Due August 2009 - Does My Bump Look Big In This????

[kitkatqueen]

Hello everybody Here is the shiny new thread, hope you found it ok!!

becksy, we used to live in London, so I know what you mean about London prices! Our 3D scan was £70, and it was the cheapest package. It was at the local hospital, and seemed to be a lot cheaper than the stand alone scanning services like Babybond. Would it be worth asking some of the local hospitals whether they do it? I reckon hospitals can do it cheaper because they already have the facilities and the equipment and don't have to pay for office space.

sheena, am planning to start perineal massage, and do plan on getting DH involved because of the wrist pain issue. Haven't told him this yet though....nice surprise for him when he gets home at the end of the week! I figure he should make an 'investment' in me stretching easily/not tearing, because it will benefit us both in the bedroom department later if I don't have tearing/stitches/scarring.

Noticed today my ankles seem to be turning into 'cankles' and my feet are swelling. Ugghhh. I hate this heat/humidity!

Good afternoon ladies. Posting to avoid tidying away the 6 months plus worth of post/paperwork etc that's lying accross my bedroom floor - I only like baby nesting not general chores !

some good news here - DH has, at last, got a job. All very sudden, he got a call last Tuesday from a former colleague/contact about a possible job, interview at 10am the following day and within half an hour of arrving home they had offered it to him! Pay is not as good as we would have liked but it'sa job at least. And they wanted an immediae start! As we're off on holiday next wek they have agreed that he can start when we get back but he's ging in for a couple of days this week (unpaid) so will hit the ground running. On a very selfish level I am sad to lose my summer of both of us at home, no school, nursery etc so complete freedon for day trips and fun times. Can't have it all!!

Pg wise, all fine. Bloody uncomfortable like everyone else. I wanted to unzip myselfour of my own skin last night I was so itchy, hot, heavy etc.

oh and we have potty trained DS2 - so I have no children in nappies for the first time in over 4 years...well for a few weeks anyway!

Sorry to hear of continued aches and pains of everyone else. Sorry I don't really have any suggestions other than we're very nearly at the end! Becksy (I think it was you) re DH feeling involved - my DH has never once felt any of my babies move etc, has no real emotional attachment to the baby until it is born. However, he is one of the most involved, passionate, caring fathers I know and completely hero-worshipped by both boys. i think men can sometimes feel a pressure to "bond" with the unborn baby hen it's just foreign and weird to them.

Right, might watch some tennis now...whilst tidying up...

Hallo - just been to see the midwife. All seems to be OK, LO is facing the right way (for the moment). Am measuring 28cm, which she said was Ok for my 32 weeks. LOVE hearing the heartbeat and she kept moving to get away from the doppler thingy which was cute.

Re perenial massage, the two different classes we did this week were promoting it. Not sure I can reach down there anymore though - and not sure I am ready to remove the last ounce of romance from my relationship by asking DH to do it.

Hope you enjoy your short time of no nappies 2HotCross - after 4 years you must be a true expert!

Currently 26 degrees and I felt it on the tube this afternoon!

hi all, my first time on mumsnet since dh returned and all my relaxation began- ha! not!!
can i have a quick rant?? totally p**d off these days!
dh was away for 9 weeks and whilst it was exhausiting i don't feel any more rested since he returned, in fact i cook and wash more clothes and have to listen to all sorts of moaning and nonsense about football/ power tools etc

• he's also undoing all my good work with dd's tantrums/ bedtime and talks very loudly on the phone constantly, never cooks and many many more awful crimes against domestic bliss

-i just want him to do the stuff that i can't do and let me get more sleep, basically just go out places and have fun with dd and leave me alone with my online scrabble and online shopping and cook something occassionally. is that too much to ask?? -he lost my favourite rucksack on the train containing a favourite outfit for dd and my one and only treasured overpriced J Brand maternity jeans and a lovely top

• i bought another pair of maternity jeans on ebay and they're too small (7 for mankind size 30w if anyone's interested..!)so now i'm still without jeans and lumbered with hassle of reselling
• ds is also a teen nightmare at the moment
• i took a week off from osteo and my back is so sore i can't wait till tomorrow's appt
• physio gave me a huge roll of tubagrip and a support belt, does anyone else have this? and i just feel hot and squeezed
• baby's acrobotics making me feel horribly uncomfortable
• constantly need to wee, agonising shooting pain from stretching when i try to wipe (sorry tmi)

-legs feel so heavy, i can't stand for long walk far or with any kind of speed, i'm so envious of the silver racers on their mobility scooters -and every f-ing person i encounter has to comment on how ridiculously huge i am and say 'anyday now' and comment on how i must really be hating the warm weather etc -basically i wasn't as p**d off and 'over this' with pregnancy until 38 wks last time and i still have another 7 weeks to go agghhhhh

sorry for extra long not at all quick rant now going to catch up a bit on thread

mamamila- I am so with you on so many of your items, but especially item 2- mine has been away for two weeks but I swear it was easier if more physically exhausting when he was away. I can't say I ever got to the urgh stage with the last three, but I'm there already with this one, and am only 32 weeks.

Hi ladies!

