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Due April 2009 - Festive bumps explode into crimbo, April mums wait in limbo

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BabyCRIMBOlat · 15/12/2008 19:48

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BabyBolat · 29/12/2008 16:52

So far today VBm not only have you sorted yourself and those nasty hospital people out you have also done it for snowy and frekkles - believe me, you don't need me.

BabyBolat · 29/12/2008 17:06

ha ha! I just wrote a list of my essentials and I will be taking a suitcase in to the hospital - think I might need to whittle it down a little!

brettgirl2 · 29/12/2008 17:40

Is it not the done thing to use a bag that you already have? Am I going to appear extremely scuzzy (Although with all and sundry peering up my fanjo I think think the bag will be the least problem). Ms K earns £1m per year, I don't.

The NHS is absolutely pants - the mw told me that my sciatica was due to the baby pressing on my nerve. Without even looking at my back/hips, or asking when it started (at 8 weeks) I couldn't be bothered to point out that this isn't what the doctor and physio who did look said.

VirginBoffinMum · 29/12/2008 17:44

OK, Boff's bag contents so far:

Mothercare black and white PJs
Flight socks
Flight slumber mask
Travel hairdryer
Hair scrunchie
Little hairbrush
Neal's Yard zest facial spritzer (makes contents of bag smell lovely!)
Travel towelling slippers
Bath sheet
12 disposable breast pads
12 maternity towels
Feme pad and spare covers (in case of fanjo puffiness after the event)
2 pairs j-cloth pants (in case of caesarian)
Pen
Thyroid tablets
Change purse with random coins

Toiletries:
Travel size soap, body lotion, shampoo, conditioner, hair styling product, toothbrush, toothpaste, deoderant, Kiehl's lip balm, tinted moisturiser, flannel (for drying fanjo on to keep towel clean, although I find the hairdryer is good for this as well)

Still to organise:
Dressing gown
Paracetemol stash (for afterpains)
Sleep bra
Nursing bra
5 pairs big black pants
More random change
Reading materials
Ipod

VirginBoffinMum · 29/12/2008 17:46

Brettgirl, my bag is vintage 1997. It is actually deeply uncool to have expensive matching white things.

VirginBoffinMum · 29/12/2008 17:48

PS Also have wax ear plugs and a pocket pack of tissues in there.

BabyBolat · 29/12/2008 17:55

VBM and that is before you put the baby things in!! your list is bigger than mine!!! I feel much better now!

VirginBoffinMum · 29/12/2008 17:57

It's actually quite a small bag.

Baby bag has a few nappies, travel pack of wipes, travel baby toiletry set, and 2 changes of baby clothing (babygro, vest, cardigan) plus hat and bootees and scratch mitts). Oh, and baby towel.

brettgirl2 · 29/12/2008 18:05

Haha - white is a very silly colour

That really is some list, there is no way whatever anyone says that I am going to be bag packing yet. If it happens then I will throw myself at the mercy of the NHS.... I will think about it at 30 weeks. Even more worryingly I have no idea what feme pads are - also I'm going to have to wear a bra when I'm asleep?

Talking of bras, I can still fit my 'assets' into a B-cup. Am I the smallest breasted 25 weeks pg woman in the western world???

VirginBoffinMum · 29/12/2008 18:11

You won't with a B-cup, I think. I have norks like minor planets, and the sleep bra thing is because under my pjs they look like two free swinging water melons, and get sweaty patches underneath them, plus I need somewhere to put breast pads, as I leak milk quite a lot.

Feme pads are a gel pad you keep in the fridge and then put on the ol' fanjo area to reduce swelling. Also good for piles.

www.mothercare.com/Feme-post-natal-pain-relief-pads/dp/B000IVU7TU

chrismathsmummy25th · 29/12/2008 18:13

lol at the 5 pairs of big black pants - the first thing I packed in mine!

Mine also contains two very good novels, plastic bags, pens and notepad (could have done with this last time, mathsmummy needs to wrote down the maths sometimes) and lots of chapstick. Oh, and some dark coloured slippers

A B-cup???!!

I wish. I really do as well. I now have a large lump of flesh on my front which used to be, separately, two breasts and a tummy. I wonder what it should be called - a brummy? a boobump?

