RE: tutoring and Oxbridge
No doubt there will be parents of 10 and 11 year olds who are aiming for Oxbridge already but IMO that’s a small minority of those aiming to send boys to the top boarding schools
I’ve never actually had a conversation about Oxbridge with any parent or teacher even though it’s obvious that there’s a couple a boys in DS year who are academically brilliant
what we (and most others we know) want is not m a route into Oxbridge. Our aim is Tommy’s our son with a school
for reasons I won’t go into boarding school suits us best and we want boys only. That narrows the field substantially.
so then we are left looking at best “fit”
the same is true for those we know. Some want boarding, swine want day. Some boys only and other co-Ed. Then it comes down to location and fit to the child.
these are all good schools and super bright kids will do well at any of them. But kids who are massively into rugby won’t do well at Winchester because they are happy to accept kids who like chess and walking as “sport”
likewise Rowers need not apply to Harrow, as they don’t row.
sanding you want to take Chinese GCSE, Radely is not the place because they don’t offer it.
and if you DS does better in smaller environments with more structure then Etonbis not for him.
there are myriad reasons to choose or not to choose a school and for everyone we know it’s about “fit” not Oxbridge
In terms of tutoring, the only extra tutoring we would contemplate is if DS was quite behind in a GCSE subject, if he was on course for a B or a C we would not be tutoring him to try get an A. If he was predicted say a D or worse for maths we would get a tutor just for that.
meanwhile other parents we know we get a tutor in of their DS was “only” predicted an A rather than a A*
remember, some kids and some families are relentlessly academic. But most aren’t. We just want our DS to be the best version of himself, have a LOT of fun and be at school which matches him well. Just as his current prep does. It so happens the schools which match him well include some of the ones mentioned in this thread.
no point trying to reverse engineer by starting with an aspirational school and trying to shoehorn DS into it.
winchester would never be in our list and not because of anything mentioned on this thread (although all valid points). It’s just a terrible fit for our son.