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Due April 2009 - Tralalaboomdiay, our bumps grow every day!!

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BabyBolat · 06/01/2009 17:27

Place your bets on how long this thread will last, my guess is two weeks!!

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NuttyTaff · 12/01/2009 13:37

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BoffinMum · 12/01/2009 13:39

Bararella, that is not awful at all. Mine looks like a map of the moon and is considerably larger in girth. Plus you look about 20 in your other photo.

AuldAlliance · 12/01/2009 13:51

OK, here goes...
We are still recovering from the shock of snow in Provence: the supermarket shelves are a bit empty, but DS's school opened again today.
I am eating like a horse, too. Every pregnancy is different and all that, but when I had DS I was pregnant during the subtropical summer (35°C with a 90% humidity rate, VERY sweaty), wore little other than a pareo around the house, did my hair into two Pippi Longstocking braids to keep cooler at night, rarely left our hillside house for the heat down in town, swam in a friend's pool three times a week, and ... ate very little as I was so hot. Excess lychee consumption was as wild as it got (oh, and a bit too much ice cream, too, now I think about it!).

This time around, I find that without actually being hungry, I just seem to graze all the time, and am eating a lot of filling comfort food. I'm doing hardly any exercise: we went swimming yesterday and just after getting in the water I sneezed, which gave me a huge, piercing cramp across my abdomen, lasting for about 5 mins. V. scary. The actual swimming after that did me so much good, though, that I really should go regularly. Sadly, the pool is only open at lunchtime during the week, and when I'm on ML I'll have DS home for lunch, so won't be able to go.

I am very of those with nurseries: the baby will have to sleep in our room, which will require some preparation as the temperature in there is 9°C at the moment, not quite what is recommended for a newborn. DS went straight into a cot in our room, which I think with hindsight was a bad choice, as it was so big for him he probably felt very lost flailing around in there. DH has now "lent" our cot to a colleague, and confessed at the weekend that he had not mentioned it was a loan, so we may not get it back. So now I'm trying to decide if a Moses basket is worth investing in for the first months. We live in a very old house, with a narrow, steep, irregular spiral staircase. Garage on ground floor, kitchen, bathroom & living room on 1st, DS's room on 2nd, ours on 3rd. The idea of manoeuvring a Moses basket up and down the stairs is terrifying, so I don't know if there's any point, or if I should get one of these (sorry can't find it in English) to put in the (new)cot for the first months. But then when the baby is napping, I'll mostly be 2 floors lower in the house, which I think I'd find a bit freaky, being so far away.

But the stairs issue won't last long, as our landlady is throwing us out at the end of Aug, since she's selling. Very, very bad timing, as the market has crashed, so although prices are falling, there's not much up for sale, and my savings are in the UK, so have lost 25% of their value because the £ is so weak.

We'll be moving house with a 3 or 4 month old baby, just as we did with DS, though not 12,000km across the world this time! But first we have to find somwhere to live. Not only a flat/house, but also a town, as we can't figure out where to live. Choice is limited by the extortionate cost in the area. DH works 9am-8pm and commutes 1hr each way day on his motorbike at the moment. It's dangerous, he hardly sees DS, and he is sick of it, so he wants to move to the town he works in, which I hate, hate, hate. I can't see myself bringing my kids up in that town, TBH, but then again I can't really go on working FT and also doing all the housework, shopping, cooking, laundry, etc. because DH is never home. So I think I'll have to give in, and it's making me a bit .
I have been scouring ads and found one for a nice house (rare), which is affordable for a good reason: the living area is separated from the bedrooms by a courtyard (nice, shady, with a fountain and pond thing). Not v practical with 2 kids, but the house is lovely and I can see myself living there, as opposed to the grim flats that are available for the same price. Please come and convince me that it would be daft to buy such an impractical house!

Wow, that was long, and all about moi and my petty concerns!

BarbarellaNz · 12/01/2009 13:53

You girls are all too nice - note strategically placed hand to cover abdominal scar which actually divides right hand side of bump in half! I'll let it all hang out in next photo

I think that because it automatically makes the photo smaller you can't see all the veins which, believe me, are all over it! I will get dh to take another photo this weekend as bump has grown since Xmas Day.

BoffinMum as for looking 20 (!!!) I think geeky All Blacks' Supporters Hat must have blinded you to wrinkles! Either that or photo was taken from a good distance

AuldAlliance · 12/01/2009 13:54

Wow, Barbarella, your bump is gorgeous (as are you...)!

purlease · 12/01/2009 13:58

right on the subject of finding out the sex, DH is very against it preferring it to be a surprise. For DD (PFB)I was the same but I'm slightly curious this time around. DD (3.5)wants a sister but seems happy enough that it might be a brother.

Anyway I'm going to remain strong and not ask sonographer at next scan which is 36 weeks (low lying placenta).

However on an unscientific note could I ask those who have found out to do a test. Old wives tale!! I put my wedding ring on a chain and held it over bump and according to this I am going to have a boy. If ring sways in straight line it will be a boy and if it moves in a circular motion it will be a girl. I don't think it has to be a wedding ring. Also you need to blank your mind or get someone who doesn't know the sex to hold the chain so that test is not affected by thoughts of how it should move.

conkertree · 12/01/2009 14:01

another very jealous of your bump barbarella - and if its a cleverly taken picture of you in the hat then the photographer could make a fortune - i also thought you were in your twenties.

auldalliance - shame about having to move, but i have to say, the house sounds interesting. i much prefer that sort of house that is quirky to something practical but boring. but i can see if the dc were in bed, you might not be happy having them across a courtyard. hmm difficult one. hope something else interesting comes up though.

