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Infant feeding

Get advice and support with infant feeding from other users here.

for all parents fo kids over 3

28 replies

cod · 26/08/2005 19:23

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Mytwopenceworth · 26/08/2005 19:29

Doesn't come up much tbh. Been avoiding the threads on here about it cos it's out and out war and I don't want to get caught in the crossfire!!

I did it, it's over and it's nothing now. I'm at a different stage! The whole row is just (obviously) more relevent to people with kids still of that age, I suppose.

Oh, I just remembered - I moan that it made my boobs go floppy!

cod · 26/08/2005 19:30

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roisin · 26/08/2005 19:32

No - never talk about infant feeding to mates.
We actually moved when boys were 3 and 5, so have no idea how the boys' current friends were fed.
It makes no difference to us.

The only exception is I do sometimes chat about it to people who are currently doing it or contemplating it.

Demented · 26/08/2005 19:34

Don't generally talk about it much these days but can clearly remember the difference it made at the time and how important it all felt with a new baby.

soapbox · 26/08/2005 19:35

Mmmm - DS still rather affected by forumla so very occaisionally if someone asks about his speech problems then I will say that it is related to a dairy intolerance.

It doesn't happen often now though.

Mytwopenceworth · 26/08/2005 19:36

I know! Look at older kids - mine are now 5 & 6 (youngest just had a birthday), and I look at kids their age - I can't tell which were breast fed and which were bottle fed! Obviously breast milk is more suited - it's specially designed to be! But kids don't have a 'formula milk' look about them as they grow up!

cod · 26/08/2005 19:36

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Mytwopenceworth · 26/08/2005 19:37

But since we are talking about it now!! I remember the AGONIES (mental and physical) I went thru at the time!!

Mytwopenceworth · 26/08/2005 19:37

So I can see how people are fixated and it seems the be all and end all!

cod · 26/08/2005 19:37

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Mud · 26/08/2005 19:40

no
only if i was there att he time
no

Mytwopenceworth · 26/08/2005 19:41

It is. And it's the bloody easiest bit of being a parent as well, innit?!!! , feed em, burp, em change em, they stay where you put them and they can't reach anything and they sleep LOADS!!!! Lovely days!!

Mud · 26/08/2005 19:42

i was never fixated on how i fed mine and i fed them each quite differently so i've been a breastfeeder for a couple of months then formula sma if you want t o know, i've breastfed for much longer as well

Demented · 26/08/2005 19:50

Similar to Soapbox's point, I have health issues as an adult which I may not have if my Mum had b/fed me. So in that way it does make a difference, although it may no longer be a talking point past three.

Issymum · 26/08/2005 19:53

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Ameriscot2005 · 26/08/2005 19:54

My youngest is 3y 4mo. I sometimes talk about breastfeeding because DD is still breastfed and it comes up in conversation.

steffee · 26/08/2005 20:21

Only to mums with young babies. Sterlising, bottles, leaky boobs etc are very interesting when you have a newborn, after that it's tantrums and toilets.

swiperfox · 26/08/2005 20:26

Nope
Nope
Nope!

Blu · 26/08/2005 20:26

I was talking about it to a freind last night, as it happens. How her difficulties have led her to have more feelings of guilt in all sorts of ways, and how that contrasts with her felings about herself as a parent of her second child. Also, the awful transition when my DS wouldn't take a bottle, and what that meant at the time - and the accumulative effect. Yes - it caused huge strains and tirednesses (he just fed all night, instead of ex/b from a bottle when I was at work) and difficult things that still aren't fully resloved between DP and I.

so, yes!

nutcracker · 26/08/2005 20:48

No not really.

spidermama · 26/08/2005 20:51

It comes up relatively frequently IME but that's probably because I still have a baby and so do many of my friends.

Pruni · 26/08/2005 20:52

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ghost · 26/08/2005 21:38

talked about it loads with other young mums and can see how we were often more suseptable to what each other was saying depending on what was causing us angst at the time. 90% people I know gave up after a couple of months. What surprised me was not that they had given up but the excuses that they gave for it. One said her mum had virtually forced her, then a little while ago she confessed she shouldnt have given up at the first hurdle. What was sad was not that they had given up but the fact they felt it necessary to come up with a morally acceptable reason for doing so. If someone does not wish to breast feed for what ever reason I feel that that is their perogative. i do feel strongly that the pro breast feeding message should be promoted but not forced down peoples throat. A commitment made under guilt or duress has no substance. More post breastfeeding support should be available. I know so many people who had difficulties breast feeding who felt they were being judged unfit for not coping. I was lucky I took to breast feeding like a duck to water........unfortunately my breasts took a little time to catch up. (If I was an oscar winning actress my acceptance speech would be to thank my agent, my mum, my dad and ......cabbage leaves!!!!!!) In the beginning I panicked, I would like to think that I was reasonably intelligent but everything I had learned went out of the window, how long should I breast feed, should I do one breast each feed or a bit of both, why couldnt I feel let down whilst feeding even though dd was gaining weight the question and the doubt were endless. compare this to friends who knew how much their babies were feeding, and whose babies slept thru the night, thought not tempted I could seed why bottle seemed so attractive to many other like me who struggled. Motherhood sweeps many of us off our feets and often nothing prepare even the hardy of us for the love, guilt and self doubt that often accompanies it. A bit more support encouragement and prehaps the sharing of toecurling stories I think would do more that any advert to encourage bf.

suedonim · 26/08/2005 21:39

The subject of bfing comes up quite a bit for me! I had my last baby a long time after most of my friends. Now, their children are having babies so I get asked quite often about bfing. I really try to be as noncommital as possible because most of them formula fed and they can be a bit defensive of their choices, even 30yrs later. I wouldn't presume to give any personal advice as I'm not qualified but if they're concerned about charts/centiles/timed feeds/whatever I'll tell what I know and then give them NCT's Bfc support line number.

jenkel · 26/08/2005 21:51

I met loads of people at ante natal classes who we still see (dd is 3), all started breastfeeding but some fell by the wayside, think the shortest time was 8 weeks and the longest was 16 months and this is out of 8 people. Still talk about it now as we are now in round 2 of babies and funnily enough this time people are breastfeeding longer. To be honest though I dont care less what other people do. Most of the conversations are how to get the baby to take the bottle, I had huge problems with dd2 who I eventually got to take a bottle at 8 months and I know several others in our group that has the same problem. So to be honest most conversations are about how to get the baby to stop.