day 6 pp going to peices

[Jellymum1]

why is breast feeding so hard. im so sore and tearful and I dont know what im doing or if im doing it right.

My thread was supposed to say: buy the ready made bottles/cartons as opposed to the powder. My brain doesn't work this time in the morning.

Still here still suckling and burning my nipples ive had just half an hour with her off. im exhausted how I haven't fell asleep with her I dont know. I feel dreadfyl. sending dh for formula first thing

Breast feeding is pretty shitty in some ways. I've had 11 hours sleep in 72 hours, I just feel exhausted. You have my complete sympathy!!

You can fall asleep with her! Have you tried feeding lying down? Just make sure there are no pillows or blankets near her, lie on your side with your body curled around hers and off you go! Will work well for both of you. Quality of sleep not as good but it's something!

Agree - you can fall asleep with her, so long as you're set up to be safe! Good guidelines here. I would never have been able to persevere without it! In bed with no pillows and blankets tucked under the waist is best. The absolutely worst is on the sofa, so make sure you're not there or on a feeding chair if you are completely knackered.

I need to work on it but thanks. it hurt A LOT.

10 am still constantly feeding. I cant do it thanks for all your encouragement but I csnt do it I hate it. I wanted to do it for the bond but there is no bond right now just one very distressed mum and one very distressed husband and one screaming baby. :(

Then the choice you make to FF is obviously the one that works best for you so please, please don't feel guilty. You have given your baby the best start and you have tried your absolute hardest which is all anyone can do. You need to enjoy your baby and make that bond and if BF is impeding on that then changing to FF makes sense. My MW told me that the minute I stop enjoying BF is the minute I should stop. If it's making you so unhappy then how can anyone say it's the best thing for you and baby? As I've said before there's more to caring for and loving a newborn than breast feeding and you should never feel guilty if it isn't working for you as a family.

You gave your baby the best start and you are to be commended to have persevered this long in the situation you are in. You obviously just want what's best for your baby and the best thing your daughter can have is a happy mom x x

dad gave it to her and she demolished it. she fell asleep! I am off for a nap and hope to sleep away some of this grief xxxx thank you so much for all being so kind and helping through the long nights. im sure ff wont be a miracle im sure she will still be a fussy cuddly baby but at least daddy can help

I hope you get a good quality sleep!

When you wake up think of it as a fresh start for you and your daughter. Like you said, put the grief, upset and bad memories behind you and just start again with a positive outlook and be happy with your decision x

As long as you're happy with the decision then I hope it starts to be better for you.
Maybe consider mixed feeds for a few days to see how you go?
It is amazing how a short break from feeding and a bit more sleep can make the feeding seem less awful and strengthen your resolve!
However you must do what is right for you and she has had a lot of good stuff from you over the last few days.
I'm DH will be glad that he can be a bit more help.

three hours sleep and I feel like a new woman. midwife came again said I looked much better already. I may try mix feeding but I think out the bottle I will express. after a sleep I dont feel so rotten and poppy seems really content to and is staring at me and doing lots of windy smiles and I even got a hug without being screamed at.

ps all those of you who cope and continue you are bloody amazing. I will never look at a bf woman the same again ive complete admiration for you all!!

Glad you are happier Jelly! I have been there, still am really! I must say I am finding coping with a newborn and toddler really tough.

Well done Jelly - so glad you're feeling so much better. You gave so much to her by BF for these few days you've set her up really well. I hope for your sake you manage to mix feed a bit as you wanted it so badly but you're right, happy mum equals happy baby and that's what matters.

While the first few weeks with DD2 were really tricky, I find BF easier in the long run - I would rather poke my eyeballs out with a stick then spend time sterilising. Added to which DD2 will only bloody drink milk warm which I'm finding a bit restrictive. DD1 would take it any which way but DD2 is more fussy. Whipping out a boob is so much easier but my job isn't exactly expressing friendly so daytime feeding is gone and we just do mornings and evenings now.

In the end of the day, whatever way works for you is the right way. Hope you continue to get a bit more sleep and that DD2 continues to thrive. She sounds like a personality. Good luck, I've one of those too .

haha she certainly is. just like her big sister. little monkey has slept all day and is now wide awake but a. feeding time is much calmer and b. I can swap with hubby later if she's still up or if shes down hes doing the next feed definitely going to think about mixed feeding now ive had a day off and feel mentally stronger

I mix fed by doing a bit of boob followed by bottle while DH was around (6 weeks) because I wasn't sure which way it was going to go post TT snip at three weeks. With the snip only marginally improving things and DH going back I am going to do one or two goes on the boob a day, when my toddler is asleep until it fades out naturally.

Considering the pain, nipple chomping and coping with general family life it's a compromise I have had to make and it's been hard because I was so desperate to fully fb like you but the misery and cost to my other DC would not have been on balance worth it. In the end one wonders who one is actually bfing for if that makes sense!

makes sense to me poplina. dd1 has been much happier today as im not a sobbing wreck and dd2 has let us have cuddles. I feel much better today. I still just think women who do bf exclusive are bloody amazing and antenatal classes in no way prepare you for what its really like! I think with a bit more awareness beforehand I may have coped better but I wasnt expecting it to be that hard. dd1 went straight on ff after a traumatic birth and I didnt see her for near on 24 hrs. I thought itd be much easier than it is!

Bless you Jelly, it sounds as if you didn't have anything approaching the right support. I was really lucky, the midwife who delivered DD1 (third degree tear, meconium in the waters) didn't leave my side until DD1 had latched properly and I honestly think that set me up brilliantly for both the DDs. Also, there was a midwife who was a breastfeeding supporter on the ward who helped me the following day and she was, by chance, the community midwife who visited me on Day 5. I greeted her with "Oh thank God it's you!" She then said she'd come back again and discharge me. When DD2 came, BF was MUCH harder. Much much harder. The MW who came to see me on day 5 winced when she saw my boobs. But as I had the experience of DD1 behind me, I knew it would get better.

The really really hard bit was that DD1 used to look around to get herself into trouble (climbing into the fireplace, up onto a sofa, etc. etc) as soon as DD2 latched.

So much more support is needed for people who want to do it. I'm so glad you and DD are happier now. Enjoy your baby.....I miss newborn snuggles....