When did you notice cultural differences in your interracial relationship?

[Chocolatehobnob9]

As I was marinating some chicken for my dinner tonight.. I had a vivid flashback of a certain occasion with my ex partner who was White English.. I was preparing some chicken for dinner and he moaned at me for taking the chicken out of fridge and letting it get up to temperature and then putting it back in to a cold fridge.. Apparently the temperature changes aren't good for me.. Funny that.. He wasn't saying that every time he was yamming my chicken.
So my question is.. Have you had an occasion where the cultural differences in your relationship have been bought to light?

He wasn't saying that every time he was yamming my chicken

Crikey!

When DH invited me for dinner on Friday night, v early in relationship when he still lived at parents house. I turned up in comfies expecting a night on sofa in front of tv with pizza. Turned out to be 16 of his closest family whom I had never met before squeezing into their dining room for Friday Night Dinner. He's Jewish. I was clueless, and totally unprepared!

'Yamming'

LOL yes yamming :P I say yamming ha.

Chocolatehobnob9 - yamming 😂. Autocorrect wouldn't even let me type that - kept replacing it with jamming, which now has me belting out Bob's lyrics!

@Chocolatehobnob9 I hear you! I say nyamming/yamming too 🤣🤣

Haha @maggiethecat
Jamming!! killed me.
I only use yamming when I'm talking about chicken.
Seriously though, yamming my chicken then moaning at me about temperature changes!

A long long time ago when I was in a relationship with a Polish guy, I happens to mention that I was going to visit my Grandma in Ghana. He immediately asked about lions and tigers wandering the streets, which turned me off him so completely that I ended that 3 year relationship within weeks.

@itsovernowthen what an ignorant man.

Chocolate - I can just picture him yamming it! Oh Lawd

At the first family party I went to, when the buffet was opened up, his siblings and all their kids swarmed the table first. The old folks and his parents sat back and waited in fear of getting trampled in the rush. That shocked me, so when we had parties at our house I always asked the grandkids to sort out plates and drinks for their grandparents first. It shocked them at first but they got use to it

When I met Dh's little necessary and nephews, I was shocked that they called him by his first name, not Uncle and then his name. These kids were like 5 years old!

• neices not necessary 🙄

*nieces!

Probably too many to pin point the first. After your opener though I would say the treatment of meat. My Nigerian husband washes meat in the sink and to me being white and veryBritish I can’t bear it and go mental with bleaching the sink afterwards.

@OnlyFoolsnMothers I think it's a traditionally very ethnic thing to wash meat in the sink, I went an Indian's friends house and the grandmother was scrubbing the chicken thighs in the sink!!

Totally agree, my friend who is British Pakistani doesn’t believe I don’t clean my meat

@skippy67 that first name thing bothers me too. There was a thread in Chat last week about whether people's children call them mum and dad or by their first names. I was shocked how many people said their children call them by their first names, even little 5 or 6 year olds.

I mentally had to have wild horses drag me away from my keyboard so I didn't type, "THIS IS A WHITE BRITISH PERSON THING". I kept wondering, "Lord, what would Black MN think about this mess...?"

Rice with a roast dinner... In fact, rice with everything!

JingsMahBucket - and any adult close friend or family member's name must be prefaced with auntie or uncle!

Not partner but going to my grandparents home country for the first time: I got told off for referring to my (black) great aunts and uncles by their names by my auntie, I'm mixed and grew up pretty "white" (🙄) and I only have two uncles and one aunt who I call by auntie/uncle or just their name. Anyway suddenly I'm told I have like 14 aunts and uncles plus cousins and I am being introduced to lots of them constantly and it's confusing AF and it's just easier to understand whos who by calling them by their name especially as apparently SOME of my cousins who are older than me are to be call uncle/auntie but not all of them?!

Between that and my fussy eating I'm probably known all over the islands as the rude cousin/niece, oops. I did say please and thank you a lot so hopefully that makes up for it somewhat.

DP can't deal with how my auntie is old enough to be my cousins mum, he this they look too close in age, black don't crack!

I’d say music. I like to listen to music a lot, over TV. I also like it loud and be able to dance! My partner is okay with “my music”, but it gives him a headache, even if it is turned down as he can still hear the bass.

Out of my two serious relationships I would say seasoning of meat. Not salt and pepper, but real flavour. My ex’s family cooked lovely food but the meat was always a tad bland.

Oh and loud. I’ve noticed myself and my family are loud. Always laughing, proper belly chortles you can hear in a different room - others have been more restrained and “proper”. Still nice but different.

@Ablackrussian

He wasn't saying that every time he was yamming my chicken

Crikey!

🤣

When my ex (Ghanaian born) complained about my roast chicken being raw (it was not) he meant bland by that term.

Anyway from then I always season my roast chicken) although I got that habit from my mixed race mother..

Lol@ilovecheese53 raw 😂😂😂😂
I think cooking of chicken is a big differentiating factor in an interracial relationship.. My ex would have been happy to open chicken up from packet and put straight into the oven...without washing it.