OK - I am going to get flamed - DD Christmas present

[StealthPolarBear]

DD (15months) got a "baby" complete with high chair, push chair, bouncy chair, feeding bowls and spoons and a bottle.
The bottle has accidentally vanished.
Because DS never got "girly" toys he play breastfed his toys at slightly older than DD - DD has already been taught to feed the baby a bottle.

(NB I didn't swoop in and snatch it off her - she played with it and then when I was tidying it all away that was put into another bag)

This was all from MIL - should I mention it to her or not? I don't want to be argumentative but I think she might actually understand. Or would it just be bad manners?

Hmm....

I don't really see the harm of it. I had baby dolls and bottles etc when I was little and I was obsessed with breastfeeding my DC; still breastfeeding DS2 (17months) pretty much whenever he wants it.

To answer your last point, would she even notice if the bottle went missing?

No she wouldn't which is why I'm happy to do it - as I say I didn't wrestle it from her.
The issue is to do with normalisation and the "baby needs a bottle" message.

I don't know if I would mention it at this point.
We spent ages searching for a bottle free dool for DD (22months) and it turned out so had my Mum.

However you could maybe just say that you appresiate how difficult it is to find bottle/dummy free dolls so you removed the bottle once it was out of the packaging so she has no need to worry.

Just 'lose' bottle. Great present for a 2-5 year old but I reckon 15months is a bit young.

DON'T, under any circumstances, mention it to MIL. That would display madness and paranoia.

The spoons could be useful for the doll to self-feed with. It might encourage a bit more dexterity on your DD's part. :)

I agree with StayFrosty.

DD (just 2) got a baby with a bottle for her birthday just before Christmas. I 'lost' the bottle fairly quickly too.

SF - I thought that (and the pushchair) might be a step too far! Not to mention hypocritical as I love the pushchair I use for DD and use it loads - but I'd still like both of them to know there are other options.
As I said, DS ended up BF his toys, but I don't suppose he will grow up expecting to breastfeed a girafe when he's a daddy! So maybe I am overthinking slightly.
WoT - good idea...MIL was actually one of my main BF supporters before I had DS. So I don't know whether she would mind, but she is of the "babies need bottles" camp.

"DON'T, under any circumstances, mention it to MIL. That would display madness and paranoia."

OK, point taken, thanks :o

I'd have 'lost' the bottle too. I'd say something to my MIL because she is thick skinned and almost impossible to offend, but I wouldn't say something to most other people I know, if you see what I mean.

I refuse to by sets with bottles at the moment as DD at 2 is too young to realise about accessories etc.

She is funny with her dolls - gives them a quick breastfeed and then chucks them at DS to look after whilst she gets on with driving trucks and stuff - my little feminist

lol at these :)
DD is a usual toddler, cuddles and kisses her dolls and then drops them on their heads or kicks them out of the way in a dash for a chocolate tree decoration :o

I also refuse to buy clothes, wrapping paper, cards etc with bottles on. Makes shopping hard work!

I 'lost' dd's dolls bottle and it's 'paper' nappies, which i replaced with cloth ones

You're in good company.

I tried mentioning this to my mum. Didn't go down well...

I did think about fashioning a little cloth nappy too... Reminds me that DS used to carry his teddy around in a wrap sling fashioned from an old scarf when DD was tiny - so cute :)

I BOUGHT DS2 (just 2, still BF) not only a milk bottle but a juice one as well. He has never had either. Do I win a prize for the most confused MNetter? He loves them, BTW and has never tried to BF his dollies.

yes, you do :)

My DD1 uses any bottles that come with dollies as 'snot drops' The saline drops you put in babies noses when they are blocked up. It is the only bottle of a similar size and shape as the dolly bottles. She had to have a bottle for a while so I have no problem with them, she just decided that is what they were and then lifted her top and fed her dolly cue jaw dropping from MIL.

DD, now 3.4, had a bottle last Christmas which accidently got lost. Well if I'm honest I chucked it in the bin as soon as she wasn't looking. Although I was ff and had dolls and bottles like some other posters.

Both DC have been bf and both bf their babies.

My mum and me went on a shopping trip for DD before this Christmas and my mum, who knows I chucked the last bottle, was just about to put one in the trolley, as she's quite pro-bfing too.

Shine, you are probably right, but then I think I've always been a bit bonkers

I was given baby bottle toys when I was really small. However, because my mum breastfed my younger brothers I had no idea what they were meant to be for and they just went in the "general plastic stuff to throw around" bag.