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You Know How People Talk About Rude BF People?

56 replies

NotQuiteCockney · 29/06/2006 19:08

Well, I met one today!

I was at Running Club, and holding someone else's toddler. She was a lot heavier than DS2, even though she's a good bit younger. And I was complaining, gently, about how heavy she was, to a woman I don't know very well (not part of the running club).

She immediately went off on a whole rant about how baby cows put on weight quickly, and how can people give babies dairy, and goat's milk is so so so much better and closer to breastmilk (I thought it was a little closer? Maybe?), and ranting about chemicals and hormones and all sorts of crap.

And I ahemed a bit. And said, oh, but this baby is adopted, so her mum couldn't really breastfeed. Oh, mad scary woman knows women who've adopted and bf. Well, ok, that's possible, but it'll be bloody hard work, particularly if you haven't bf before.

It was wildly bogglesome. I mean, ok, I think maybe the girl I was holding had had bottles at the park before. But the woman talking to me didn't know whether I had breastfed or bottlefed my kids. What hurtful things to say to someone you don't know, on such a delicate issue!

I was deeply boggled. I don't know this woman very well, and don't think I will be getting to know her much better ...

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marthamoo · 29/06/2006 19:11

Baby cows put on weight quickly because - news flash - they're baby cows. It's a cow thing !

Loopy loo. Get really good at running then you can run fast if you see her again.

NotQuiteCockney · 29/06/2006 19:12

Her daughter and my DS1 have played really well together. And she's been a bit helpful before, when I've been struggling at running club (sometimes it's hard work, when you have more kids than you know what to do with!).

But, gah! What a twit.

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Greensleeves · 29/06/2006 19:18

How peculiar. What did you say after that - how did you get rid of her, I mean?

Pruni · 29/06/2006 19:21

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bran · 29/06/2006 19:26

Does she actually know someone who has adopted and breastfed? I suspect that it's almost an urban myth in that everyone's heard about someone who's managed it, but it probably only happens in 0.001% of adoptions. I usually just roll my eyes when faced with other people's holier-than-thou opinions (other people rolling their eyes at me really irritates me so hopfully it has that effect on others).

Tinker · 29/06/2006 19:28

Just stare at her and then say "I must get back. To earth."

NotQuiteCockney · 29/06/2006 19:50

Oh, I pointed out that I'd read that weasel milk was actually closest to human. And that they do change cow's milk to make formula, so that it's closer to human milk.

She expressed surprise that children grow at all on it (although they gain weight too fast? WTF?), and kinda wandered off. I think she realised I was not agreeing with her.

Bran, she said she knew "people" who had adopted and breastfed. I think they were people who'd lactated before? Or maybe she was basing it on that one woman on telly who did it? I'm very very pro-bf myself, but good god, I think expecting women who adopt to bf is mad.

I don't actually believe anything she said, anyway, as I heard her, earlier, telling someone that her daughter was allergic to all the "poisons" on some (presumably) non-organic grapes: the herbicides, fungicides etc.

Mad as the proverbial box of frogs.

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NotQuiteCockney · 29/06/2006 19:51

It's funny, you know, we eat mostly organic food. I don't use formula, and am very pro-bf, and this woman still annoyed me greatly.

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LeahE · 29/06/2006 19:51

"Hmmm. Thank you for sharing your opinion."

Repeated ad nauseum until she gets the message or wanders off...

NotQuiteCockney · 29/06/2006 19:53

I was just surprised and thrown off. If I'd known she was mad before, I would have avoided her.

I quite liked her before this conversation, despite the mad "allergy to non-organic foods" nonsense I overheard. (I hate fake allergies.)

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Greensleeves · 29/06/2006 19:54

LOL good response. She does sound as mad as a mongoose.

Oh well, one born every minute

dinny · 29/06/2006 19:56

she's probably a Mnetter

Greensleeves · 29/06/2006 19:57

PMSL... it wasn't Franny was it?

NotQuiteCockney · 29/06/2006 20:00

I probably gave her more credit than she was due, because I was a bit of her quite startling abs etc. She has one child, at least, and is startlingly thin and fit, and forever wearing a bikini, which isn't a fair reason to take a dislike to her. But this is.

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NotQuiteCockney · 29/06/2006 20:01

Oooh, you're right, it was Franny/hc.

Seriously, I know some people on here have been asses about BF (and against BF), but not like this! And everyone always says, oh, but nobody would talk like that in person. It turns out some of them do.

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Greensleeves · 29/06/2006 20:01

It was Franny!!!

threebob · 29/06/2006 20:02

Nutter alert for this one.

dinny · 29/06/2006 20:02

where does she wear her bikini, NQC - running club?

NotQuiteCockney · 29/06/2006 20:02

I haven't seen Franny in a bikini, so don't know about that.

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NotQuiteCockney · 29/06/2006 20:04

I always and only see her in the park, which has a paddling pool, so the bikini isn't totally random. (Running Club = a group of people who get together and swap kids to run. She's not in Running Club.)

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dinny · 29/06/2006 20:06

where do you live exactly, NQC? SE London?

she sounds awful, lol.

bran · 29/06/2006 20:14

Perhaps she is an otherwise sane and rational person who is a bit overly obsessive about childrens' diets. I suspect that having children can bring out latent anxieties in normally laid-back people. I know someone who is entirely ordinary in every respect except for a 'thing' about toys. She soaks her child's toys in Milton regularly and wouldn't go to a mother and child group until her ds was about 18 months because the toys there didn't get disinfected regularly. I knew her slightly before kids and she wasn't hygiene obsessed then.

Mercy · 29/06/2006 20:15

I dread coming across these types - sounds more norf London to me

Caligula · 29/06/2006 20:20

LOL how entertaining. If I had great abs at my age I'd take the opportunity of wearing a bikini at every conceivable occasion too, irrespective of the appropriateness or otherwise of it. Even in mid-winter, I wouldn't let the fabness of abs go unnoticed.

She's obviously bonkers. Was she carrying a tablecloth?

FrannyandZooey · 29/06/2006 20:20

A-hem

I was coming on to say very calmly and rationally that this woman wasn't really a BFing arsehole, NQC, she was just an arsehole.

I met someone like this a while ago and she was banging on about single parents - she didn't know me, or whether I had a partner, or anything, and it was highly highly offensive. It just so happens that the one you met today is offensive about BFing - it could have just as easily as been something else.

However now I find you are all maligning me (esp you Greeny and will you kindly check your answerphone ) so you can just all drown in your non-organic dairy produce and I will huff off over to another thread to count my stomach muscles in peace

(I think the stomach thing would be a major clue it was NOT me )

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