Night weaning

[choccybox]

Hi

DS is 1. He is bf and feeds about 3-4 times overnight. He hassles lots in day and bf a few times as well as having water. The time has come to night wean for my sanity

So for the past two nights I have not been feeding him between 11-5 and doing whatever we can to get him to sleep but he is awake for around 2 hours crying/playing/anything but sleeping. When he is fed after 5 mins he is back asleep but I think he is in a routine of waking for this.

Any tips? I don't want to do cc, just ways to get him to sleep and for him to forget about milk overnight

Thanks

Sorry that should be eats a lot in day, bloody iPhone!!

Give it a few more days, I'd say and if there is no improvement, I would go back to feeding to sleep and try again in a few more weeks / months. You need some sleep but he may just not be readyand 5 mins is better than 2 hours.

No Cry Sleep Solution has various ideas, didn't really work for us (neither did your technique - yet!) but might be worth a shot.

Thanks. He may not be ready but he eats so well in day. Am going back 2 work soon and may need to work occasional nights and he won't settle with anyone else.

Well I'll see how we go over next couple of nights.

Any other
Ideas?

We are night weaning DS 14 mos again - it was successful once but I started feeding him overnight again after he had a stomach bug and we just sort of slipped back into a routine of night BF's. Here are some things that helped us. Do it at a time when it's OK if you're a bit more tired than normal during the day, you will have more resolve. Once he's down try to have someone else go into him for all the wakings for a few nights - if he's used to seeing you and your boobs he will get upset the first few times but he will quickly learn just to go back to sleep! If he's just grizzling give him a few minutes - I set the timer on my phone for 10 mins - to seeifhecan figure it out himself. Be consistent and stick with it. You've probably got a few nights to go. Good luck!

We had problems nightweaning dd as we wouldn't settle without bf. We were having all sorts of other probs and knew at some point we'd have do some sort of sleep training. Spent weeks with no cry sleep solution to no joy, until a friend gave advice of a technique she'd used. Basically you train baby to go to sleep by themselves - you sit by them all the time and you stroke them and talk or sing to them if they cry, but you basically wait until they fall asleep. Took us three bloody hours the first night but since then she is night weaned and wakes once or twice a night instead of every one to two hours. She went from co-sleep bf to sleep to sleeping in her own room. I can give more details if interested.
There is crying but can you soothe your baby all you like.

Thanks

Clarejane yes I chose this time as I can cope with a few sleep disturbed more than usual nights. Hope it goes well for you this time.

Nectarina, is that the shush pat technique? He can be resettled without feeds for past few days but the wakings are even more frequent. Here's hoping that in a few days it will sort itself out, but he is dribbling a lot today and hands in mouth a lot so think teething may mean we feed overnight for a bit longer.

Hi Choccy, we were in the process of night weaning my 15mo dd - put on hold as she's got some molars coming through. Haven't seen her this upset before :(

My DH had made a bed on the floor next to her cot and when she started stirring in preparation for waking up he would put a hand on her to soothe her back to sleep before she fully woke up. It was working pretty well - one night she woke once for 5 mins!

It's quite hard on DH as he has to do all the wakings now. Two nights ago she woke every 45 mins so last night I made the executive decision to feed her again.

Ah, so lovely to cuddle up with her again, not so lovely to not get any proper sleep!

Choccybox
No its not shush-pat. We couldn't get that to work. Ive posted details on another thread if you're interested.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sleep/a1394888-What-worked-for-us-Hope-this-helps#29775534

jeepers choccybox you could be me! DD is about to turn 12 onths and i had the same thoughts.. she co sleeps and can wake as aften as evey hour on a bad night ( ear infections, teething) otherwise every 3 hours is normal for her. I am split.. id love her in her own room, yet i am wroking and sleep, however little and poor matters! I work maybe 3 nights a month. She is hard work for my au pair awake pretty much from 1 am till 5am last time! but DH manages better with yer only waking once.. quick bottle and back to sleep. Dh is a heavy sleeper and im sure this makes a difference. DD is variable in what she eats during the day, some days she eats well other not so well. day time bf are down to early morning, about 3pm ( sometimes) and evening 7 pm feeds before bed. I have tried the no cry system.. no works! I have found with othet two dc's that they need to be older for cc to work for both of us. I may try DD back in her bed next week when DH is home again for a week and try him getting up to her so no boobies on offer! Just that the lack of sleep vs feeding .... I have no answers evidently .. just let you know you are not alone and i believe they will sleep in their own rooms soon!

Thanks for the replies.

Missrose, i think it may be the molars here too, took forever to get to sleep tonight. Will see how the night goes but may feed as he seems in pain/grumpy.

I'll have a look at the link thanks nectarina.

Chloeb the one thing I do try to think when I am completely knackered is that it will end and there will be a time when they just go off to sleep on their own soon i hope

I think i'll dig out no cry sleep solution again and see how that goes too.

Thanks again

Well I think I may have made a breakthrough!!

Last night he took ages to go to sleep (about 2 hours of trying to play, etc, no crying) then when he was asleep slept for 5 hours then quick feed then slept till morning

Here's hoping its the beginning of new things