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18 month still breastfeeds at night.

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ruty · 27/03/2006 14:06

18 month ds co sleeps with us. He didn't until he was about 5 months old, by which time i was so sleep deprived and he was sleeping so little we gave up and put him in bed withus. We have all slept brilliantly ever since. the problem is, he has always woken and wanted to feed on and off through the night, and it hasn't bothered me, but i would like him to sleep thru the night now. He has a bedside cot and sometimes rolls into it but usually climbs out and wants to feed again. Is anyone else still doing this at this age? i don't mind too much but wonder if its bad for his teeth and how we are ever going to stop. Intend to wean at around two - but its going to be difficult.

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suzywong · 27/03/2006 14:08

you don't need to stop bf ing your child at bed time but you can stop him waking in the night.

And IME, and I did this twice, the only answer is for you to sleep in the spare room and let dad sleep with him for a couple of weeks. No bosoms = no reason to wake up.

Sorry there's no quick fix, but jolly good show on the extended BF

Tinker · 27/03/2006 14:09

Was there lots of loud crying involved sw?

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ruty · 27/03/2006 14:11

thanks SW! He screams blue murder even if i go to the loo at night and we live in a block of flats so I'm a bit worried about trying! Also DH gets up so early he needs his sleep. May be the only way but I don't quite know how we're going to do it. Sad

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suzywong · 27/03/2006 14:15

yeah they blub and kick up for the first three or four nights, just explain to you neighbours and with the hour going forwars he may be getting up early anyway so this may be a good time to do it.

DOn't tell anyone, but when we did it we medicated wiht a bit of calpol just to help the sleeping a bit, only for a couple of nights and as I say, don't tell anyone

Tinker · 27/03/2006 14:55

Hmm, neighbour was screaming "shut up" through the walls the other night...

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ruty · 27/03/2006 15:08

Tinker oh no! I think we might get served an ASBO!

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suzywong · 27/03/2006 15:09

well actually , we didn't get our youngest to do it without feeding in the night when we liived in a flat, wasn't until we were in a house

Sorry to be so blunt but it's blinking hard

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ruty · 27/03/2006 15:16

if i wait until we move he might be five! Grin

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suzywong · 27/03/2006 15:18

well we could hear our upstairs neighbour wg so I thougt it was tit for tat really, but we just couldn't go through with it, the crying that is

Hopefully someone harder will be on to give advice soon

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ruty · 27/03/2006 15:19
Shock
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Tinker · 27/03/2006 16:31

I'm thinking we might have to wait until we move - or when they go on holiday.

buffythenappyslayer · 27/03/2006 16:42

my dd is 20 months and still wakes during the night for a booby!ive been trying to get her to stop,but she just screams until she makes herself sick.got told by her paediatrician (she has cystic fibrosis) that i should go away for the weekend and leave dd with dh.thing is im her main carer,i do all her physio,so thats not really an option.health visitor told me to let her scream during the night.thats not an option either as i have 4 other kids who have to be up for school.also dh works early til late,so hed be more stressed than me!
sorry cant offer you any advice,but just wanted to say i know what your going through!(dd also sleeps with us,and wont even go near her cot which is against our bed with the side off-i end up in there when she starts kicking about during the night!!)

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ruty · 27/03/2006 17:05

phew! much sympathy buffy.

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ruty · 28/03/2006 16:54

does anyone else have any experiences to share, or are you all thinking I've dug myself a hole now I have to get myself out of it? Grin

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Tipex · 28/03/2006 20:15

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ruty · 28/03/2006 20:22

similar situation tipex! Oh dear.

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TheBlonde · 28/03/2006 20:26

Hello
I don't cosleep but my 13 mth old has been waking 1-2 x per night for feeds
Early evening like Tipex's - I have put it down to teething but I'm worried it's becoming a habit
Saying that he slept straight through last night

No useful advice to give only sympathy

dinny · 28/03/2006 20:29

Hi Ruty, my ds is 18 months and feeds about 2-4 times at night still. Can't get him to stop as he gets hysterical if I leave him cry and dh can't settle him. Am also wondering how he'll ever stop bfing!

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ruty · 28/03/2006 20:31

I would just love to sleep on my back for the whole night!

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dinny · 28/03/2006 20:34

I have forced myself to put him back in cot after have fed him and not bring him in bed anymore. Miles more tiring though - soooo tempting to bring him in for the night.

Have to say, am starting to feel more and more often when he grabs a boob (which he is doing more and more atm!) "OOh, no, please leave me be for 5 minutes!"

Tipex · 28/03/2006 20:34

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dinny · 28/03/2006 20:35

he's so rough too - have bruise on breast bone where he suddenly right-hooked it last week. Shock

dinny · 28/03/2006 20:36

dh just said to me that he thinks ds is feeding about twice as much as he did at a year old.

popsycalindisguise · 28/03/2006 20:41

my almost 13 month old is still waking constantly in the night. 3 times on a good night. I don't have the energy right now to sort it. But when I do, I expect t will involve a lot of crying. Luckily our neighbours bedroom is no where close to ours

popsycalindisguise · 28/03/2006 20:42

BUT
I hve started saying 'all gone' to him sometimes and he occasionally rolls over, thumps dh in the back then goes back to sleep Grin

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