Is there a breastfeeding while pregnant thread already?

[MummyBerryJuice]

If not would anyone like to join me?

Experienced and first time feeding while pregnant mums welcome. I'm almost 11 weeks with DC2 and am still feeding DS (15 months). We are currently working at night weaning him (although he is incredibly persistent) and he still feeds 3/4/5 time per day, although he is starting to eat more solids.

I don't know anyone in RL who has fed whilst pregnant or tandemed and it would be great to be able to share frustrations etc with others.

So please come and join me, or point me in the direction of the right thread

Could it have been the heat beyond! Ds is little and often (solids and bf) when it's hot and humid.

I think that was truthsweet's dd...bless.

Can't remember if it was Moonface or MBJ (or someone else) that recommended HnM clothes for skinny DD. Thanks :) popped in today and they look great. Might be able to put in tops and trousers now (dresses are more forgiving for bad fits)

Hope everyone's pg are going well. Am 30 weeks now and starting to get sore nipples but otherwise really well.

What's your EDD, PA?

Can never remember exactly either 14th or 15th Oct (so technically could be tomorrow that I'm 30week ) but will be asking for a CS so don't know if they're normally done at 38 weeks or not.

I think they try between 38 and 39 weeks. Do you mind me asking why you want a C/S?

I'm due 18/10 (but my money's on the 10/10) my ribs are starting tom spread and I'm starting to get very ache-y IYKWIM, and my nipples are in agony. Really, really sensitive. It doesn't help however that DS's latch is atrocious at the moment. All teeth

Anyway must go to sleep. Am knackered.

Oh dear, at least I don't have a feeding baby to contend with. When she's in bed with us the lashing around and accidentally catching them is bad enough. Are you not on the Oct antenatal thread?

Don't mind at all, DD did some damage on her way out (third degree and have after effects) and further damage isn't a risk I want to take (if that makes sense?)

Nah! Am on too many other threads can't keep up with another one.

PA how have they been with you requesting a ELCS for that? I'm thinking I might have to ask for one too (the doctor ignored my concerns when I saw her, so am going to speak to my midwife about it). I'd love to have a natural birth again, but not if its going to fuck up my vag even more than the last one

dunno yet, I won't be in the PCT I'll give birth in for another month yet. I get the impression from other people it comes down to consultant. Some you have to convince not to have a CS and some vice versa

As for getting them to take you seriously my understanding is that they don't take urine issues as serious (coz it's considered normal after childbirth like - well you put up with it) so you have to play up other issues (or lie)

Like you I'm not worried at all about giving birth and sad about CS but it effects my day to day life as a inconvenience atm and don't want it any worse.

DS is going through a phase of 'attacking' me as soon as I sit down. It is very, very frustrating. I don't mind feeding him a few times in the day, but this is getting ridiculous! [

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hi everyone.

Good luck for your cs requests penguin and beyond. I feel for you, for needing them when you'd rather not and for feeling you might have to fight for them. Double crap.

Still getting attacked mbj? And are you feeling a littly parkey? Mind you i was over at brid at t'weekend and the east coast seems far from tropical atm.

We've been to bed once tonight when ds fell asleep at half five. I was so tired i decided to follow. Then he woke up again at seven and as dh is working i had to get up again...though i would have loved to stay in bed!

I'm trying to sort out my work stuff which fills the small bedroom...it's not a massive physical challenge but i find it exhausting. Is anyone else really tired?

Still no colostrum here. There's a thread by someone else about that atm.

Have ordered an aquadoodle for my nephew's birthday. My sil, his mum, is having ds2 by cs in a fortnight and hoping to bf this time so hopefully that might help occupy him. He's turning four and starting school two weeks after so hopefully she'll be able to spend the days bfing. I really hope it works out for her this time as she was quite upset when she couldn't bf her ds. I got her some info from lll re bf post cs and want to support her but obviously also want to tred carefully so as not to appear pressuring...

that's a really usefull link mbj thanks. I've bookmarked to read more of the site later.

Now i'm watching "cherries parenting dilemmas"...not quite as usefull but part of life's rich tapestry...or summat...

Mbj, sorry, had popped in to ask if you got your chicken pox immunity test results back....but forgot to! So...?

No! Not yet, but actually, I'm not that worried anymore .

Will ring them today.

Hi!

Anyone around?

Ds is being super cute atm doing slightly odd toddler things. I can't believe new baby will be as cute...i'm feeling kind of sorry for them both.

what they lose out in some areas I will gain richly in others. That's what I'm reminding myself.

Hi, just back from yoga

DS is going through a difficult patch in terms of sleep but is so, so adorable in the day (except when he has his inexplicable tantrums)

Really finding it difficult to visualise this baby - but the yoga and some mindful relaxation/meditation is helping. I really want to try for as natural a birth as possible this time (augmentation, epidural and massive episiotomy last time) so am really trying to prepare myself.

Glad to hear you are all well.

penguin i know you are right...honest...i do.

