Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Infant feeding

Get advice and support with infant feeding from other users here.

Original poster

extended breastfeeding sites / forums

32 replies

mamaLou13 · 12/02/2012 22:35

do you know of any ? My dd is 18 months old and showing absolutly no signs of self weaning im just interested to hear other people's stories etc.
Thanks

OP posts:
EauRouge · 13/02/2012 09:14

18 mo is very young for self-weaning! Most children won't self wean until they are at least 2. How are things going? Are there any LLL groups near you? You'll probably meet mothers breastfeeding older babies and toddlers there.

There are quite a few of us on MN too, I am BF both my girls, the eldest is 3.4yo (and showing no signs of self-weaning!)

This is a really good book with lots of info on BF toddlers.

mawbroon · 13/02/2012 11:01

There are loads of us on here. Smile

TheCountessOlenska · 13/02/2012 14:40

Breast feeding a 22 month old here - although I never planned to let her self-wean I am coming to terms with the fact that I will never get round to weaning her - so it will have to be by her doing!

TangerinePuppet · 13/02/2012 14:58

Hello :)

Look no further as there are loads of extended bfers on MN with plenty of great advice and funny stories to share!

DD is 2 and still bf.

Original poster
mamaLou13 · 13/02/2012 21:54

oh great ! Everyone ive encountered around my area has only bf until about 6 months but it is a very small minded community. I am not keen on breast feeding her when she goes to school or really past about three as but it is mainly because of other people looking down at me (family members included, dh thinks its excessive to feed her past two and theres no need but i don't really know how to wean her other than having her screaming and begging me which is torture for the pair of us and im not willing to do that but.... just can't see her ever self weaning. (I love feeding her though and certainly don't want to stop yet)!

OP posts:
Eclairwaldorf · 13/02/2012 21:59

Marking my place - have been meaning to stop bf 20 month old ds for 14 months now Blush and as previous poster says without a daily screaming match...

Also need to get him to sleep in his own cot but I guess that's another thread [sigh]

Eclairwaldorf · 13/02/2012 22:01

Sorry didn't mean to say all if the previous posters should stop bf- ing, but that's what I am millions for advice on Blush

wobblypig · 13/02/2012 22:06

My DD 28 months - no indication of giving up.

Most people I know are really surprised when she starts diving down my top at home or when she is out. Funniest thing is when she sees my come in or out of the shower and she says ' Hello Boo boo' -

devonsmummy · 13/02/2012 22:13

My DD is 29 months and although I feel ready to stop she has other ideas! I'm sure she'd feed all day if I let her.
Interested to hear any suggestions to cut feeds/ stop feeding at this age.
DS stopped at 22mths as my periods came back then & wanted to start ttc. He did cry at night but gave up quite quickly/easily.
DD on the other hand is gonna be a nightmare!

TheCountessOlenska · 13/02/2012 22:18

wobblypig that is so funny, DD says exactly the same thing! (and also "hello spot" when I have a spot which is less endearing tbh)

Eclairwaldorf · 13/02/2012 23:37

Ds makes a very loud growling sound when he sees me coming out of the shower/ getting changed etc Blush was funny the first few times......

TCOB · 13/02/2012 23:41

A very happy BFer with a 19mo DD - just a couple of times a day but we both love it so no reason to stop. Love love love the fossicking around my top and the polite but firm 'Booby?' she comes out with. Sort of thinking that if we keep it nice and low key then I won't really force the issue - in fact feel a little bit sad at the thought of her self-weaning Sad.

AngelDog · 14/02/2012 20:55

Yes, the book EauRouge recommends is very good. It covers continuing to feed, reducing and stopping feeds, and has chapters covering bf at 1, 2, 3 and 4+ years.

My 25 m.o. is a long way from self-weaning yet. :)

Gincognito · 14/02/2012 21:00

My 15mo has recently developed the delightful habit of trying to stick a hand down my top at any given opportunity and grabbing a nipple.

'No darling, no rummaging...'

When I am at home he still feeds multiple times a day and I have no intention of stopping until he is ready.

Original poster
mamaLou13 · 14/02/2012 23:25

My dd always has to have her free hand down my top and twiddle with my other nipple it's quite funny but when we have company it can be embarrassing as she likes to totally pull my top up and expose me! The idea of her self weaning does feel sad to me aswell i can't imagine not feeding her sometimes. It's so nice though when she just gives me a really big, tight cuddle because normally she just wants milk from me and no cuddles! (o:

OP posts:
Fraktal · 15/02/2012 07:07

I plan to let DS self wean, although DH may need convincing of this because he wants to TTC again soon....

DS has just developed the lovely habit if screaming whenever I get changed and don't feed him. Also public boob diving and top tugging.

mawbroon · 15/02/2012 09:31

Believe you me, by the time they get to ds1's age, self weaning will be a blessed relief!

Gincognito · 15/02/2012 15:54

I guess though, mawbroon, that they will eventually be forced to stop when their adult molars come through? Or am I going to be posting bm to my ds' university address? :o Bloody feels like it sometimes!

mawbroon · 16/02/2012 07:29

That's what I thought too Gincognito, but ds1 has his two bottom inscisors, three adult molars and a whopping gap at the top at the front. None of these have deterred him.

I think I am going to have to take the bull by the horns cos selfweaning just ain't happening.

Gincognito · 16/02/2012 07:34

I think you would be perfectly reasonable to do so.

mawbroon · 16/02/2012 07:42

I let him keep going because he was really unwell, but he's good as new since he got his tongue tie done, so now is the time.

It's hard when ds2 is still at it all the time though. Feels like it's rubbing ds1's face in it a bit.

I'm sure I can bribe him with Lego or something.

JoinTheDots · 16/02/2012 07:47

Just saying hello, still feeding DD all the time and she is just about to turn 18 months. I cannot imagine her ever wanting to stop, but hope when she does it will be painless (emotionally) for both of us.

hazchem · 16/02/2012 09:51

I think we are about to start being in the extended breast feeding range. DS is almost 1 and neither he, me or his dad feel ready to stop.

I keep saying to people (doctors, HV's) we are still breastfeeding but i would like a better phrase. What do you all say?

Fraktal · 16/02/2012 10:25

I say we're feeding in line with the WHO guidelines Wink

lovingattachmentparenting · 16/02/2012 19:16

Many years ago I observed a woman breastfeeding a child of pre-school age. I was a teenager at the time and thought it was a bit odd. Never would I have thought that 22 years later that would be me.

Breastfeeding has always been enjoyable for both my son and I. One year changed to two, to three...............

My son just turned 5 last week.

My daughter self weaned at 2 1/2 years old when I was pregnant with my son. My son on the other hand, although he has been "weaning" in a manner for the past couple of years - he only nurses 2 X in 24 hours for a few minutes each time, is still going.

When it comes to anyone other than our immediate family, we are discreet. We just don't talk about it with others. Good point Fraktal made too, if your child is under 2, the World Health Organization encourages until at least 2 years old. That made my mother in law stop gasping at the time.
www.mumsnet.com/te/1.gif
All the best,
Christine
www.loving-attachment-parenting.com/breastfeeding-toddler.html