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can't seem to breast feed

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bamboozleslover · 26/06/2006 11:30

i realy want to breastfeed my 2 day old ds but he won't take to it. he has a few sucks and then gets disinterested and comes off. what can i do?

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tiktok · 28/06/2006 15:27

I agree - call them today!!

The bf support may be great for social support but for sorting out the issues....maybe not so good.

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bamboozleslover · 29/06/2006 12:40

rang the NCT helpline and they suggested i reduce the amount of formula milk he has gradually and build up the amount of breast milk, so that is what we are working on now. i wish i had never been so eager to get out of the hospital now and given him a bottle!!

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kiskidee · 29/06/2006 12:50

really really pleased you phoned the helpline. they are patient & knowledgeable so get in touch whenever you need support.

is this your first baby? are you able to just go to bed and have a 'babymoon' and just feed feed anytime he squeaks?

this is where you could get out of all the tedious chores because "I am building my milk supply for our baby."

LIZS · 29/06/2006 12:57

gald you phoned them . Do they have any post-natal support groups local to you and/or a bfc who could visit ?

kiskidee · 29/06/2006 13:02

LIZS just reminded me that the NCT has postnatal support groups all over the country. \link{http://www.nct.org.uk/local/here} is their national website, follow the links to find the NCT Group in your area. it doesn't matter if you are a member or not. they are there for all mothers - including mothers who don't bf.

kiskidee · 29/06/2006 13:03

here is the link

makes note to self to always preview

Jasnem · 29/06/2006 13:14

Try this one!

welshmum · 29/06/2006 13:19

Bamboozle - you're right it can be really helpful to go to a local breastfeeding group too. The woman in charge in mine was just amazing - and you got warm homemade scones with jam and cream too and someone else made you a drink (it was one of the main reasons I went ) Met some great mums in exactly the same boat as me too - which is a strange and sleep deprived vessel and I was glad of the company. Hope it carries on going well with your ds.

liquidclocks · 29/06/2006 13:37

Bamboozle - been popping on your thread for a few days but not posted as didn't feel had anything to add. Just want to say well done for keeping trying and don't give up!

My DS couldn't (rather than wouldn't) latch on because his mouth and suck weren't working properly, we also had tremendous difficulty finding teats for bottles. Looking back though I wish I'd been encouraged to express as he's now got a poor immune system and I can't help feeling that I could have done more. At least if you try you'll feel you've done everything you could. Having said all that if eventually it doesn't work don't feel bad - some of us just can't and sometimes it's baby, not us.

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bamboozleslover · 30/06/2006 12:13

kiskidee unforunately can't blackmail anyone into the chores cos i'm makign milk for our baby cos the df wants nothing to do with him. he won't even acknowledge that he is his dad - keeps trying to put the blame on any tom, dick or harry he can think of - including his own friends so some of those are quite annoyed with him atm. it cuts me up that someone could just not want anything to do with him - first few days of dealing with that now i actually have him have been hard, but feeling much better now.

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kiskidee · 30/06/2006 13:15

WOW! you are a very strong and brave woman, coping with all of this personal stuff at this difficult time. my hat off to you. keep strong and keep your head up high. and you can always come to mumsnet to have a good cry or whinge.

whispers then you have no one to stop you from sharing your bed with your little man! go along to one of the bf support groups and ask how to co-sleep safely in bed with a baby. it has been my lifesaver as a fulltime working mum. my dh worked away for the first 10 wks after my dd was born and it was incredibly hard. co-sleeping to bf in bed without getting up would have made those first 10 weeks a lot easier.

ps: i know that co-sleeping is not for everyone so i am being presumptious by suggesting this.

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bamboozleslover · 01/07/2006 11:00

not sure if co-sleeping would work. i am only in a single bed, i would be scared of squishing him or him suffocating!!

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kiskidee · 01/07/2006 16:48

i've slept with dd in a single bed when she was tiny. look at this leaflet anyway. it takes some getting used to and confidence, and if you go along to a bf group, ask around and get more information and opinions.

anyway, keep us up to date with his progress.

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