Justbeingmummy - I hope that your CBT helps with your OCD & anxiety, it must be really horrible to feel the way you do about things/life. I really wasn't being glib though, I think it's important to realise that babies are quite resilient, that there is a lot of incorrect and/or conflicting advice out there and that you can't be down on yourself if you believe something that you have been told that isn't right or do something when you don't know any different.... all you can do, as most of us do, is your best. It is scary how ill informed a lot (not all as there are so lovely ones on here!!) some HV's and MW's are, very scary x
I did realise it was your second :) Were you worried about things when your first was a baby? OCD & anxiety aren't too respectful of you already having had a child are they!
No I don't add the powder to water that is very hot as it does kill the nutrients and yes, it's fine to keep boiled water in the fridge.
The cartons are handy if you can get the ones you need, but generally I'd only use them if flying (just easier!) or if going somewhere else where getting a cup of boiling water is going to be a complete pain in the bum and I can't be bothered taking a flask and faffing about (a day out in a remote place walking etc).
70/30 - if I am making it because I think the baby will want it in a little while I will just make it with 70% water at 70deg. This gives me the option of heating it up or cooling it down depending on the 30% of water added.
If I'm in a hurry I boil the kettle and put the water straight into a bottle that is sitting in a container of very cold water so that it reduces the heat quicker than if left in the kettle. (I know pretty much how 70deg feels when I shake and hold the bottle, so I don't take the temp). I then put the powder in and mix it thoroughly and add the 30% of water out of the fridge.
As for sterilising - many people still do it because it's the way it's always been done and it stops them worrying about having to wash them properly, but if you put them in the dishwasher or handwash them carefully and let them airdry, it's completely unnecessary. Or you can just do the teats in the microwave. You just need to be sure you get all of the milk off/out of them. I think it is a bit
when you first hear it as it goes against what a lot of people have done for a long time :)
It all sounds like a faff, but honestly it's just becomes second nature.