New baby question - night feedings... please reassure me it will get better or advise about formula!

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I love breastfeeding or at least I did when I had daughter no 1 and we nursed well over a year.

However daughter no 2 (11 days old) is wonderful during the day - feeds every 2- 3 1/2 hours and sleeps a lot in between (completely unlike no 1 who was active from the word go) but at night... ARG. She wakes every hour to hour and a half. I'm knackered. With no 1 I could of course sleep during the day but with no 2 I have toddler to deal with. I'm exhausted already and husband hasn't gone back to work yet. I'm dreading it.

I'm just about out of zombie mode at some point during the day but I really don't want to spend the next 6-9months in a daze. I know I was very sleep deprived with no1.

I've already started to think about a formula feed at night. I know friends of mine from first time round did this. Bf mainly with a feed at night just to get some sleep.... would it be so bad?!

Or will she settle down in future or are her days and nights muddled?!

Any advice welcome. During the night I am really beginning to resent her waking up and wanting to feed :(

nickel - I've got something very similar to the milk-saver that I use during the day when I nurse on the other side. It's a lifesaver. I haven't got it to work lying down yet as if I move about it tips out (I really am talking 1/3- 1/2 of a glass of milk too - it has to be seen to be believed!)

I'm also still struggling when feeding out and about - went to a music group (for older child!) and despite there being pads in there my whole top was drenched. I just bunched my sling up on my lap to try and cover it and pretended I hadn't noticed...

:(
I hope you solve it soon.

My sister has her 3 and 2 yr old sharing a room and they have done from her youngest being a couple of months old. At least then you get them both trained in one go. She thinks it's the best thing she did for sleep. If you have no sleep you will find it hard to be at your best for your kids and you'll get so stressed.
The excessive leakage - doesn't really happen to me I'm afraid. I just swell to almost bursting, unless I lean on them in which case it goes everywhere. Have you tried expressing before you go out? Works for me. I then take this bottle out, just in case it is inconvenient for me to feed him. I've only had to use it once.
Again good luck.