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Infant feeding

Get advice and support with infant feeding from other users here.

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Breastfeeding is gross!!

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Helenemjay · 01/06/2006 12:01

My mil and sil told me the other day that they thought it was gross that i was still breastfeeing my dd who is 8 and half months, there are no bfeeding support groups near at all, we have one of the lowest rates of bfeeding in the country im 27 and apart from one of my friends i am the oly person i know who has breastfed at all infact most people think im a bit weird i think. As far as i can gather from our HV there is 1 bfeeding support group but its in a very very dodgy area and hardly anyone goes! I really dont want to give up bfeeding yet as my dd loves it so much and i enjoy our snuggles, but my sil had her baby a week after i did and she was so shocked that i was still 'doing it' its kind of left me feeling like i have the lurgy or something, how do i rise above this? Even dp thinks i should think about stopping

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mummyhill · 01/06/2006 16:15

Hi Helenemjay. I would love to of been able to breastfeed my DS as long as you have with your DD what you are doing is perfectly natural don't stop till it feels right for you and littleone. Ignore their comments.

RZ Great to hear you are still feeding too hun after all the problems you had with it at the start.

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Helenemjay · 01/06/2006 16:16

LOL at grass them up frannyandzooey! lol

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FrannyandZooey · 01/06/2006 16:38

Well, telling us about such a mind-bogglingly crap attitude is the equivalent of throwing them to the lions really, isn't it?

Hey I know, why don't you print out this thread and post it to them?

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Helenemjay · 01/06/2006 16:44

LMAO fantastic idea!! LOL

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suzi2 · 01/06/2006 21:55

I'd tell them that she is on proper food - your milk!

I do feel for you though, I have had loads of support from family but even some of my relatives are starting to comment on me feeding DS who is almost 10 months. Just little things like "i want to take him for a weekend so you should stop feeding" and a few "bitty" and "hope he won't have a booby fixation" type comments. One of the HVs at my surgery said I was a bit of a novelty still feeding at 10 months and that I should aim to have him down to 2 feeds by 12 months. I asked her why and she said that he'd get clingy as a child otherwise.

When anyone mentions 'pervy' I just act shocked and say "OMG, I didn't realise that DS would be getting off on sucking boobs at such an early age" which usually shuts them up.

Cappucino · 01/06/2006 22:25

Helenemjay I think you're doing so great - I'm still feeding at 17 months and its still so lovely

its nothing to do with them. your relationship with dd and how you decide to feed her is ultimately your decision and not theirs. Your body, your baby

at the dress thing. hope it didn't suit her

sallycinnamon · 01/06/2006 22:46

Hi Helen. I didn't breastfeed for 1 reason and another. Just as it is my right not to bfeed and not to have to justify my actions it is your right to bfeed for as long as you bloody well like without having to justify your actions. Ignore, ignore and then ignore some more!

Piggiesmum · 01/06/2006 23:07

Hi Helen, I think you are doing really well too. It's hard enough work bf'ing without stupid comments from ignorant people. I'm the only one still bf'ing in my post-natal group too - everyone else gave up months ago/started weaning early etc. It seems strange to be made to feel wierd because you're the only one doing whats natural iyswim.

As for your SIL comment about the dress. How pathetically shallow can someone be???? I feel sorry for her kids. Will she always put her appearance/vanity before her kids. I think you know how much her opinion is worth.

Eulalia · 01/06/2006 23:20

Breast milk is 'proper' food - if she wasn't taking breast milk she would still have to have some kind of milk - I guess they think its OK to have formula milk then?

Just ignore and do it as long as you (and your dd) want. :) It is good for her and for you too.

Gingerbear · 01/06/2006 23:20

Hello Helen, keep on feeding your daughter, you are doing a fantastic job. I used to live in Grimsby, and I am not too far from you - Doncaster now. I understand what you mean about Grimsby! My DD is 4 in two weeks time. I breastfed her until she was 16 months old - I too had negative comments, but being bloody minded it made me even more determined to carry on. She weaned herself in the end.
If you need a chat and suppport you have definitely come to the right place.

jaamy · 02/06/2006 00:07

Hi Helen
So glad to hear that you and DD are doing so well, even in the face of such adversity...aka ignorant in-laws!
I have just given up bf - DD2 is nearly 8 months and while I am gutted about it, I think she was ready - didn't seem interested any more and had started biting a bit...anyhow - I am really jealous that you are still BF and I just wanted to echo the comments of others here - you stop when you and DD want to stop. Well done you!

threebob · 02/06/2006 07:30

I found even the most disgusted of my friends and family ceased to comment around the 18 months mark. It's just something to say isn't it in between "is she crawling" and "is she walking".

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