How to stay awake during night feeds part 6 - all welcome to join us!

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Hi everyone, cannot believe we have exchanged over 5000 messages!

mrsn when we shared our locations on here a while back, heff, goat and I all turned out to live near Uxbridge so we met up having met on here. It is lovely, if you are ever down south let us know!

macaroons sounds like we are in the same boat I officially return to work on 15 Feb but that is actually the Friday before half term so only have that day and then another week off before full time return hits. I am lucky that DH is being a SAHD til 1st July so no drop offs, pick ups or worries about the childminder ringing me because babyfunch is ill etc, and she is in great hands with him, much as I have been critical of him til we talked it over recently. However I am worried about being at work on no sleep - I will get in a lot of trouble if I lose my rag with a pupil or indeed a member of my team (one of whom is a pain). I will have to perfect the art of letting some things go (eg uniform issues in the corridor as opposed to in my lessons - I spend a lot of time arguing with pupils about these and intend to stop save for the very worst!) and dealing with others by just reporting bad behaviour to heads of year rather than dealing with it myself. I am head of faculty so will focus just on what happens in lessons in my faculty rather than working quite so hard on having the best corridor behaviour in the school in my area - it is great having that but takes a lot of time, energy and conflict so it will just have to go n the back burner until I am getting proper sleep again. At this rate dd will be in year 7 by then herself and can help me!

Third feed here but after an hour if screeching and complaining. I'm done in. Three hours consecutive sleep, is that too much to ask?

Larle try swaddling it'll help transfer. I put a hot water bottle in the Moses basket to warm it before putting J in (then took the hot water bottle for myself!) That got him used to sleeping in there.

Welcome to all the newbies! This thread is definitely the place to see and be seen! And the resident fairy godmother waves her magic wand and bestows the gift of calm, easy and looooong sleep on all the LOs.

Sorry... Return to earth from planet lala now... Really wish we had one though!

Looks like we are doing the four month sleep regression at adjusted age. last night was a lovely cycle of wake, grizzle, feed sloppily, grizzle, transfer, throw self round bed until so knackered fall asleep. Half an hour later repeat.

Kid is now talking happily to the door handle again - he seems bright-eyed and bushy-tailed despite all! Unlike his haggard mum...

Wow!!! First feed since my post at 12,30am!!! Maybe the waking up and small feed before bed helped? Is that a dream feed?

goat I think that happened to us too - things were going great until he hit 4 months corrected I'm afraid that was now 2 months ago and things are still a bit shit!

I'm in the swaddling camp too! Worked complete wonders with DS - unfortunately he has developed impressive Houdini-like skills and I just can't keep his arms in anymore, no matter how tightly I swaddle him (little monkey).

(My DS was 8mo on Christmas Day, and is 2 months premature, by the way )

Another bad night here - woke every 1.5 - 2 hours. DH seems to be trying to prevent me from feeding DS when he wakes up screaming the house down but frankly I want the quickest route to shutting him up and going back to sleep. I'm also a bit bitter that I am now up getting ready to go out while they are both still fast asleep upstairs I guess this is how DH feels every weekday morning

Did I say that I'd reinstated Ewan the dream sheep? He is doing a fab job! I forgot to take him with us over Christmas, and ended up using a white noise app on my phone, and it is amazing the difference it makes to getting him to go off to sleep.

Up here for morning feed so I got another 4/4.5 hours!

Girl My little one is 16 weeks today!

Brain I have no idea - the OP wanted to do it to her baby but didn't say why!!

Izzy that's a great stretch!

Heartily agree with Tea - have just got a Ewan and my goodness, the difference! Last night we got 6-12 then 1-6! Plus we've had a 1.5 hour nap this morning where we'd normally only get 45 mins. While I don't want to abdicate responsibility or a mechanical toy, I luffs that sheep!

Anyone else swimming? Took DD on Friday and the half hour in the pool absolutely wore her out - got a solid 5 hours that night

Morning all and hello to all the new ladies! Was MIA last night as phone died . babyfunch excelled herself - woke for a bit at 6, which bearing in mind we normally spend 5-7pm desperately trying to keep her awake was a bit galling since last night I was in bed by half five!

She slept a lovely long stretch til feeding at half 12 but then was wide awake, and a bit too early for our plan to have worked as we had only had about 5 hours' sleep

DH ended up taking her out in the car which sent her to sleep but she woke within ten minutes of getting back at about 3 . So I brought her in bed with me which got her loads of sleep but I got very little as my hips hurt lying on my side, and she wailed regularly if she lost latch. I don't want her to feed all night long as I am back to work mid feb, plus she is becoming enormous! And it would not be ideal reflux wise either.

I am in work for the day tomorrow but then I will be getting tough i have said this so often before!

We will be up at 8 every day and making sure she naps properly at lunchtime and does not start her nighttime sleep at 2!!!

DH and I both feeling a bit miserable, it is ruining parenthood for us to be honest, but this too shall pass etc.

