I just want to cry

[izzyhasanewchangeling]

I've been pregnant and or bf for 5 years.

I'm an extended BF.

I know what I am doing.

Dc4 was born Sat a whopping 9 pounds.

And is feeding.

And feeding.

And feeding.

And feeding.

Has been on me solidly since before midnight.

Its been like this for 3 nights now.

I'm exhausted.

It feels like my nipples are being stroked by razors.

Dhabi has taken

Glad you are feeling a little better, haven you managed to call your mw or one of the bfing helplines yet?

No - I've had 2 glasses of wine and he slept through dinner so I ate - I'll see how he is - midwife is coming Thursday and DH has banned visitors tomorrow - he thinks me and dc4 have over done it we have been on the go since he was born.

Ill ask midwife what she thinks then.

I'm going to bed now with other dcs to watch room on the broom then DH taking over and I'll just babymoon with baby for a few days - hopefully that will remedy the situation.

I'll regret it if I put him on bottle.

0300 100 0212 National Breastfeeding Helpline. Give them a ring!

And congratulations.

And you are doing a fab, fab job. And you will get through this.

Thanks, I have fed and fed and fed and fed him since 4.30 this afternoon and all night - more or less 5 solid hours.

He is sleeping now, I am hoping that it means he will be more settled tonight.

Thanks - I am at an hour and a half for the latest feed, I dont know what has gotten into DH these last 2 nights, I had to practically beg him to help this morning and he is fast asleep tonight, I guess he is exhausted as well.

Im so sore.

How are things now izzy ?

Not much better - he has been feeding for over 3 hours solidly again - overtime I remove him he just cries.

Midwife is coming tomorrow so I'm going to speak room her.

I'm so sore. That's shock to me - I've been doing this so long I didn't expect to struggle

Having fed for so long I can totally see why it would be a shock, still hink there is a reason for this and most likely tt, it just sounds so much like my DS.

Everytime I remove him even.

If midwife wasn't here tomorrow I'd seek help but she is - I'll ask her bout TT.

Its frustrating I can't move.

Can see why it would be frustrating, will he feed lying down so you can get some rest! Have you got anything for your nipples? Have you had a look at biological nursing? It might help with his latch.

My first was like this, it was a bit of a shock.

It might be proximity he is after not actually milk. Don't know if this would work for you, but recently my 10 month old has not wanted to sleep and on two occasions I have so exhausted that I have put her in my baby carrier and slept sitting up with her on my front. If you have a wrap type sling you could do this skin to skin. You can also feed in one too.

Has your milk come in yet?

Are you drying your nipple and creaming after each feed?

When I was struggling my mum bought me this. I used to spray it on, leave to dry naturally then apply nipple cream. I found it very soothing.

My latch was poor only on one side, but I found using the rugby ball under the arm position helped, maybe if you experiment with positions it might help. Also might help. Failing that nipple shields work for some.

You know it will get easier, but those first days are tough, do as little as you can, cat nap and eat chocolate, you will survive this.

Thanks everyone nice not to feel alone - he has just gone off so I'm going to grab some sleep - have 2 slings bute not had a chance to figure out how to use them.

He does feed lying down which is a blessing and I've deliberately fed him all day so he may sleep a bit tonight.

Got lanisoh now as well.

The other dcs still haven't opened all their presents yet - mean mummy.

We will get there it will just take time thankfully DH has nearly a month off I wanted to make surrounding someone was here for other dcs so I could concentrate on nb.

I'll report back after midwife tomorrow

Milk in I think although haven't had exploding boob syndrome yet.

How are you doing today izzy?

Was the midwife any help?

No, she suggested a bottle or expressing and bottle feeding .

We have been baby mooning today and most of yesterday and we seem to have turned a corner this evening, milk has fully kicked in which has no doubt helped, he is still feeding a lot, but he is at least sleeping between feeds for hlaf an hour or so, I literally have just stayed in bed with him, I havent even ventured downstairs today.

DD and DS and DH have been pottering in and out of the room, Ive grabbed a bath, tandem fed (all 3 of them, but thankfully the oldest was just after a try).

I think with Christmas we overdid it.

DH has just tried to take him for 10 but he has screamed the house down, someone just wants to be with mummy

Nothing new here, but I'd echo the tongue tie (and you might need to try several different people before you find someone who has the knowledge - took the NCT to diagnose DS1's - all the mw's and even the NHS bf councillor didn't look / notice).

And if he turns into a high needs baby, sling! It was the only way I could get anything done. He's a lovely preschooler now tho!

Hope everything settles down soon (and if needed, remember the old wives tale about chocolate and cake being required for lots of lovely high calorie milk. It might not be true, but any excuse!)

Strangely enough I sent DH to shop for more chocolate this afternoon and I have been craving chcolate milk shakes!

Well you are the one with the milk

at the midwives advice indeed, they are meant to be supporting your choice to breastfeed fgs!

Sounds like things will get easier now the milk has come in fully, once his tummy gets a little bigger he will no doubt go longer.

Ive been recommended a clinic where the woman who runs it can diagnose and snip, so I am going tomorrow, hospital isnt able to tell me if it is open! But they think it is because room is booked.