AuldAlliance · 12/01/2009 14:07

Me, too, conker, I can't stand boring, formulaic housing. I've been trying to persuade myself that putting them to bed in the 1 bedroom that's in the main bit of the house (which would be a study/spare room) and then carrying them over to their actual bedrooms is entirely feasible. But I think DS would be worried, being separated from us by a courtyard. Maybe a baby intercom thing would reassure him, if he thought he could call us if necessary...

purlease · 12/01/2009 14:11

Auld, is there any scope for changing the layout of the house - maybe having a living room in the sleeping quarters where you could sit in the evening when the children have gone to bed?

AuldAlliance · 12/01/2009 14:14

Purlease, I don't know, as I've only seen a few photos and was trying (in vain) to push the house out of my thoughts so haven't phoned the estate agent. Worth considering...

BoffinMum · 12/01/2009 14:27

AuldAlliance, quirky houses are great. It may be possible to install a retractable roof to effectively enclose the courtyard but open it up when you want to. I have seen a couple of examples of this sort of thing. That would make it seem like it is indoors. You could also rethink the entire thing as purlease says, or even dispense with bedrooms altogether and make all rooms sitting rooms with sleeping areas.

surprisenumber3 · 12/01/2009 14:28

purlease I did the test a few weeks ago and it went in circles!

Auld, sorry about the housing situation hope you manage to sort something out..might be worth a look at the house to see if you could arrange something you are comfortable with?

NuttyTaff · 12/01/2009 14:31

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BoffinMum · 12/01/2009 14:35

AuldAlliance:

www.shadeoz.com/SUB-RetractableRoof.htm

AuldAlliance · 12/01/2009 14:38

Boffin, I'd wondered about a roof, but don't think we could do that because it's part of a set of buildings, with a syndic (that's how my dictionary translates it anyhow!) who'd have to vote and agree alterations like that, and I think the roof would obstruct someone else's view. Rethinking the layout is a better idea. Will let you know what happens (DH has just e-mailed me an ad for a house miles from where he works, so he's obviously feeling bad at my accepting to live in a town he knows I hate).

Any views on Moses baskets versus cots (to return to more suitably ante-natal topics!)?

AuldAlliance · 12/01/2009 14:40

Oh, thanks for that link Boffin, you are lovely (and as has been said, very efficient!).
Will look into it.

BabyBolat · 12/01/2009 14:44

Auld, you absolutely can't make a decision until you have seen the house so if it were me I would take myself down there and have a look, you might be inspired when you are there and will be able to look at converting something (or realise it's not really an issue once you actually see it for yourself!)

As for moses baskets um, I think whatever works best for you, we live in a three story house (DH and I on the top floor, Bathroom and two bedrooms on second floor and then living space kitchen etc on the bottom floor and we are planning to have some sort of rocker / moses basket in bedroom for night times, use the nursery (spare room) cot for day time naps, I think it would be a pain to carry a basket round with me and would probably end up buying two (one that sits upstairs and one down) so that I could just lift the baby and re-deposit it elsewhere!!

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purlease · 12/01/2009 14:49

So Surprisenuber3, on a sample of 1 the ring test works!

BoffinMum · 12/01/2009 14:52

I bought a swinging crib for baby no 3 to sleep in our room, and it was a great success. I would not manoeuvre a moses basket up and down stairs. I would keep a secondary sleeping facility downstairs (eg carrycot, moses basket).

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Bubbaluv · 12/01/2009 14:58

AuldAlliance,
I found the moses basket invaluable. Just so easy to pick up sleeping baby and move about as required. We also had a Ambi Nature Nest for beside the bed as you can put one hand out and gently bounce the baby back to sleep without getting up inthe night - brilliant! Couldn't use it during the day though as DS found it so soporific that he would just sleep and sleep and then not conk out properly at night!
Moved DS into his cot and his own room when he was about 12 weeks. Not exactly by the book, but the walls were like paper anyway so not much dif to having him right next to us, and it meant DH could get a bit more sleep so not quite so shattered for work.
If you can borrow a moses basket that is the best way to go as their life-span is limited.

frostyfrekkles · 12/01/2009 15:06

hey hey,

what a curious relief to find I'm having the same pains as you nutty, woke me up about 3 in the morning, were like sharp period pains across the front of my bump and made me feel sick with the pain. I was a bit scared, but they settled down about an hour later. Does anyone e;se think that braxton hicks sounds abit like a racing driver?

I'm looking for a flat just now Auld, and am relieved as went to see the cheapest ones possible at the weekend, hoping that my boyfriend wouldn't say "that'll do", and he didn't! Ace. He also wants space and character and I'm so with you on the hating formulaic housing.

I'm also eating loads too. Today 4 rounds of toast and half a tub of vanilla ice cream.

I love your bump barbarella!

(Springy, I'm still with you with the sex, averaging twice a day at the moment ;) )

AuldAlliance · 12/01/2009 15:07

Thanks for the ideas.
Think I'll try and find a moses basket for upstairs and have him sleep in the beanybag thing for downstairs. Carrying him in a sling is great for certain things, but IME not when cooking/cleaning/sitting at the computer/playing with DS.
I'd love an Ambi, especially as DS had reflux and am a bit scared this baby might do too, and I gather Ambi's are good for that. But they are a bit pricy and I'm not sure one'd fit beside our bed.

frostyfrekkles · 12/01/2009 15:08

oooh ladies with experience of baby hammocks!! I want one! are they good?

frostyfrekkles · 12/01/2009 15:11

is everyone elses emotions still all over the place? Things are getting easier for me, but to be honest I still feel very down alot of the time and cry quite regularly. Noticed that my ex had deleted me on facebook last night and cried for hours.

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