He had just got the hang of sleep too. I see a very tired summer ahead...

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Writerwannabe83 · 25/06/2014 06:53

DS went over 8 hours!
I don't believe it!!

22.30pm-06.45am Shock

This is his personal best Grin

He went through a phase of regular waking when it was warm do now he just sleeps in a vest with no socks and no blanket. We also put him in a bigger sized nappy overnight so there's less chance of it getting full and waking him up.

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Cannotbelieveit · 25/06/2014 07:31

That's great writer!! Ryder has done 7-8 hours a few times and I felt so much better after that sleep! I take comfort from the fact I know he's capable of it! Now I just need to get him to do it again!

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Writerwannabe83 · 25/06/2014 07:39

He always goes back to sleep after his first morning feed but I'm not sure he will today after such a good sleep overnight.

I put him in his Crib about 20 minutes ago where he has been gurgling away and staring at the zoo animals printed on his bumpers but he's been having the occasional yawn too. I'm going to give him another 20 minutes in there and if he hasn't gone to sleep by then I think we'll just get up.

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notadoctor · 25/06/2014 07:52

Congratulations Writer! That's fantastic.

Ida - I have a none sleeping toddler, she's worse than her 12wk old brother in someways. Every night I go to bed and wonder who will wake me up first! Was your eldest a good sleeper? In my experience, most people seem to get one good sleeper and one not so good sleeper so I'm hoping DS is our good one! So far, he seems to be (famous last words!) Do you have a Gro clock? They are quite simple for little ones to understand and you can set them to your own schedule - if the star shows it's sleepy time, when it's time to get up sun appears. My DD spends a lot of time staring at hers waiting for sunshine but at least it helps her stay in the room!

DS and I went to bed at 10 last night, he woke for a feed at 2am and then at 5am then slept until 7:30am (although I was up for the day with DD at 6am and a couple of times in the night too)

Looks like a sunny day today - I hope everyone had had enough sleep to enjoy it!

Cariad - I meant to say in response to your post a while ago - it took me ages to find a group of Mums I really clicked with after DD but now I have a lovely bunch. Keep trying groups, you'll get there. Personally, I found it was better when there was an activity - buggy fit classes, baby massage etc as the conversation seemed less forced.

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Writerwannabe83 · 25/06/2014 08:11

Thanks notadcotor - he fell asleep again about 10-15 minutes ago so I'm going to get up for a leisurely shower, breakfast and cup of tea. We go to our breast feeding group on Wednesday and it's a nightmare as it starts at 10am - I hate early starts at group sessions because they are so difficult to attend if you've had a bad night! You'd think the session holders would think about this and hold afternoon classes instead Smile

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mrsmugoo · 25/06/2014 13:57

Oh gawd Writer I'm the total opposite! 10am is a good 4 hours after I've woke up and by afternoon he's usually tired, been resisting naps etc.. I can't attend groups after lunch!

midnight1983 · 25/06/2014 15:04

Well, just been to baby clinic and found out that my boy has only gained 50 grams in two weeks! He had dropped centiles before but this is so extreme! Feeling really disheartened as I thought breastfeeding was really working, and he's been night feeding so much. I wonder if they will advise to add formula too if he continues to drop centiles? Guess I will be a frequent night feeder for many nights to come...

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Writerwannabe83 · 25/06/2014 19:15

Your comment made me Grin mrsmugoo - it just highlights how crazily different these babies can be!!

DS has been better with his sleep today in that he had a 3 hour nap between 10.30am-13.30pm and then has had another hour at about 5pm. We went for a lovely long walk this afternoon (90 minute walk) in the sunshine and it was so enjoyable Smile

midnight - what advice did you get but baby clinic and have they asked to see DS again? Don't feel pressured to add formula if you don't want to! There are a few threads running in the Breast&Bottle forum about BF babies losing weight so take a look, there are lots of tips about how to encourage weight gain.

I'm taking DS to get weighed a week today and feeling a bit anxious about it as the last time he was weighed he hadn't put much on. I was told not to worry but it's easier said than done isn't it?!

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mrsmugoo · 25/06/2014 19:44

Evening ladies. We are back from PIL's house and although it's lovely to be there I'm so glad to be back in my own space.

DS is just doing bedtime feed. After his bath he was grizzling a bit with tiredness. I left the room to grab something and when I came in he'd started sucking his thumb for the first time ever! I think he may even have sent himself off to sleep had I left him long enough, although he hadn't fed for ages so he wouldn't have lasted long!

We are now on our own until Tuesday as DH is working with his team at Glastonbury.

midnight1983 · 25/06/2014 21:03

They said he looks healthy and chubby so couldn't see any reason for slow weight gain, but they want to see him next week. He was nearly 9 pounds when born and on the 75th centile. They said to try to feed him longer and give him both breasts, but he does get easily distracted now when eating now that he's 4 months! Tbh, it does worry me and I really want to solve the problem.

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Writerwannabe83 · 25/06/2014 21:05

Trying to settle DS but he's been screaming for an hour with awful trapped wind. The antibiotics are causing him to have such an upset stomach. He has just fell asleep at the breast which means I'm going to have to wake him to wind him and the screaming will start all over again Sad

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