Glad to know I'm not the only one feeling fed up. Is it wrong to pray for this baby to be early?

Becky - I 2nd what Yank said - having a 3D scan made a massive change in DH and how he sees the baby. He's so excited and focussed now. Def worth the spend!

We've been told to do perenial massage but have no idea exactly how to do it. Have been tempted to google but am terrified of all the vajayjay images that will inevitably come up. Any seasoned pros have some advice?

Mamamila and duchesse I am so with you in the had enough stakes!! (I am 30+5)

We are having a heat wave today and there is no breeze so its horrible! I am so uncomfortable unless lying down which isnt easy when 3yo ds wants me to play with him!

I havent slept properly for the last few nights as it is taking hours of tossing and turning to drift off and then DP keeps waking me up by putting his knees in my back/bump then I have to waddle off to the toilet and then spend another hour drifting off again!!

I had a row with DP at lunchtime He came home for his lunch and started moaning that he had a bit of stomach ache and I flipped I basically shouted at him and told him that I ached all day everyday and couldnt sleep and felt like crap and he should be more considerate!! I do feel a bit guilty but I also feel that I am in the right too as this pregnancy has been so much harder than my first and yet I am having to do more (childcare, housework,washing etc)and all I really want to do is sleep and MN all day lol

Oops rant over lol I just hope that the next 6-9 weeks pass REALLY quickly lol

Yours doing that as well, eh, ready? I fell homicidal in the middle of the night when mine does it. When I'm right at the edge of the bed to keep away from him and his heat, I just want to kill him and get the bed back to myself. Oh, and take his pillow as well.

Also hot here and fed up of it.

Lack of sleep here too and dh is getting that glare when he moans about being tired (the one that say "moan anymore and I'm hacking your man bits off with a spoon" )

Re perineal massage: My mw suggested it (cos I'm worried about tearing again). She showed me by rubbing that bit of skin between your thumb and forefinger - just basically little circular massaging. She said to do that and slowly move around the whole perineal area and to focus on any scar tissue.

Keep meaning to start it but I don't think I have any chance of reaching so it's gonna be up to dh .

How is it that we are the ones that need the space and yet we end up balancing on the end of the bed to not be kicked/touched?
He keeps moaning because I dont want to cuddle up to him to go to sleep yet cant process that its too hot and uncomfortable !!

I will be so glad to get my body back! I know its gonna be hard having two babies and a toddler but at least I will be able to bend/sit up/walk and breath once they are born lol

I even googled survival rates of prem twins to see how bad it would be if they came early Obviously I want what is best for them but I really need to know the end is near now lol

ah so glad it's not just me uncheerful, i'm feeling like a mad old heffer

and jesus the bed issues! dd still waking and coming into our bed in night but there's no bloody space. dh also moans i don't snuggle up with my head on his chest anymore..

dare i ask if anyone's getting any nookie??

we can't remember the last time, it always seems so much like hard work and not really enjoyable to be honest what with positions/ bumps/ baby movements/ back ache etc but then i start thinking if we don't try a bit there'll be none until at least october- or possibly 2010..

readyfornumber2and3- jeez you must really have it worse. how on earth does it feel to have 2 babies moving around inside you? are you having a natural birth or a section?
i shall think of you to keep things in perspective

i'm swelling like mad here too, just removed rings and watch. will probably lose them all now

dh just cooked slimy tasteless stir fry..without veg when there's loads of mangetout, peppers etc sitting in the fridge. that will teach me to nag him into cooking

Mamamila Its like carrying an octopus lol, im hoping for a natural birth aslong as the babies cooperate lol

Most days I am absolutely fine but this hot weather is killing me so im having a good old moan lol

Can I add my rant???

If you can't face reading it don't worry just skip this post I just need to get it out

I am Soooooo P*%£ed off. I have spent the entire day trying to sort out financial "stuff" My accounts aren't in any sort of order and I am waiting for a phone call back from radiology (for dd2)for an appt, after finally speaking to a real. person after a week of ringing and leaving messages that haven't been returned. They promised to ring me back today and haven't. I need to make a dental appt for dd1 but daren't until I get the appt through from radiology because sods law says it will clash, I also need to book ds in for his mmr before the baby is born so that I only have to deal with one set of vaccinations.

I have just found out today that a £20.00 fine has been attached to one of my accounts and it has taken me an hour and a half of very persuasive shouting to get a refund. ~I was promised a call back from a very nice man about the form my bank has lost containing all my financial information and he also hasn't called me back. ( since it went missing I have been inundated with phone calls and emails from all sorts of bizarre companies so am worried that the form is in dodgy hands).

And I have another temperature today just below 40 degrees( been getting random spikes for the last 3 weeks ) so now have a doctors appt for tommorow.

I keep dropping everything.

I too am getting the "ooh any day now" comments and I may lynch the next person who says it I really look enormous the baby seems to have come right out of my pelvis and I think is back to back with me upright

I can't bend at all!!!

I feel useless and there is so much that I need to do in the next few weeks...

On the plus side my lovely dp is driving home to come and help me with all the stuff that has totally overwhelmed me. The kids are nearly ready for bed and the shop over the road has never been known to run out of chocolate.

