Due August 2009 - Does My Bump Look Big In This????

[kitkatqueen]

Hello everybody Here is the shiny new thread, hope you found it ok!!

becksydee, thanks for the advice on the wrists! I've got a list of stuff for DH to do this weekend to prepare for me being on my own. Suggestions on disposable cutlery/ready meals especially noted. The worst pain seems to come from wiping myself...because of how I have to angle my wrist. That and reaching under the car seat to adjust it after DH has been driving. I can drive in my splints, but wouldn't do more than 20 minutes because of fingers cramping up from the awkward way I have to grip the wheel.

Am seeing the GP again Monday, but am thinking there's not much more he can do other than another steroid injection (which didn't help the first time). I really really hope it will turn out to be pregnancy related, and that this and the SPD will magically go away once I give birth.

Hawkmoth, there was a certainly bit of tearing up, and I think my voice went a bit shaky a few times. I was certainly in a puddle right after hanging up, immediately phoned DH and burst into tears. But then had to laugh when he said 'well you told her her fortune, didn'tcha' in his crazy East End geezer voice.

Just remember... the SPD will only go away after birth IF you are looked after properly during labour, particularly the pushing stage AND you give yourself time after the baby - don't suddenly start doing housework, don't push a pram or shopping trolley, don't lug a carseat about, and don't think "I feel fat, time to do sit-ups". I did all those things and it took bloody ages to get better!

However... look out for a miraculous improvement when baby engages and is no longer pressing on the rim of your pelvis. I was like a spring lamb in the couple of weeks before I gave birth - went to the pub every night, spent three hours sipping bitter at a beer festival - it was LOVELY!

Well done Yank. She sounds as though she is not really suited to community midwifery. Strike that- midwifery full stop. I mean, you need a modicum of empathy in the job, don't you?

Hello all,

sorry I haven't posted for ages - work has been mental (2 more weeks to go; can't decide if that's too scary for words or an utter relief!) and we've been busy with a short sharp shock NCT antenatal course.

It took me ages to get over the woman who ran the classes - she had a problem with the word "vagina". Quite how you discuss labour and birth without refering to the vagina is beyond me . Personally I don't think she has one

The next shock was quite how underprepared we are compared to everyone else in the class. We have emptied the spare room (sort of -save for some charity bags) and painted some splodges on the walls with tester pots. Don't like any of the colours we picked.

We've bought precisely nothing for the baby yet; fortunately my darling students bought me a little blanket with a hood, some mits and bootees, so at least we can wrap him/her up a bit

The midwife hinted to DH that perhaps he should help me organise a hospital bag (just in case - as we are planning a home birth). Neither of us has a clue what should be in this hospital bag - both useless

I think we are in total denial. TBH I'd quite like to be the other side now, then at least I'd be able to work out what I should be doing and what I need to be doing it

And I wouldn't have heartburn, back ache, a numb leg, that difficulty with weeing thing etc etc etc...

Anyone else find themselves in a similar unprepared predicament with 6 weeks to go?

What did she say instead of VAGINA????

YONI

Hawkmoth, I am guffawing loudly at the idea of me doing situps. I don't think I'll be susceptible to any pressure to 'get back in shape'...the only shape I have to get back to is 'round and lumpy'.

Sheena, I'm doing NCT at the moment and we have the same feeling of underpreparedness. Our teacher made all the men tell one thing they'd done for the baby. The other men said stuff like 'finished the extension on the house' and 'hand made the furniture for the nursery' and similarly giant/complex tasks. My DH said 'I've stripped some wallpaper in the spare room and bought a Led Zeppelin babygro'. Our tester pot of paint hasn't even been opened!

NCT also gave us a list of stuff for our hospital bags. One item is 'Muslim cloths'. I might have snurked a bit.

How did you keep a straight face @ 'YONI'?

Well I'm the same, but that floppy baby belly was gnawing away at me! I was almost better and totally fecked my pelvis for another three months!

Yoni? Well, at least it wasn't 'front bum' or 'lady willy'.

Sheena- there have been some threads on mumsnet about hospital bags, they give great advice on what to pack. Dont worry about buying loads of stuff for the. As long as you have some clothes and somewhere for the baby to sleep you will be fine. The baby will be with you most of the time anyway. We never had a nursery for DD1 when she went in to a toddler bed at 18 months we then decorated the room.
What is YONI I have never heard that one before!!!!!!

Yank- LOL at muslim cloths, you would think that they would do a spell check on the computer.....

Im just back from my DD1s first ballet show,she is in the pre school group and was a teddy bear, she was fab and I could have balled my eyes out. It was a lovely show, all age groups and abilities.

Have a good weekend everyone X

Thanks Yank and Oonagh, I don't feel as bad now about my total lack of preparation.

Apparently Yoni is an ancient sanskrit word. One of her gems was "in labour, think with your yoni, not your brain" Didn't know whether to laugh or cry - now was that my yoni responding or my brain?

