I will start off by saying that I am a mixed-race (black/white) woman. My husband is fully white. We have 2 children (so far). Lately, I've found myself being very bothered that my DH tries to label our children as Black (as in solely Black). It makes me uneasy. He tells them that they're Black and tells other people that he has a Black wife and children when any discussion of race comes up. I want our children to be aware of their Black heritage, but I also recognise the reality. They're 25% Black. They're pale-skinned, straight/wavy hair, no Black features. I have a strong feeling that this is going to cause identity issues for them as they grow older. He's very Americanised (as he lived there for many years), and I feel like he adopted their attitude surrounding race and racial issues (as in their one-drop rule). To me, there is an element of racism to considering a person with any percentage (even 1%!) of Black heritage to simply be a Black person. I really just want him to stop, but other people have told me that it doesn't matter (which I completely disagree with). I think my feelings should matter. AIBU?
(I recognise that it is risky to mention race on MN, so please do not derail this thread with any unrelated arguments about race.)