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Due April 2009 - Festive bumps explode into crimbo, April mums wait in limbo

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BabyCRIMBOlat · 15/12/2008 19:48

New thread here (I hope!!)

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BabyBolat · 05/01/2009 21:27

Bleuravin - you shouldn't pay for Antenatal class IMO, your hospital should run a series of them.

I do always see a different midwife but if you have a community midwife (out of hospital) they should stay the same I think! For me, I always see someone different and whoever is on call will be helping at the birth but they should make really comprehensive notes every time you see them (mine do) which should cover off everything you need for the birth and cover all your concerns (in theory!!!)

BabyBolat · 05/01/2009 21:28

Now I really have to go - just got the look!!!!

babypringle · 05/01/2009 21:30

Boffin - i'm in bishops stortford, the rosie has a pretty huge catchment area so could be miles away! had DS there in 2006 and it wasn't a great experience, but i've heard worse things about the other hospital option and at least the rosie is a known quantity.

SpringySunshine · 05/01/2009 21:31

Not specifically for that, although it'll probably happen. It's my dad's & DP's brother's birthday on Wednesday, so we're going to see our respective families. Originally he was going to take his brother out drinking (it's his 18th) which is why I arranged to go home, but DP can't drink now because of his medication, so I'm not sure what they'll do. But I'm going back tomorrow, seeing a few friends in the day, spending all of my dad's birthday with him (probably including a free meal out in a restaurant, which I won't turn down!) & come back on Thursday at some point. I haven't seen my family without DP in ages, so that'll be quite nice.

Having said that, things with DP are much better at the moment anyway. We're spending pretty much every minute of the day with each other (we're both on uni holidays) & haven't had our own lives at all for a couple of weeks now, but things are still good - there's no way that they would have been before. We have had a couple of minor arguments, but nothing even resembling what was happening a few weeks ago. I'm very glad that I gave him another chance (for now, at least!) It'll still be good to have a few days apart, though. Especially as I can see my friends & be the old me for a bit, instead of trying to be lovely & diplomatic to very different people all at once!

"Tralalaboomdiay" is a fab word

babypringle · 05/01/2009 21:32

actually i'd like a homebirth but DH isn't keen. but as DS was born v quickly, and i've heard that second babies are quicker, he might not have any say in the matter in the end

SpringySunshine · 05/01/2009 21:34

The NCT classes are private, so you do pay (we're paying a lot less because we're both students), but you should be able to get NHS classes for free.

& haha, night BB xx

Schulte · 05/01/2009 21:34

Hi all

Been reading this thread for a while and was scared to join in the conversation because you all talk so much that I can hardly keep up! But wanted to say to KittyCat that one of my friends gave birth in Epsom a couple of years ago and was perfectly happy - she liked the fact that it was a fairly small maternity unit as opposed to the big one that Kingston is, so she said it felt more personal. Sure you'll be fine, so much depends on your midwives on the day anyway.

Along the same lines, BabyBolat, I had my heart set on a birth in the midwife led unit and water birth but wasn't allowed to stay because baby's heart rate kept dropping so they transferred me to the normal maternity ward and I actually preferred it because the midwife there was so much better and the room bigger!

Okay, what else... muslins, get loads, DC1 was very sicky up until 9 months old and kept puking everywhere so I got through about 10 muslins a day. Also beware of not buying enough stuff for the newborn stage - I only had 3 sleepsuits and we got through them in a day and had to send SIL out to buy more. When people give you presents they usually give you stuff for 0-3 or even 3-6 months so I'd recommend getting some tiny babygros. Also they are so cute to look at :-)

Due 21 April, DC1 will be 2 years and a month old then.

Okay will shut up now, feel like an intruder!

Bleuravin · 05/01/2009 21:35

Right. Thanks BabyBolat

BoffinMum · 05/01/2009 21:37

Bleuravin, NCT classes are good and very sociable, so go for them and pay, if they have a space (they fill up quickly). NHS ones are supposed to be less good as a rule, but they are free.

With midwives, in some places there is good continuity of care and in others you see too many different people, particuularly if you are booked into a hospital ante-natal clinic. A good way to do things is to see if you can have some of your appointments with the community midwife and some with the GP perhaps, avoiding the hospital. Then you are dealing with people who know you.