Cor blimey, I think I've even managed to forget to post on here

Sheena - lol @ Yoni - she's obviously been reading Ina May Gaskin's books.

Not feeling anywhere near ready here. I know that we pretty much have everything from last time so haven't needed to buy stuff BUT think I'd have been more organised if I'd had to go out and get xyz.

Hoping to get dh to get baby clothes out of loft tomorrow so they can be washed and put away. Need to sort out somewhere to put my stock where Erin isn't gonna grab it then we can move the cot into our room.

Feeling a bit tight on money here tbh...was planning on starting maternity leave at 29 weeks but haven't done so yet as too much to do still so not getting the Maternity Allowance yet that I was expecting to have.

Also thinking of packing a 'hospital bag' too. Hoping for a homebirth but should have one 'just in case' but also figured it would be much easier anyway as all the stuff will be in one place then and I won't have to shout at dh for being useless at finding stuff

I had a home visit from the MW this morning.The baby has moved from oblique breech to transverse breech. She said that because of this that it is unlikely that the baby will move around to engage, and she also said that even if it did I would still be at risk of a cord prolapse.Great.I have weekly appointments now until I go in for the section on the 14th July.

Sorry to hear that OoonaghBhuna. I didn't realise we were at that stage where baby was adopting final positions.

I'm going to go and hang upside down of the couch if that's the case. I've also bought a swimming costume and am prepared to brave it out and do handstands in the pool.

... which I've already said - and I'm not on the painkillers today! Apologies for baby brain! Meh.

Hawkmoth- it depends on the breech position, unfortunately in my case, oblique and transverse are the two breech positions that are considered to be a risk due to cord prolapse. Also they have taken my medical history ( after having 2 DDS) into account aswell. I have also been told that they will not turn the baby.

So there is still plenty of time for you!!! Keep doing everything you can to get the baby turned, my situation is different.

Have been away on hols, was nice except for a little poor weather. Been reading about all your plans for getting ready. We are planning a homebirth too, but I am packing a ?just in case? hospital bag. I really feel, in this instance, if you have it ready, you won?t need it, but if you have to go in and are unprepared it will make a bad situation worse. But that?s my two-pence worth!

Take care all.

I'm packing the bag not just as a just-in-case, but because I know DP will be in a flap, and having everything to hand will save him 'man-looking' at a crucial time!

I think my baby is oblique, but will see what MW says a week on Wednesday. He's still very active and squirmy so he obviously has some room in there. I have times when the bump looks normal, and others when the right side is MUCH more forward - it obvious to everyone who just looks at me - will try to take a photo!

Sheena - I can't believe you have an antenatal teacher who is afraid of saying the word "vagina". It's like something out of a comedy sketch!

I was convinced I was breech but the midwife says she's definitely head-down. Hope she stays that way...

Hurrah! I have finally made a start preparing.

Oonagh, thanks for your suggestion to find a thread about hospital bags - managed to find one and now have a list. Don't have owt on the list, but at least the list is a start . By the way, I'm sorry to hear about your predicament; hope all goes well for you.

I've also been sucked in by the clever marketing people at Maman jojo bebe, who kindly sent me a discount voucher, so, much to DH's alarm (still a bit pricey even with the discount) I have ordered 2 vests, 2 sleepsuits, one cardi, one hat.

There, that'll keep us going for the first half hour . Definitely thinking with my yoni now

Hi everyone! Just popping in as I haven't been onto mumsnet in several weeks. How are you all doing? Sounds like you're getting ready for the birth(s) and preparing your babies new rooms. Well, my baby is 7 weeks 2 days old and we still haven't cleared out the spare room, bought a moses basket or any clothes either!

Nathan's doing quite well, it's very slow going and the bad days are pretty disheartening, but he's having lots of good days and is slowly progressing. He's growing well on breast milk and fortifier (put straight into his stomach with a tube) and he's starting to cry now when he's hungry so he must be feeling better! He's still on his ventilator, but they have been able to wean down the pressure and support breaths per minute settings so that's good. We're hoping they'll be able to take him off the ventilator and put him on CPAP later this week - a bit step forwards if it goes well! Yesterday he was 1080g which is about 2 pounds 6 - a lot more than the 620 or 1 pound 6 when he was born.

Just wondered if any more of us have had their babies early, or is it just me? Today's my DH's first Fathers Day so it's lovely to have Nathan already, despite the circumstances.

Hope you're all doing well and are all blooming in the final stages of your pregnancies - it'll all be over soon don't worry!

love Michaela

Michaela, HI!

So glad you,Nathan & DP are all doing well, it'slLovely to hear from you. Under the circs I think you can be excused for being hideously under-prepared.

Hello Michaela - how lovely to hear from you - have been thinking of you and Nathan x

hi Michalea I was thinking of you today, so glad to hear from you and Nathan is doing well

Michaela, it's wonderful to hear from you! Glad little Nathan is gaining weight and learning to cry for his food! You must be exhausted with being at hospital and expressing and everything. Hope you and your DH had a special Father's Day with the little guy.