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Tonbridge School goes co-ed - when tradition meets financial reality

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Runningupthathill1980 · Today 07:45

Tonbridge School announced this week it is introducing a co-educational Sixth Form from September 2028, with boarding girls following from 2030. Quite a bombshell for a school with that history and tradition. Keen to hear what people think.

What strikes me is the pattern when you look at which schools have gone co-educational and which haven't. The ones holding the single-sex line, Eton, Radley and Harrow, all have substantial endowments and investments, in some cases owning significant land holdings outside the main school campus. Tonbridge by contrast is much more dependent on fee income with modest investment reserves by comparison. The co-educational move brings roughly 100 additional pupils, though it is worth remembering that the additional net income from that alone, once you factor in the infrastructure, staffing and facility costs of accommodating girls, is unlikely to be transformative.

The irreversibility of it is what strikes me most. The announcement frames it in the language of vision, evolution and exciting opportunities. But is this a genuine long term shift in educational philosophy or a financial decision dressed up in aspirational language?

Worth noting too that Tonbridge has always had a significant day boy contingent and is largely weekly boarding, so perhaps this was coming.

Particularly given that the VAT imposition on school fees may not be permanent - its possible that a future government could remove it. If that happens Tonbridge will have made a permanent generational change in response to what, perhaps turned out to be a relatively short term financial pressure.

Once girls are introduced into the Sixth Form is that really where it ends? The logic of full co-education from Year 9 inevitably follows, perhaps within a generation. The school announcing co-ed Sixth Form today is almost certainly announcing full co-education tomorrow.

Ironically every school that makes this move only strengthens the position of Eton, Radley and Harrow as the last great all-boys institutions, making places there even more sought after and oversubscribed than they already are.

Spare a thought too for the families already affected. Boys currently at the school, or with accepted places, chose Tonbridge partly on the basis of an all-boys education. In some cases families may withdraw as a result, which rather undermines the financial logic of the decision in the first place.

Keen to hear all views, including from those who think co-education is genuinely the right direction for the school.

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WhyamIinahandcartandwherearewegoing · Today 07:50

Having overheard some horribly misogynistic “banter” from uniform wearing Tonbridge boys on the train, I can only hope having female students around actually teaches those ones some manners and the ability to function normally around women.

pepayfelix · Today 07:50

Why are you framing this as a negative? I am opposed to private education generally as it entrenches inequality but I think it is particularly harmful that the very best private schools in the country should be the preserve of males. Apart from anything it means that the generation of men most likely to end up running the country won’t have grown up with any female friends, which is weird.

Honeyhonay · Today 07:53

Spare a thought for those affected? It’s turning into a mixed sex school fgs nothing else. They don’t need thoughts and prayers.

WhatNextImScared · Today 07:55

Separate to the VAT/private schooling system, it’s well known girls do better in same sex schooling and boys in mixed.

Araminta1003 · Today 08:02

They probably did some market research which shows a coed boarding school within very close proximity of London by train with weekly boarding, would be popular and ensure long term viability.
Plenty of boys want coed at Sixth Form too.
For current parents this kind of stuff is always annoying because of changes. Nobody wants to pay lots of money and go through upheaval.
But the Skinners generally are a great livery company with lots of schools in the group and these decisions will be research based.

Araminta1003 · Today 08:08

I just looked it up and 16k per term for day pupils in a grammar area with some of the best boy grammar schools in the country (Judd, Skinners, St Olave’s, Dartford Grammar) is a challenge.
That day fee is far too high compared to the alternative on offer, for free.

Runningupthathill1980 · Today 08:25

Araminta1003 · Today 08:08

I just looked it up and 16k per term for day pupils in a grammar area with some of the best boy grammar schools in the country (Judd, Skinners, St Olave’s, Dartford Grammar) is a challenge.
That day fee is far too high compared to the alternative on offer, for free.

Agreed. And almost £65k p.a for a weekly boarding school is a poor commercial decision in itself, when one compares to the the true (all boys) full boarding schools. They would have been far better to offer a more flexible boarding model, which reflects their reality, and adjust fees accordingly.

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Runningupthathill1980 · Today 08:29

pepayfelix · Today 07:50

Why are you framing this as a negative? I am opposed to private education generally as it entrenches inequality but I think it is particularly harmful that the very best private schools in the country should be the preserve of males. Apart from anything it means that the generation of men most likely to end up running the country won’t have grown up with any female friends, which is weird.

Nobody said it was a negative, simply raising questions worth debating. And the preserve of males point rather ignores the fact that there are far more elite all-girls independent schools than all-boys ones. Wycombe Abbey, Cheltenham Ladies' College, Roedean, Benenden, St Mary's Ascot to name just a few, all producing the generation of women most likely to end up running the country. Nobody seems particularly concerned about that. The single-sex argument cuts both ways or it cuts neither way.

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Gateappreciation · Today 08:33

All the local single sex (state) grammar schools in Tonbridge, Maidstone etc are mixed sex in six form.

cheezncrackers · Today 08:38

I think it's a shame too OP and it's happened at my son's (over 1000-year-old) boys school too. They admitted girls in the sixth form before he joined, so I don't know when that was, but they announced last year (presumably in response to VAT on school fees) that they will be going full co-ed from this Sept. Schools are doing what they have to in order to survive. The other all boys school in our city went fully co-ed two years ago, having been all boys from 4-18 until 2021, so a very rapid adoption of girls throughout the school. In both cases it was dressed up as positive, but parents aren't stupid - we all know the real reason.

ForDreamyMintHare · Today 08:40

It's well known that girls do better in single sex but boys don't. Hopefully it happens everywhere eventually. Highgate was on the verge of going bust and has gone from strength to strength by going co ed.

MeetMeOnTheCorner · Today 09:02

In single sex independent boys schools, the boys do very well as entry is so competitive! Just like boys grammars, of which there are 4 in Bucks. They certainly are not back numbers academically. I also think there’s a huge merit in staff understanding boys and guiding them. Certainly in co Ed schools the boys are not more refined (totally ludicrous and banter really doesn’t disappear!) and why is it the job of girls to make them behave? Women have to do everything!

Legoninjago1 · Today 10:37

I think it’s a shame. Just makes an even smaller pool from which to choose from if you’re looking for single sex.

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