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AIBU to be secretly glad DS doesn't take a bottle?

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PenguinArmy · 20/12/2011 14:40

It's quite early days, so things might change and I will probably keep trying on a ad hoc basis but

I have firm reason to say no to helpful Hmm family members who insist they
need to take him for hours to help us out.

Don't have to express, I returned to work quite soon with DD and she was BF to over a year but oh my, did I come to hate the pump.

anyone else?

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HoneydragonAteCliffRichard · 20/12/2011 14:50

Both of mine were bottle refusers. Ds made life loads easier through his adamant refusal to take one ... As Sil didn't approve of bf after 6 weeks.

Both went onto cups a 4/5 months so they only missed comfort rather than milk if I really had to be somewhere.

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PenguinArmy · 21/12/2011 15:02

just me and honey who are willing to admit then Xmas Grin

DS has a lovely pink cup waiting when he gets to 4 months

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Eviepoo · 21/12/2011 15:16

DD won't take one either, not really, at 17 weeks I'm introducing a cup now, she is just getting the hang of it. But yeah I like being her main carer, I only leave her with DH and she will maybe take 2 or 3 ounces of expressed milk from him, never anymore never from anyone else.

mrsalwaysawake · 21/12/2011 15:29

Me! Spent ages trying to persuade ds he wanted to, but now we've given up I'm glad we can't take MIL up on her offers to look after him. They don't know each other very well, so I'd feel really uncomfortable leaving him with her!

theboobmeister · 21/12/2011 18:56

I'm with you penguin Smile

dycey · 21/12/2011 20:31

And me too... Saves lots of explaining and don't have to go out to things Id rather not or if I do baby HAS to come!

Yawner247 · 21/12/2011 20:47

Me!!! But I'm getting fed up of people saying can't dh have her whilst you come out.....the answer is always dh lacks the ability to lactate I'm afraid Grin

NanBullensBlingtasticBaubles · 21/12/2011 20:48

YABU, i hated that dd wouldn't take a bottle. i needed a break! although she is my second so not my pfb Wink

she's 10 months now and just decided to take a bottle alongside proper food which is a relief.

And as to being her main carer? I'd like my husband to be her carer too, and he loves being able to feed her now.

I just think time away from my dd is a godsend Grin but then i'm not a mummy martyr like a lot of posters on the breast and bottle feeding forumHmm

EssieW · 21/12/2011 20:52

YANBU. Neither or mine took a bottle. To be fair, I don't think I tried 2nd time round. Too much faff involved to do anything else.

duvet · 21/12/2011 20:55

It means they have to hand the baby back to you too ...Grin

TruthSweet · 21/12/2011 21:20

DD1 had bottles (mostly bottles for 1st 8 weeks), DD2 had 1 bottle at 2w and possibly 1 more after that, DD3 turned her nose up at 4m and didn't have one until she was 6m and I was in A&E.

I quite liked DD3 not having a bottle as it meant when she had bronchiolitis I had a cast iron reason not to switch to formula as she had never had a bottle before. No way was I going to stress her out with a bottle when she was so poorly and I was engorged from all the milk she wasn't taking. She had syringes or an NG tube if she couldn't bf. When she could bf her heart rate went down and her O2 sats went up as she nursed Grin.

Did quite confuse the Drs/nurses 'So how many ounces does DD3 have?'
'I don't know she's bf.'
'But when she has a bottle, how much does she have?'
'I don't know she's bf.'
'What all the time?'Confused
'Yes'
Confused x 100

GoldenGreen · 21/12/2011 21:26

YANBU. It suits you Smile. I never even tried dd with a bottle (didn't manage to bf dc1 for very long and think I went to the other extreme with dc2!).

MIL - and others - clearly thought I was being a martyr but I didn't understand this since I never complained.

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PenguinArmy · 21/12/2011 21:42

I don't mind being a mummy martyr, it means DH does early morning wake-ups, baths, majority of housework while I feed Grin

Glad other people find it the easier option. From my point of view the work that would have been required to attempt to ensure DS takes a bottle regularly far outweighs someone coming and taking him for a few hours once every 2-3 months.

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PenguinArmy · 21/12/2011 21:44

truth that's lovely that you got that technical feedback on how great BF was/is for her

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Bibbo · 21/12/2011 21:48

With my PFB DD I didn't try that hard to get her on a bottle and tbh I was secretly pleased she only wanted me...

2.5years later I still couldn't leave her with PILs for babysitting...

self-weaning be buggered!

Am 12wks pg with number 2, and this one WILL take a bottle (as well as breast obv)

TruthSweet · 21/12/2011 21:52

Still is bfing now at 2.2y - though luckily she is on some great drugs now and doesn't end up in hospital EVERY time she has a cold (we have really shitty genes do DH & I).

It was amazing to see her heart rate drop from 170+ to

Debs75 · 21/12/2011 21:54

None of my girls liked bottles.
I expressed loads for MIL to take DD1 out and she never told me she wouldn't take it, just brought her back starvingShock
DD2 again hated bottles and anything silicone
DD3 again just me, she will sip water from a sports bottle but won't touch milk
DS1 loved bottles.Hmm

Do sometimes feel a bit smug that the girls loved my milk so much. I don't get a night off but they are only young

TheBrandyButterflyEffect · 21/12/2011 21:55

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Bibbo · 21/12/2011 22:00

DD used to say it 'tastes even nicer than ice cream'

I always love telling my mother that as it really grosses her out!

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PenguinArmy · 21/12/2011 22:07

bibbo DD has been having my expressed milk, she loves it, gulps it down and then asks for more (21 months - she weaned in pg). Haven't told MIL that one yet

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TruthSweet · 21/12/2011 22:29

Penguin - DD1 (who is 5.9y and self weaned at 3.6y) had a taste of bm off my finger the other day (don't ask!). She went all dreamy eyed and said 'it tastes as yummy as I remember it did'.

HoneydragonAteCliffRichard · 21/12/2011 23:17

We have been invited to a birthday party. I really really don't want to go, and so won't Grin I love being a martyr. Dh is NOT happy as he can use a BF toddler as an excuse not to attend.

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PenguinArmy · 22/12/2011 12:32

DD sometimes has milk off my finger as well.

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nethunsreject · 22/12/2011 12:36

Yanbu.

Nothing wrong with wanting to be close to your baby, regardless of feeding mode. I dislike the 'ooh, we'll take him' attitude of my relatives.

Now he's a toddler and you don't see them for dust Wink

WoTmania · 22/12/2011 13:05

YANBU - they've had their 'turn' and there are plenty of other ways to help you out and/or to bond.