Hope everyone else is feeling better than me today! sorry not to namecheck, better go as we are off to visit friends which will cheer me up!

Poor you funch :( are you having any more luck with bottles? I'm finding them no magical cure but they are adding structure to our day.

stunt thanks for gro bag tip to stop him wiggling everywhere - will try that!

DH let me have a lovely lie in today, I feel a bit bad as he never gets one although he does get lots of sleep.

I did one bf during the night but that was the only time I felt I had milk and my boobs have been hurting last couple of days (not engorged) so not sure what's going off.

DD being a monkey this morning, she seems a bit hyper & bored! Trip out may be required ASAP!

I'm finding posting more difficult when bottle feeding, he likes to hold my finger so I don't have a spare hand but I def wasn't blissfully asleep last night! X

funch I am sorry to hear that babyfunch's sleep is making parenthood shard for you. I do understand thugh - for ages DH andi hadtotagteam absolutely everything with Kid, which meant we pretty much never saw each other. Things have improved vastly ( although after last night I may change my mind on that!) so every do often we get to eat together or some such radical event! I'm sorry that I have no wise advice though, other than the feeble it does get better. Not helpful I know!

tea don't tell me I have two months of last night to look forward to!! You are amazing, still dealing with sleep deprivation after 8 months. (So babytea was born on 25 April? In my country that's always a holiday... )

mickey don't call Ewan a mechanical toy, he might hear you! He is a god! (Though not convinced he is a he... surely he would be Ramon if that we're the case?)

Hi to everyone else and am off back to bed now DH is up... Zzzz....

Oh funch I'm sorry you are feeling so rubbish - sending lots of virtual hugs although I have no real advice. Can you speak to your HV? I hope your visit does cheer you up!

Mickey we might be starting a swimming group in Feb - glad to hear it tires them out.

I have just cleaned and sorted out the nursery, feeding little man then grabbing a shower! Then the in laws are coming round later, Yey

Oh and I'm starting to absolutely HATE nap time such a mare getting him down & half the time I end up taking him out in pram (won't be able to do that now DH back to work).

We use mam dummies and he's decided today he's not intrested. Great! Contrary mary! Groan! X

Hello all especially the new people.

We had a very unusual night in that babyloo woke at 3 for a feed and then screamed for two hours unless I carried him around-I had to wake dp at 4 because at nearly two stone I physically couldn't carry him-not sure what's going on - teething maybe?

Sorry you're having a rough time funch. It's relentless at times. I'm getting desperate for a night out as in babyloo stays at my mum's but there's no way I can leave him and not worry as he is still waking at least twice a night and that's a good night.

I've got a major Chinese craving and dp isn't playing ball because we are skint now I'm on SMP-I'm not great at being denied what I want food wise

Maybe it was joining this thread, but had the best night last night in a long time (admittedly can't be that long as dd only 6 weeks old...) - woke dd to feed her at 10.30, then she slept through til 2.30 this is because I fell asleep cuddling her as bloody knackered, then woke with light still on Up again at 5.30 and 8, but feel a little bit human today. Also helps that have semi-abandoned the dead-of-night gaviscon, as dosing her up at night seems to do the trick.

All attempts at feeling human ruined by inlaws turning up with minimal notice at crack of dawn 10am

Horrible last two hours

We've had a repeat of last nights middle of the night screaming, his little face is on fire so it must be teeth. He's had some calpol but is screaming every time I put him in his cot. Attempting transfer number 456,567000 ish...

Oh no susie have you given ibuprofen too? You can give both and we found it worked better & lasted longer with DD. we just use to go all out - teething powders, bonjela etc! Hope you have a good night xx

Poor little man susie and poor you! Hope you manage to have a good night.

I'm just watching Dancing On Ice then will go up to bed with baby Pattz. Probably won't be sleep time though!!

I'm going to try and get a Drs appointment tomorrow, then the post office - I'm sending off some of little man's clothes to get a keepsake rag doll and blanket made. If anyone is interested then I would highly recommend Babybundles Gifts - I already have a bunny and they are just perfect. She personalises them with name, DOB etc. Her page is on my FB! It's such a lovely thing to keep.

I then have my first counselling appointment at 5!

Oh Susie that sounds truly awful. I really hope things improve very quickly.

Thanks for everyone's kind words, I felt dreadful this morning when I posted that but feel much better now after some morning sleep as DH took babyfunch to the church where she will be baptised (as it is in Stratford - he was an altar boy there ). Hope God saw the bags under his eyes and took pity....

Friends we visited today were lovely. They have two kids and were so sympathetic and supportive. They are going to be her godparents and took loads of effort being really hands on with her which was wonderful. Their two kids (almost 2 and 4yo) were lovely with her too and she stayed awake almost all afternoon til 5:45 so maybe, just maybe, we will get a bit of sleep! . I am at work tomorrow so fingers crossed!

Sleepy dust for everyone!