Sorry - rant over

ah ladies you've made my day! Can't even be bothered to add my own rant but it would very similar to all of yours and its just so nice to know I'm not alone. Am going to go off in search of chocolate now and research DVD boxsets for early labour.

I think we are the only people NOT enjoying the weather lol

It certainly helps to know that we are all feeling the same

Oops, I seem to have set of a chain of ranting!!!

As much as I hate to complain about lovely weather, I am finding it just a tad too hot for my liking. Thankfully DS wasn't that keen on going outside today although I am now worrying that he is sickening for something.

2hotcrossbuns that's great news about your DH getting a job, it gives me hope whenever I hear that there are some jobs out there!!

Actually I am feeling slightly more positive just because its not just me and I can blame all the tears and stress out moments today on being pregnant fat and hormonal with 3 dcs which is perfectly reasonable according to dp. Also dp has just about finished doing the accounts so thats a massive thing off my list of horrible things to do!

and dp came home with chocolate cake, put kids to bed and has told me that wanting to drink orange juice and milk at the same time just can't be good for me no matter what my cravings are saying The paracetamol have finally kicked in and the shop over the road hadn't run out of chocolate - might have done by now...

Hope everyone else is a bit happier tomorrow too - although by tomorrow I may have run out of chocolate ...

Can't resist a good rant! Uncomfortable here too, rib pain mainly and leg cramps in the night plus it's too hot!! Going on holiday next week with 2 dcs and grandparents, leaving dh behind (he chose not to come btw). But then he had a go when I suggested he could spend some of his time sorting out the nursery whilst I was away (only cos I thought he would not have as much work to do in the evenings without the usual clearing up, washing etc.) I did point out that a UK holiday at 35 weeks pregnant with 2 little kids is hardly a relaxing/non-tiring break!!

Anyway, deep breathe, have made up after that argument and now decided to get the nursery sorted myself if he'll do the painting. It's a matter of sorting and relocating a load of paperwork elsewhere...fun, fun. Why did we leave it so late...

Also need to sort the car out. New one needed that fits 3 car seats in the back. Current choice might be the citroen picasso but shocked to find out that we will be losing several grand on selling the car we bought in November just before found out about the pg!

2HotCross, great about the job. And good about the potty training. I now have dd at 2.7 who is pretty much dry at night and wees on her potty when she gets up. The rest of the day, she's variable, lots of puddles if the nappy is off...although will use potty sometimes. so don't know whether to put her in pants and really go for it, or hold off till after baby is born!

Sorry for the long self obsessed posting...
TOTC/Coon - still haven't updated my name on the list...

Coonrapids, I'm a voter for pants off trying to bf one whilst lifting another on and off a toilet for a 3rd time is not looking appealing, but oh sooo likely

If I could do the potty training now I would and the floor puddles method is probably the quickest once they get to that point. good luck

Yay for all the ranting - makes me feel slightly more justified in my misery!

I grind my elbow into DP's ribs when he's snoring or invading my side of the bed. He doesn't realise... but it wakes him up! Grr.

It chucked down here today - it was lovely to have cool air in the house. It was less lovely that DD removed ALL her clothes and ran into the garden to get soaking wet.

We've been swimming today. I didn't want to get out. The effort to de-fuzz led to a painful afternoon, but the pool was instant relief! I did handstands and forward rolls in the pool - can't do any harm. Getting out was HELL, like someone had stapled a week's shopping to my front. I'm seriously considering putting all my stuff on Ebay so I can buy a birth pool and live in it for a month!

Who asked about nookie? DP isn't keen when he gets home from work, I'm not keen at bedtime. Our tirednesses are not gelling. However, I'm going to see how he is now - must be the endorphins from the swimming!

DP will have to do the perineal massage. He trimmed my 'garden' today for the swimming - it can't be MUCH worse than that!

I feel so much better after reading your rants! Woke up this morning feeling horribly guilty as I kicked DH out of bed at 2am as he has this hacking cough (only at night) and was snoring. It was 2am and I was still awake. Thought about going to the couch myself but - that's just not fair!

Thanks kitkat, may go for the potty training in the next few days again and see. We had a go properly a few weeks ago and although put her back in nappies, it obv did some good in that she knows what she needs to do and is dry overnight! She keeps saying 'wee wee coming down the shute'. It's very cute. However, she did poo in the bath last week (some in the potty, then some in the bath!!) whilst ds was in there as well. Could feel blood pressure rising clearing it up and wondering how would cope with the addition of a hungry baby to the situation

coon, Sometimes things like that happen and you just have to do damage control and sort it out later - Hoiking the kids out of the bath quick sharpish and dealing with the bath and toys to be cleaned once they are in bed - it sometimes seems to me that with 3 you get about 20 mins of calm and then 10 mins of chaos you then spend the next 20 mins repairing the damage just in time for the next 10 minute chaos burst.

Keep smiling, have you tried a sticker chart or the ultimate - a chocolate button for wee's in the right place? have to admit to resorting to that one with dd1 and she potty trained totally in 2 weeks start to finish

good luck