If a midwife knows you and is near at the time of the birth, she will try to deliver your baby, but more often than not you get a random midwife who is free on the day. Most of them are very good, so this doesn't matter. If you have written out a birth plan they will try to accommodate this. Sometimes they have to look after more than one labouring woman at once, which means you will be very reliant on a partner to support you. If this bothers you at all, it's possible with a bit of forward planning to hire an independent midwife (£3000ish including all ante-natal and post-natal care) or a doula (£750ish) to help you out. You can also hire these people just to do postnatal visits if you need extra support then.

A really worthwhile alternative in the UK is to have your ante-natal visits and your birth at home. That gives you a lot more continuity of care and two dedicated midwives on the day for the whole labour.

By the way, emergency care over here is absolutely first class and you will be very well looked after indeed if anything goes badly wrong.

Hope that helps.

SpringySunshine · 05/01/2009 21:38

Nooo, Schulte, you're not an intruder! Join in! Don't worry if you can't keep up all the time, just drop in when you can for a chat! Staaaay!

Schulte · 05/01/2009 21:40

I'd recommend doing both NCT and NHS classes - you get more time off work if your classes are during the day and you meet more people! The mums I met there have become my best friends and you need that support network to meet up and moan about those sleepless nights and useless husbands... although I see MN will be quite useful for that as well...

BabyBolat · 05/01/2009 21:40

Hey Schulte - don't be scared! sometimes I don't think we keep up with each other!! Pop in any time!! and you seem know things which I personally need lots of (Hence my dependence on Boffin and Nutty!!!) You are NEVER intruding, just adding!

Oh I didn't even realise you have to pay for some, better check I haven't booked in for fee-based ones (nope I am ok!!)

Feel so naughty, am sneaking on when DH is in the bathroom - do you think MN is addictive!!!???!!!!

Schulte · 05/01/2009 21:43

Of course it's addictive... I wanted to go to bed half an hour ago!

SpringySunshine · 05/01/2009 21:44

I know that MN is addictive. I've barely moved all day

SpringySunshine · 05/01/2009 21:45

So how do you get on the NHS ones, then? Should I have done that already? I'm sure some people just never find out about them. I mean some people don't have the support from family / friends / MN that we have, & aren't perhaps as 'switched on' to these things or whatever... I'm almost certain that some people must slip through the net & have no antenatal classes at all

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SpringySunshine · 05/01/2009 21:53

Exactly Nutty (haha, I just accidentally typed that as 'Butty' - glad I noticed before I posted ), that's what I mean! They just don't get offered. It's not even that bad in your case, because you're the sort of person who'll seek out information for yourself (hence finding MN, etc) & have a DH, etc. But think of all the young teenage mums who must really miss out

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SpringySunshine · 05/01/2009 21:58

Nutty, I've stayed in that hotel loads! I wasn't allowed boys back to my house, so...

You can use me as an excuse to visit Brum whenever you like - tell me when you fancy a trip up (after you've got your back sorted) & I'll be around. I'll always jump at the chance to visit my lovely, lovely city. The shops there are far better than Sheffield city centre for a start

brettgirl2 · 05/01/2009 22:06

OK - so I've been looking into childcare and just nearly passed out. The only nursery that had fees stated locally is £833 per month (and in the deepest, darkest provinces, not London) I was expecting more like £600 per month - that seems to be the rate for childminders but had kind of planned on a nursery. I think I might be able to get vouchers and OH will also look into this but we won't get any tax credits or anything (apart from child benefit I assume!)Ladies who already have children - any advice?

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BoffinMum · 05/01/2009 22:15

Brettgirl - my advice is don't even THINK about what childcare costs, or you will sink into the deepest depression and not emerge from the gloom for at least five years. Just pay up and try not to care. And grab any vouchers going.

SpringySunshine · 05/01/2009 23:06

Hahahahaha, oh lord. I was reading another thread (because I'm nosy) about women who don't ever want sex, & one of them said that she enjoys foreplay but the sex itself isn't that interesting to her. She then later mentioned that she'd rather he spent those 45 minutes on extra foreplay - which caused a fair bit of amongst other posters.

It made me giggle, so explained it to DP when he asked what I was laughing at. & now he's really offended & confused - yes, confused - as to why I might be at the 45 minute revelation.

I think I need to get him a new watch

(Also, would any of you want 45 minutes of sex? Or are you all having 45 minutes of sex & it's just me who isn't? I think I'd get bored, though I do love sex, but even so...)

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