So, I start this post absolutely sure I'm going to 'miss' people - apologies in advance! Even the multi window trick won't do the, uh, trick I fear as I'm feeling quite ill again (for a change ) and so... y'know.
Have to start with IWCAS as having lost my Nanny when 23 weeks pregnant with DS I also 'know' some of how she feels. We too had a very special relationship (I lived with her for some time as a child) and it still pops into my head how devastated I was that she went before he was born (given he was the first boy for two generations and was so looked forward to by her). Of course, as others have mentioned, that intense pain does fade to a sadness that is but a tinge compared to the wonderful memories you have, the funny stories you can pass on. Your Grandfather certainly will live in your son (both literally and, if you make it so, figuratively). Lots of un-mn like hugs to you at this time. Re: The Ex, as db says, this is one of those life changing events where it's appropriate to put your needs first - but it's clear to me that your needs are to be as 'fair' as possible at all times (I'm the same - much to my detriment on ocassion!). If it seems like he's geniune, wants to support YOU and be there to meet his child because he's realised (or is realising) what this all means, then that's one thing (and deserves 'a chance') but if you feel/have an inkling he's doing it to 'save face' or just 'play' at his part then that's another (which doesn't... although sometimes, pretending can become real, y'know?). Well, you have a little time for him to prove himself and make your final judgegment (be sure to borrow pacfics gavel when you actualy make it so it's offical ). Good luck, so hoping that things really really start taking an upward turn for you - and you know where to come if you need to vent more on the subject/s
Anna Ok, confession time from me. We are back to having sex Not so uh, rampant. Not twice a day. But sincethe growth scan last week I noticed the sonographer had recorded the placenta on her report as anterior (no mention of it being 'low'). I know she wasn't specifically lookin at it, rather how humungous babs is shaping up to be, but still. So... it's been pretty much every day since. It's not as 'fun' (and I can't wait to get my body back! Although I do recall that for months after I had my previous two, every time I had sex my boobs would spurt all over the show so it's gonna be quite some time before my body is really mine again).
Hmmm, on that note I feel the need to mention/ask if others experienced this. Did those of you who breastfed find that in the early months any child (I say child, as it would happen with toddlers/young kids notjust babies) that cried would set off your let down?! I ws utterly shocked that my body just seemed to want to feed/comfort ANY child! It was never mentioned in any of my classes that it might happen.
jas I was a little at your midwife calling you a nervous wreck! Hope it was said in a 'good' way...
summer You poor thing with the broken shoulder! Is it the top of your arm, clavicle or another part? Thank goodness you have DH to step in to help (we moan about our men but sometimes, just sometimes, they are worth their weight in gold, eh?). Really hope it's fully healed by the time you go in to labour - that would be no fun at all if not!
caitni yay for cancelled appointments that mean you get a slow start PLUS a reschedule .
siamese Totally agape at worms into brains theory! It sounds bloody hilarious, but I know how infuriating those types of conversations can be when you're actually having them. Have I told you about my theory that our hearts are made of beatles, and the more affection we're shown as a baby, the more the beetles turn into love? No? Oh, it's a sound theory! If you don't show a baby/young child love then they grow up to be 'hard hearted'. That's the beatles shells making them that way. See? proof.
EmLou Nice to hear from you - we all worry a bit Yay for DS having a wonderful time regardless but I know how draining it can be to be with an emotional leech. Well done for coming through the other side. Will your Mum be making the trip over once baby arrives? I know it sounds awful, but are you hoping not?
Glad you're on the mend, puree. I seem to have several packets of razorblades lodged in my throat since yesterday, so if the pain doesn't subside I'll be taking a trip to the dr tomorrow, I guess. Can't be tonsilitis for me though - had them whipped out when I was seven (apparently the op is horrible as an adult... funnily, I don't have exactly rosy memories of it as a child though!)
dalrymps Phew for LO's kidneys. One less thing to worry over! Can't quite get my head around a 'good' 3rd degree tear - I suppose it must have been pretty 'clean' tear and not all jagged/ragged needing stitches in all different directions, kinda thing.
And now I'm slightly that I'm sitting here trying to imagine the tear in another woman's fanjo... (and typing that has just made me laugh!)
Hey cheeky glad you made it over here! Don't be too put off my talk of sex, 3rd degree tears, or the ggeneral madness that seems to pervade our thread. Welcome!
I don't really know an awful lot about either, but I think herbal remedies (some of which can be scientifically proven - after all the chemicals in herbs/nature are where most (if not all?) of our modern drugs come from!) are very different from homeopathy. And, with my 'ignorance is bliss' flag firmly waved, I shall withdraw and comment no further on this touchy subject!
db you'll be in the new house by the time of the birth, right? Eesh, that's something that woudn't have crossed my mind - obviously, you won't know the neighbours/have a friend network on your doorstep that could help out. Depending on how desperate you get/whether I'm in labour/yadda yadda yadda, you could always drop DD with me until your Mum was able to get her (and, of course, we should preferably meet up at some point prior so you can see for yourself I'm not an overweight middleaged man with a beard called Brian, and so that DD at least has seen my face before!)
dont my baby is the same - any pressure on my tummy and he protests quite vigourously, usually. This works well when DP wants to have a feel - he lays on his side, I 'spoon' him, pushin my belly into his back, and before you know it, baby is kicking HIM in the kidneys. Makes a nice change to my internal orans bearing the brunt!
Eeep, DP just called me and said he'd heard on the radio that London is expecting 25cms of snow tonight, and that Boris is doing everything in his remit to ensure London doesn't come to a standstill. 25cms! Ten inches?! Good luck, Boris. Well all know we only need a tenth of that for everything to grind to a halt. I was planning to go to the supermarket anyway later, but now I'll ensure I do so I can be all snuggly inside, not risking a fall for the next couple/few days.
On that note, I need to take more paracetamol for my darn throat. 'Tis paaaaaainful .