I got my first 'oh are you still feeding him?' comment today!

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I was quite excited. Lady looked quite taken aback. DS is not quite 6 months!

I have comments along the lines of "Well of course when they get teeth then you should be stopping breastfeeding" - had this quite a few times recently with ds4(just 1) and have found it annoying - but people never know what to say when I then tell them that ds3 stopped when he started to get his "big boy" front teeth. This time I intended to get to two and see how it goes from there again.

I don't get the comments anymore 9 months in, but I do get the looks...

I'm the only one still ebf'ing in my nct circle, most didnt even try it, I work full time too, I love the ease of feeding and the closeness it brings; but the nct lot are all "poor thong, isnt it tying awfully, looks of pity that I can't share it out" .... they don't get it at all, i love it, my dh cant feed no, but he does his fair share of other stuff

And the annoying thing is, if I were to say to them how great ot is, i no doubt wpuld be accused of gloating about breastfeeding!

Thing not thong, bleeding phone!

DH's very pro bf granny once I got past 6 months was just amazed I didn't 'take anything' to help with my supply- she was always so dumbfounded by it!

It's just amazing how little people know about bf, especially older babies and children and I am quite staggered by the 'are you still milking' question

I got the 'when are you going to stop BF' question yesterday about DS3 who's 11 months. I just said I always planned on feeding to at least 12 months but didn't really give a specific answer about when we plan on stopping. Friend said she thought that at about 15 months they got a bit old for BF as they aren't really little babies any more.

Instead of challenging this I didn't really say much but I wish I had. It's just this friend chose to FF from birth, which I really don't have a problem with, but I always feel as though if I were to talk about BF it looks as though I am gloating about it!

It makes me feel sad though that already people think DS3 is too old to be BF .

DD still bf-ing in public at 15 months, though as I'm back at work full time we also use formula. No comments yet but if I did get one I'll just look at them and say "yep!"

I was asked today by my friends mum - "thought you were going to give that up"

DD2 is 22 weeks old.
The only reply I could muster was - " well it's so much easier than when I bottle fed dd1"

I try to explain that I co sleep and yes dd2 feeds in the night it's NOTHING like pacing the floor trying to get screaming colic dd1 back to sleep like I had to first time round.

ChippingIn it was far more a case of why not, it just happened that way, I always assumed one day she'd stop asking. She is and always was a very grown up and independent child in every other way.
Sometimes she wouldn't ask for days at a time and I'd think she'd given up and then without a word she'd snuggle up on my knee and lift my top. Always in private and always at an appropriate time. She seemed instinctively to know how to ensure there was enough there for comfort and how to work it so mum would have had to have been utterly heartless to say no.
I guess I should have known that"baby led weaning" was never going to work when the "baby" said I'll give up BF when I start school and then added, but weekends and school holidays don't count

My dad asked me, but in a nice way ie "all still going ok with the feeding" not a nasty "what on earth are you doing that for" way. DS is 8m.

My Dad and one of my brothers got a bit twitchy about it when DS2 got to 2.6, he's two weeks shy of 4 and I think he's stopped. Maybe. Til he asks to nurse next. Although he will now go a couple of weeks between nursing so you never know.

I get the looks of pity and comments like "You must be so tired, don't you just want to have a break from it sometimes" from my NCT group too. Or worse, the really fake "You've done soooo well, you deserve a medal". I am still bfing at 15 months and they all stopped quite early. I can't help but sense they just want bfing to be a struggle and a burden for me to reinforce their own decisions to switch to formula.

I'd forgotten about this thread!

It's DD's birthday this week, and my mom has finally said the magic words I've been waiting for for months. She couldn't hold it in anymore, I think it's damn near killed her

"Now that she's one, I think it's time for you to stop giving yourself to her so much and reclaim yourself. Start dressing nicely and taking more care over yourself. You've sacrified enough." I did in that order.

FFS. I don't know where to start with that! Told her to stop being ridiculous and she'll stop when she's ready, and you know, jeff off about the rest

This is why I started the 'extended' bf thread.

Dd's first birthday yesterday and how many times have I had this conversation this week? What changed exactly?

Cannot wait to see MIL this weekend. She's been asking when I'm going to stop since dd was four weeks. I just keep saying 'Well the WHO guidelines say 2 years don't they? So at least until then obviously' in a really passive aggressive way. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

Love your mum's comment seeksnewname - you've got some great material there for a couple of hours of feminist analysis. I should take it to the women's right board :) 'reclaim yourself' - arf

And do these people really who make arrogant comments really think there views are even an blip on the rador compared to your hungry baby, probably why I didnt notice anyone even looking, I got the odd "oh put them away" in jest off my friends which in fact helped build my confidence about BF in public. I think my parents generation where dreadfull deprived when it comes to BF'ing :/

I fed DD1 till she was 16 months or so, she gave up all by herself in the end and found a beaker and cuddle before bed took less effort lol, which is still the routine now, although now she is old enough to read me a story :D

I actually had quite a long period of tooth denial, caused by FIL's observation that obviously teeth would knock the thing on the head. So people would ask how many teeth and I would say "Oh, just the bottom two" and then baby would grin and they'd point out the top four, "Just nubs, really...." A male colleague's choice of phrase was rather odd - isn't it about time you moved on to the real stuff? By which he didn't mean cows milk, he meant formula.

I have a fiend who was born with teeth, so not sure what the people who think teeth will stop you would make of that!

A fiend, Cosmo? They're usually born with teeth, aren't they? Big, crooked, scary ones?

I had my first 'are you still feeding him?!' comment at TWO WEEKS.

Um, friend obviously

Should have seen the faces when I was 'still feeding him' at twelve months.

Had my first "Are you still BF?" accompanied by cat's bum face this week. DD is only 8 months old!

Was it from someone you knew skates or just a randomer?

haha Unruly! She also thinks I was off work too long and that I run the risk of making myself unemployable because of the govt's plans to introduce bf-friendly employment laws.

Having bf me for 6 months, you'd think she'd 'get' it a bit better, but mostly she's just one of these people who think that their way is The Way. She's harmless really

I'll come and have a look at your thread though, now I know it's there.

kicking - two weeks ?!? was it really just 'are you still feeding him'? I'm always tempted to say 'no, it's starvation diet from now on.'

My brother told me that DS2 (he was 3 - DS not the brother) would be mentally disturbed and still BF at 15. I told him that if he cold find any evidence it was harmful I would consider forcing DS2 to stop.

Interestingly the most supportive person in my family has been my grandmother. She even told my dad off for making comments. She's is wonderful.

I've got my new answer all worked out;

MIL: 'are you still breastfeeding then?'

Me: 'no I gave up when I was 2 months old but Millie's still breastfeeding. God knows when she'll stop.'