Mbj dh and i have been joking about getting a tiny wig and set of prosthetic chops...because i can't get my head round this baby being anything other than a replica ds. when i was pg with ds i used to have long baths and "connect" with him. No such luck this time. Ds is so clingy atm i can't be upstairs and him down. But the hypno cd i'm using has made a big difference to how i feel...giving me time to focus on this pg. Have to dash

I did find it a bit tricky for the first couple of weeks, partly because the birth didn't go as I'd hoped and partly because DD1 is so full of personality and DD2 was this squidgy little baby and although she was very cute, she didn't do anything. I'd forgotten that with newborns you are constantly giving and not getting much back until they are a few weeks old. It's horrible admitting that I had problems bonding because I'm just as nuts about DD2 as I am about DD1 now.

So I suppose after that long ramble my point is that you will be fine, bonding will happen but don't feel bad if you have moments when you're not sure about the whole 'having 2 children' thing. And don't forget to ask for help!

Hey ladies, would anyone mind if I crashed this thread to ask a couple of questions? Sorry it's long!
I'm 7 weeks pg and Breastfeeding my 17mo DS.
In an ideal world I'd like to continue feeding through my pg and then tandem feed both until they choose to stop. However...

I'm suffering already with very sore boobs and feeding is excruciating. I've endured thrush 3 times, mastitis and blocked ducts but nothing has hurt this much! I'm hoping this won't last the whole pg, but can anyone give me any tips to ease the pain?! I feel bruised and drained dry!

I'm also very worried about how on earth I'll cope as I get bigger with physically fitting a writhing toddler on my lap. Can anyone suggest how to best make this work?

And finally I'm already beginning to despair about how to cope with a large bump / hungry newborn through the night when DS still likes a night feed and early morning milk. How can I get our house in order between now and then to ease the transition for everyone?

I have ordered a copy of the Adventures in Tandem Nursing book but it's out of stock and I have to wait. I'm in urgent need or some encouragement and support so please, if you have any experience, can you give me some pointers?! Thank you!

i would just recommend going with the flow, it can change so quickly that I don't think it's worth looking too far ahead.

Sorry that probably doesn't help much but think back to the first few weeks BF where you just took it day by day, then week by week.

I wanted to carry on but didn't while someone who got pg at the same time and really struggled in the 1T (when I had no problems) is still going strong. It's so dependent on your individual circumstances how DC respond to lowered/changed supply, and DC age and temperament.

Hi there LaTristesse, I am sorry to hear that you are in so much pain . I did find the first trimester really difficult in terms of nipple sensitivity AND exhaustion. How often is your DS still feeding?

I did (and have) found myself using various strategies to minimise or shorten feeds as much as possible (DS was still feeding through the night until mid June - about 20 weeks - which was the worst of it). I offered a lot more cow's milk in a cup/favourite snacks instead of a feed and if he was/is absolutely hell bent on having a bf, I would let him feed until it was getting too much, and then tell him I would give him a count down to ten after which he had to come off. That seemed/seems to work quite well.

The nipple pain (for me) eased off almost completely in the second trimester and it seems as if it what does happen usually.

Unfortunately DS's writhing has become worse, which I put down to him struggling to get any sort of volume of milk, so I am hoping that will change when DD is born, but I actually haven't found it to be a problem. I am rather large now (almost 31 weeks) and we just work around the bump.

The emotional ambivalence has caught me off-guard. I know is normal, but I do go through periods where I just can't stand home feeding at ALL and others where he morphs into my sweet little baby boy

Also, have you read the sample chapter and some of the articles on the Kellymom, tandem link? They are mostly written by Hillary Fowlers (I think) and can be very encouraging.

We are here to listen to your frustrations and commiserate too, but I just want to add that if you feel unable to cope or that you feel that nursing while pregnant is damaging your relationship with DS, there is no shame in weaning him or cutting down on his feeds.

Come and chat and moan here, we know what you are going through.

Hi latristesse. Congratulations!

I would just echo what others have said...it changes quickly, my pain also went in the second trimester. Ds has almost stopped feeding in the night in the past months (though we're having fun with the 18m regression atm ). And the bump isn't the problem i thought it would be. In short at 33wks the picture is quite different to how it was at the start.I also have moments of irritation with ds...ican't stand it if he tries to touch my other nipple which he does a lot.

I have found bf a good way to ensure a sit down and to stretch naps when i'm tired and i'm hoping it will do similar when dc2 arrives.

I agree with others, take it as it comes...you can always reasses as things go on.

Re the transition i decided not to do anything! I'm gonna try cosleeping with both and if that doesn't work ds will move in with dh (who currently has the luxury of his own bed). I didn't feel it was worth the upheavel of trying to change things based on my assumptions of what might work. But this is partly because ds is quite young (he'll be 19m) so doesn't understand that much. I'm aiming for my ideal (all cosleeping)...if that doesn't work i'll adjust our arrangements accordingly.Do stick around and ask more q's if you like...or the same ones again if we haven't covered everything!

EauRouge thank you for your honest and encouraging words.

Mbj how's the yoga? Sleep (rubbish here atm)? Chicken pox results?

Penguin how's all the move etc going?

Just a quick one

Yoga - excellent
Sleep - hit and miss More miss than hit and even when good still not sttn.
CP - immunity is fine