When did you notice cultural differences in your interracial relationship?

[Chocolatehobnob9]

As I was marinating some chicken for my dinner tonight.. I had a vivid flashback of a certain occasion with my ex partner who was White English.. I was preparing some chicken for dinner and he moaned at me for taking the chicken out of fridge and letting it get up to temperature and then putting it back in to a cold fridge.. Apparently the temperature changes aren't good for me.. Funny that.. He wasn't saying that every time he was yamming my chicken.
So my question is.. Have you had an occasion where the cultural differences in your relationship have been bought to light?

I think the differences would be endless even within different black backgrounds there’s differences.

Yes raw he said. To be fair I like spice but in my ex’s culture they use chilli with everything much so you cannot taste what you are even eating.

I couldn’t imagine not washing meat/chicken

My dad is Arab and my mum was British. They had A Lot of cultural differences but somehow got through it (mostly by sitting in different rooms a lot) one odd one: my dad was once appalled at the thought of me taking a bag of food into school in a carrier bag. He insisted I use a 'proper' bag made out of, like, material. I was

Also, Arab bluntness vs British delicacy. My dad's mother (who only spoke Arabic) once sat down, grinned and grabbed my sister's newly-emergent boob in order to congratulate her on becoming a woman (no males present, you see). I howled she did not see the funny side!!

Meat, particularly chicken, handling and preparation is a big thing for us. Must be washed, preferably with diluted vinegar or lemon juice, and any feather remnants devoutly plucked.

The other fixation is that the chicken must have colour - so prepared with lashings of soy sauce or sufficient browning. My mum refers to any colour failed chicken as University style referencing the days of first living away from home and learning to cook for myself

The other fixation is that the chicken must have colour - so prepared with lashings of soy sauce or sufficient browning.

Yesssss! My chicken must be browned before all!

I've developed a serious complex about pale chicken! I imagine even my kids eyeing the bird suspiciously if its lacking colour 😱

www.nhs.uk/live-well/eat-well/never-wash-raw-chicken/

We must have built up serious immunity to campylobacter then!!

Chicken cannot enter this house unless it's going to be washed, seasoned and browned. It's sacrilegious otherwise 😂

What's ironic is my ex complained about my chicken but happily stuffed his face with KFC.. Do you really think they wash their chickens there???..... Just saying.

I would not dream of not washing my chicken in vinegar. It is what I was taught and has done myself no harm. There is such a thing as bleach to clean up with afterwards you know.

Also, you don't power wash the chicken 😂

Seasoning food yes I’m white. DH spends hours seasoning food, I was like “you just put it in the pan” criminal offence he says

I'm mixed race and I dont wash meat although family do. Can't be bothered and don't see the point. I also don't call people aunty/uncle now although did when I was younger and didnt know my own mind. Differences I've spotted have been marinating chicken and attitudes about race/inequality/having to explain things which they haven't realised due to their privilege.

@LifeAndSoulOfThe

Seasoning food yes I’m white. DH spends hours seasoning food, I was like “you just put it in the pan” criminal offence he says

It taste better though and spices form a sauce instead of using a jar so it is necessary.

"I think the differences would be endless even within different black backgrounds there’s differences. "

Spot on.

I also don't call people aunty/uncle now although did when I was younger and didnt know my own mind.

I didn't realise until Lenny Henry brought it up that it is a brilliant way of calling people old.

Rice. My DP was shocked and slightly horrified at my use of boil in the bag rice.

The first time I went shopping with my MIL and she asked me to get her Yam. I came back with two jars of jam and said “strawberry or raspberry”. She still laughs about it now 20 years later. Love her to bits. She taught me to always wash my meat with lemon juice and vinegar. I do it now all the time too.

Lndnmummy - 😂😂

When I was in an interracial relationship, I noticed the constant competition about whose mum was the best cook.

Ftr I can now reveal it was Trevor's mum, in Greenwich.

Ftr I can now reveal it was Trevor's mum, in Greenwich.

Noise! My DH (Nigerian) likes to have the tv on, loudly, constantly and we go to visit his family and the tv is left on, loudly, throughout the visit! It used to drive me mad but we have both learns to compromise now.

LifeAndSoulOfThe
Seasoning food grin yes I’m white. DH spends hours seasoning food, I was like “you just put it in the pan” criminal offence he says grin

Sacrilege!!🤣
(I bet you do season chicken tho)

I used to fastidiously wash chicken but the advice is not to. I was ill with salmonella for 2 weeks, not from my own kitchen but a sandwich bar close to my work. No idea if they washed the Chuck or not. I never wash it now

I’m white, dh is black, his mum’s originally from Nigeria and it took me a while to get used to how blunt she is, it seemed really rude at first but just a cultural thing.

Like she’d say, Ah ah, shori sheh, you are getting very fat. You need to go on a diet! Also saying dh should have married a nice Nigerian girl. He was like, um, I was the only black kid in a school of 1,000 people, I live in the Lake District mum 😂, I didn’t have a big pool of black girls to choose from.