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I feel like a cow, and not in a good way.

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misdee · 18/08/2006 08:09

dd3 is driving me mad. i want to give up b/f now, but she constantly clambering on me, and pinching me. i offer her, cows milk, water or watery juice in a cup, sometimes she takes it. but this morning she has pinched and scratched me trying to get under my top. I have just put her back in her cot and left her to scream it out. i feel awful.

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tortoise · 18/08/2006 08:41

She will adjust to not being bf.
Bumping for anyone with better advice!

spiceoflife · 18/08/2006 08:45

I did dont offer dont refuse with both my boys..ds1 took ages before he decided that he could cope with out it (2yr8mth) ds2 however stopped at 16mths with this method and had been a clawer/scratcher give it to me now feeder. Not sure this helps...

FioFio · 18/08/2006 08:46

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FrannyandZooey · 18/08/2006 08:48

It is not just the fluid she wants though misdee, so offering juice etc is a bit of a red herring. She wants the comfort, skin contact, the smell of you and the cuddles - she doesn't understand why she can't have them today.

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misdee · 18/08/2006 08:52

franny, i am in agony here. i really dont need to be kicked further down do i?

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FrannyandZooey · 18/08/2006 08:53

Pardon?

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misdee · 18/08/2006 08:54

i know she wants cuddles, i am giving her cuddles and actually juist let her have afeed, but i need to give up for my own sanity.

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FrannyandZooey · 18/08/2006 08:54

I am a bit taken aback by that misdee. I'll get off the thread. Hope things improve for you.

MatNanPlus · 18/08/2006 08:55

How old is dd3 now misdee? Be strong.

FrannyandZooey · 18/08/2006 08:56

Cross posts. I can see you want to give up, and why. You seemed cross with her, that she was not accepting juice etc instead. I thought it was worth pointing out that this was not really the issue. I do hope things work out for you and I am sorry I obviously didn't help.

hunkermunker · 18/08/2006 08:56

Oh, Misdee

Is there any way at all that you can go for a walk (drive if it's chucking it down) by yourself later? Even if you go and sit in the car by yourself with a trashy magazine, you'll feel better for it. An hour when Peter's carers arrive maybe?

I'd come and see you if I was nearer. Heck, I'd feed DD3 for you myself if I was nearer

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misdee · 18/08/2006 08:58

18months, cant be strong, she is too persistant. no more till tonight.

i feel terrible, the poor little girl is so unsettled due to peter coming home, but my back is killing me and i just want the pain to go, holding dd3 hurts me, and peters alarm keeps going when i am feeding her as well.

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misdee · 18/08/2006 08:59

carer cant be left with kids.

i am losing it here.

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hunkermunker · 18/08/2006 08:59

You have an ENORMOUS amount on your plate atm, Misdee, sweetheart - I would say take the path of least resistance for now - if that's stopping bfeeding, then do it, but I suspect it may be easier to resign yourself to feeding her while she adjusts to Peter being home - I may be way way off the mark here though.

Have a huge hug - I wish I could give you a break, I really do x x x x x

hunkermunker · 18/08/2006 09:01

Who can be left with the kids? Peter's mum? SparklyGothKat? Do you have Homestart in your area?

hunkermunker · 18/08/2006 09:01

Although I don't think that Homestart can be left with the children either - could you pay a babysitter for an hour while Peter's carers are there?

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misdee · 18/08/2006 09:02

carrying on would be easier, but i cant do it anymore.

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misdee · 18/08/2006 09:03

right nowi just want to run away from them all

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hunkermunker · 18/08/2006 09:06

I don't blame you at all, Misdee. I'd be more surprised if you were totally on top of everything and loving it - you've had stress upon stress for months on end now.

I just wish there was something I could do or say to help.

What happens if you need to go to the doctor or something? Do you have to take the girls with you? Did you get the carers to come for any extra time? It must be stressful having them in the house too.

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misdee · 18/08/2006 09:09

if me or the girls, or peter go to the docotrs then its like a family outing,m we all have to go, or if its peter he can take a vad trained person with him,

dd1 ended up at hospital on sunday night, had to call his mum to sit here whilst i went down the hospital with her.

i think i might go hide in the kids playhouse later and lo9ck the door.

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hunkermunker · 18/08/2006 09:17

Can his mum come and give you a break this weekend? If anyone comes over to see you all, I would suggest you "pop out to get a loaf" or some other feeble excuse and take your time over it.

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misdee · 18/08/2006 09:21

his mum is coming over to do dressings tomorrow. i may just run out of the door and not come back. will have to take kids with me though

sodding 3 hours a day.

dd3 is now playing happily and walked off with a cup of moo-juice.

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hunkermunker · 18/08/2006 09:27

Can you talk to her then? Tell her you'd really appreciate it if she'd babysit one night so you could go out?

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misdee · 18/08/2006 09:32

oh no. she keeps commenting on stuff i should be doing. once my mum gets signed off for training i might get a night out.

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MatNanPlus · 18/08/2006 09:35

what is her problem misdee, personally i think you have coped so brilliantly with all that has happened.

Sounds like sour grapes because you have got on with everything and deep down she knows she wouldn't have been able to?