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Infant feeding

Get advice and support with infant feeding from other users here.

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Long term breastfeeders........can I pick your brains please?

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MrsAnthonyKiedis · 06/08/2006 21:31

Did your dc ever have nursing strikes? If so how long did they last, and how did you persuade them to feed again?

11mo dd has not fed since Tuesday, and flatly refuses if I offer it to her. Is this the end? Don't know what to do

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popsycal · 06/08/2006 21:33

not sure i can help - ds2 is 17months and has nto had a nursing strike......

(who are you in disguise as btw?)

Cappucino · 06/08/2006 21:34

I'm sure there'd be something about this on kellymom

I have a vague memory of reading the word 'strike' on there

HarpsichordCarrier · 06/08/2006 21:35

spidermama has experience of this I think.
or maybe tiktok is around.
don't give up, I spent 3-4 days away from my toddler at a time and still get up my supply.
good luck...

Eeek · 06/08/2006 21:37

my ds suddenly stopped feeding although later at 18mo. I took it as self weaning and gave up.

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MrsAnthonyKiedis · 06/08/2006 21:54

Thanks anyway for replying popyscal

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MrsAnthonyKiedis · 06/08/2006 21:55

Ooh cappucino, good idea, had forgotten about kellymom. Off to have a look, thanks

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MrsAnthonyKiedis · 06/08/2006 21:58

Eeek that is what I am afraid of

HC have already CATed spidermama . Started another thread a few days ago, but feel worse about the whole thing now. The way she writhes and screams if I try to feed her, I just can't see her going back to it. Am gutted tbh.

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squarer · 06/08/2006 21:58

for some bizarre reaon I remember Spidermamas nursing strike thread

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MrsAnthonyKiedis · 06/08/2006 22:09

Thanks squarer, have had a read and it is v helpful, as dd has been on strike for 5 days now, and am feeling a bit panicky.

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Squarer · 06/08/2006 22:24

I know nothing of strikes, but am glad it helped. Am pretty sure strikes have lasted longer than SM's too... bet there are loads of Mnetters who can tell you this too, but Mnet seems quiet atm

Squarer · 06/08/2006 22:25

betcha Tiktok comes back on duty tomorrow and has a good sweep of this section too

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MrsAnthonyKiedis · 06/08/2006 23:10

Thanks squarer, I welcome any advice! Have been hoping tiktok does see it, but felt a bit cheeky asking her outright all the time!

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MrsAnthonyKiedis · 06/08/2006 23:19

Oh one more thing (please) I am not in the slightest bit uncomfortable despite not having fed for 5 days. Does this mean anything re my milk supply? Thank you

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womblingalong · 07/08/2006 08:35

Not able to add anything, but bumping for you. good luck!

NotQuiteCockney · 07/08/2006 08:40

At this point, I think your milk supply is no doubt really solid.

You've probably already tried this, but what about taking a bath with her? Or just generally being nude without explicitly offering a feed?

geekgrrl · 07/08/2006 08:41

aargh, a nursing strike. I'm afraid to say from my own experience it can go either way. It seems to depend on the child's age - my dd2 went into a nursing strike when she had a bad cold at 15 months old and weaned herself . It was really upsetting at the time, she used to feed so frequently.

My ds went into one when he was 8 months old so old after he'd bitten me a few times and I had shrieked at him for it (hard not to really!). He came round again after a few days.

I presume you've tried all the usual stuff, like trying to feed dd in her sleep or in the bath?

I feel for you, anyway. It's a sad way of stopping breastfeeding, if that's how it's going to turn out.

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MrsAnthonyKiedis · 07/08/2006 08:51

Ooh the homepage!

womblingalong- thanks for bump!

NQC and geekgrrl- have tried to feed her in sleep, but she's a very "thrashy" sleeper, also does not usually go to sleep on me, so have little opportunity. Ditto baths- she would be climbing all over me. She's a wilful madam

actually gg, think I did shout because she bit me the last time she fed, and she cried, do you think that could be it? Feel horrible if so

Off to try all your suggestions again, onto day 6 and no feeding now.....

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geekgrrl · 07/08/2006 08:53

that could be it, but don't feel bad about it - 99 times out 100 it probably makes no difference, and it's a bit hard to not shout when someone bites your nipple with very sharp milk teeth.
It's One of Those Things IYKWIM.

FrannyandZooey · 07/08/2006 09:21

Mrs AK

it's so common, especially around this age and especially if you yelled a bit when she bit you. I went through the same thing with ds who is still very keen on bf now. I tried feeding when he was falling asleep, that worked quite well. Also giving lots of attention (LLL leader I consulted said it's also a sign of life being too busy for the baby so to get your attention they do something drastic! That was certainly true for me at the time).

Did you get the Kellymom links? They are quite helpful, will go and fetch them.

FrannyandZooey · 07/08/2006 09:22

nursing strike

Good luck, I know from experience it can be an emotional time

FrannyandZooey · 07/08/2006 09:24

Just read about the sleeping thing - do you ever use a ring sling? Could you rock her to sleep in one? It's a great breastfeeding position. I would think a day or two of sling carrying (with your breast right at hand and lots of closeness) might help things out anyway.

pops · 07/08/2006 09:24

My dd stopped feeding suddenly at 7months. She would go mad if I tried to feed her. She also would not drink so I had to feed her on expressed breast milk and baby rice in addition to her other solids. I continued to express until she was a year old. It was very upsetting at the time but she was quite determined ( I fed my son till he was 13 months old).

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MrsAnthonyKiedis · 07/08/2006 11:13

Franny thanks so much- was hoping you would be along!

Links were very helpful, one in particular where strike lasted 40 days gave me some hope. Don't have a ring sling, just bog standard forward/rear facing carrier. Really want a ring sling though, intend to get one for next time. Unless you think it would be worth getting one now?

pops- what a hero for expressing all those months. I am not getting very much out at all. At this stage does anyone know if it would be worth me hiring an electric pump?

TIA once again

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FrannyandZooey · 07/08/2006 11:38

Mrs AK it depends whether a ring sling appeals to you for trips out and about anyway. I adored mine and used it till ds was 2 (still occasionally use it now). Toddlers can ride on your hip sitting up, and it's so cosy and companionable having them there so you can chat and make eye contact. It makes shopping a lot easier as the view for them is more interesting so they are contented for longer, plus other people talk to them. They are more on an equal level with the adult world instead of down by our knees somewhere. Plus you can get in all sorts of shops you never could before - go up stairs - nip into small gaps - fantastic

I will stop before I get too evangelical

But yes if you like the idea generally and were considering one for next baby I would get one now. Takes a little getting used to esp as your child is older - she may protest at first! Get her in it and get moving, the ride and the view will entertain her. Then you could work on using it for cuddles at bedtime.

I think if it carries on and you are determined to continue trying, I think an electric pump would be a good idea. You don't want dd to try to have a suck and then get dis-spirited because there is only a little milk there.

I wish I could help more. Would you try ringing your LLL leader? Mine was wonderful and they completely understand the emotional side of it. Most people if you tell them, will just say things like "Oh, that's good isn't it? You won't have to wean her now" and assume it is a relief for you

I have seen you about loads of course MrsAK but am crap at names - what was your previous name pls? And is AK the bloke from the RHCP as I think he might be, or have I got that wrong too?

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MrsAnthonyKiedis · 07/08/2006 11:49

Thanks Franny, will get onto all the suggestions pronto. Am usually threelittlebabies, but changed ages ago for a specific thread, as you do, and haven't changed back yet! Yep AK is from the "Red Jelly Peppers" as ds calls them. I worhsip him

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