Just a quickie as have had horrendous evening with Missmarbles. Sounds similar to Babyloo, and whilst I am sorry you are having a hard time too, Susie, I was really encouraged to read your post, as she has done the same thing. It's reassuring to know that it's unlikely to be anything serious, and just another phase. It took from 6.30 to 9.10 to settle her; we had transfer failure after failure and she sounded in pain when she cried settled when picked up but stirred straight away. She's seemed a wee bit refluxy again, too. I've also gone back to smooth purees with weaning as she has taken to spitting out any lumps which she has been more than capable of managing up to now, or just plain not opening her mouth I think her teeth are giving her gyp, hence slavering and burping up a bit more, and it would also explain the decision to go on food strike.
I've just heard her again, but it was just a whimper and all quiet again. Last night, we fed every 3 hours, but I was too exhausted to post. Would like to get some decent stretches tonight, but not hopeful.
I loved that link that Tea posted the other night, as that is how I think of it, especially as I know how quickly they grow up (DD1 is 7 and 9 months already), but I would love a decent night's sleep. I don't sleep well when pregnant from really early on, and whilst sleep now is better quality, it is such a rarity, I haven't slept well for over a year
Sorry this has turned into a self-indulgent moan. Knackered as DH been poorly today too
Hope everyone has a good night tonight.

Up again and cue round two of the screaming every time I put him down, I've got ibuprofen calpol ready, thank you amey, in case he doesn't settle any time soon, its been an hour so far and all he wants to do is sleep on me which is very unusual for him, will be attempting transfer number 89 million in a minute, don't hold out much hope.

Oh susieloo (DontYouJingle here post Christmas name change), I have had a lot of this recently only succeeded in getting dd2 to sleep in her cot by getting in there with her. I was that desperate I climbed in, lay down with her until she went to sleep then climbed out again. Co-sleeping would be easier, but I don't want her to get in the habit of coming into our bed now.

Big sympathies susieloo that sounds like a night with DS when is teeth are bad - it is really tough going. Everyone I know recommends ibuprofen for teething pain too, so fingers crossed that helps. Just wanted to mention (as I didn't realise this until someone told me) that you should only give them ibuprofen in conjunction with a feed, so they don't have an empty stomach (just as we would).

We all had an early night here tonight - everyone to bed at 9 - but I can't sleep

Evening all
Hope we all have good nights ahead.
Until now we had been taking Babypea to bed at 10pm with us but he seems to regularly fall asleep at 9 so came to bed early with him tonight. made no difference as was awake again at 10:20 and now feel like I have three night feeds to do rather than two . wishing I stayed awake until this feed now. Feel much worse for just an hours kip.

We are approaching the 6 week mark (wednesday) and am dreading the growth spurt - not really sure what to expect and if him being ff will make any difference? He has slept loads during the day today including a 3hr nap which is unheard of for him. Wonder if that is growth spurt related or just him getting over his illness (was in hospital for the day last weds with suspected mild bronchitis)

Oh susie hope things improve tonight :( Same for you amey

funch fingers crossed for you tonight too, especially with work in the morning.

stitch I've spent more than a few nights squished in to DD1's cot (lucky its a cot bed at least) as a desperate last resort to get her to sleep on nights when I really couldnt cope with any more! DD2 doesn't have a cot bed, I'd have as much chance of fitting into her cot with her as I would of fitting though my letterbox so praying we can get a new bed/mattress soon so co sleeping becomes a possibility on difficult nights.

Had a lovely day today, went to see The Hobbit with my dad which was my Christmas pressy to him as it was his favourite book to read to us when we were little. It was fantastic and also meant I got a whole 3 hours to relax and switch off a bit. DD1 was out with DH so mum said she'd look after babylump and attempt to give her her first ever bottle of ebm, so I nervously left her the bottle and supply of ebm with instructions to call if it got too fraught (DD1 would never ever take a bottle, gave up trying in the end) but when the film finished and we got home she said she'd guzzled it down as if she did it every day...I'm amazed, although happily so!

Off to bed now, hoping for a peaceful night. Going to risk taking the girls to play group tomorrow morning, my first outing alone with them both since we took DD1s nappies off...I'm a little but nervous!

Sorry to hear of the teething troubles. We are a bit away from that although I may have a bad day and night tomorrow as J has his first lot of jags :( I'm not looking forward to it all.

He has slept loads today so I'm expecting a bad night. He is currently snuggled in daddy but we will go upstairs in half an hour or so.

Attempt at co sleeping not going well, ds won't latch when lying down so goes into a screaming fit. He isn't hungry as he isn't properly sucking most of the time so going to try a dummy tomorrow and see if it settles him.
So it looks like we'll be having another night on the chair, major fail.
Tried swaddling but we're not very good at it so have ordered one online.
Bit fed up, I ache all over cos of the positions I have to sit in to feed, can only get him to latch in the rugby ball position, and his head is so heavy my hands hurt :(