BabyBolat · 29/12/2008 18:20

Ok I was never a B-Cup but my breasts look like cows udders! Scrap that veiny swollen cows udders!

BabyBolat · 29/12/2008 18:20

Chrismathsmummy - how about we call it our blump?!

chrismathsmummy25th · 29/12/2008 18:23

Blump it is! And mine is also blue-veined, sweaty and generally not too attractive. Except to me of course (and sadly thinks of all her childless friends who would give up a great deal for one )

BabyBolat · 29/12/2008 18:24

Do you think snowy is ok - hope she is out having a nice meal with DP or relaxed on the sofa curled up and relaxed!

BabyBolat · 29/12/2008 18:25

Mine isn't even attractive to me!

chrismathsmummy25th · 29/12/2008 18:29

Oh, BB not even a little?
Think of the cute little nose inside

Snowy, seding u good thoughts. Probably stuck in a stupid A & E nightmare

BabyBolat · 29/12/2008 18:32

Ok so when the little bum is wobbling around inside, that is very cute but not the external blump!!

Yes, to be fair, she probably is waiting in that room getting more and more annoyed at having to wait!!!

VirginBoffinMum · 29/12/2008 18:49

You do maffs in labour, mathsmummy. I am deeply impressed. Is this a form of meditation??

SnowySunshine · 29/12/2008 19:04

Okay ladies, I'm back! Just back, even though the hospital was very quiet so far as I could see

Most importantly, I seem to be fine. They first of all checked the heartbeat (DP got to hear it this time, which he appreciated ) which was good & strong, then they checked my blood pressure, pulse & temperature. My pulse was 109, which I think was just down to the worry but everything else was okay. Then I had to wait hours for a doctor, who eventually came & put a speculum up me & shone a huuuuge light up my fanjo & took a swab as well.

She said that my cervix is inflamed, but there's no active bleeding. The swab will be sent away, but because of New Year & all, it'll probably be a little while until I get the results.

It was only quite a while afterwards that I realised that I'd just pretty much won myself a bonus smear test - my first one - & guessed at that point what Boffin was probably alluding to. Although the experience was fairly uncomfortable, it has made me wonder why women don't go for their regular smear appointments - it wasn't half as bad as I'd assumed that it must be for people to be so dissuaded from going, given the benefits

I also got them to give me some extra phone numbers of community midwives & the community midwife office, so I shouldn't be too stuck in future I also managed to cadge a free one-dose pot of Gaviscon off the midwife, but no prescription. That's tomorrow's job, I suppose.

On my way to the hospital, I phoned my aunt (who's a qualified, but not practising midwife) & asked her about it. She too said that it's not that uncommon, but definitely worth checking out. It's just as well that I have MN & a midwife in the family, really. When I told my aunt that I couldn't get hold of midwifery triage or my midwife she wasn't at all surprised, but angry, saying 'well that's just great, isn't it? ' - she works for the NHS & is about as pissed off with it as we are, I think.

Being in the maternity triage room was quite an experience. The first thing I noticed were the giant maternity pads on each of the comfy, reclining chairs. I also used the toilet & found a supply of maternity pads, a sick bowl & a bath with a shower. It seems quite odd to think that it's not that long until I'll be there about to have my baby.

Whilst we were waiting, a lady came in who was in labour & we had a quick chat to her husband whilst she was producing a urine sample. It was their 2nd boy & he was saying that it's absolutely exhausting & doesn't know why anybody does it more than once. Then his wife came back out of the toilet & he soon shut up

I feel like I should've been scared by the sight of a huge, contracting woman, but it mostly just made me really excited. In a few hours she'll have her lovely baby Although I did look at her really long, sharp nails & pity her husband for those next few hours

There was also a very young couple (about 14) who were in because of a UTI, I think. They were hilarious. The boy strutted in & looked DP & me up & down in disgust (?!) & plonked himself down in the comfy seat, leaving his rather large girlfriend to come waddling in 20 seconds behind him & perch on the very upright, hard plastic seat. She was on the phone to her friend, giving a very Vicky Pollardesque update on the situation, whilst he sniggered into his fist saying 'go on, tell her what they did to you...'. I assume she had to have an internal exam, but in his 14 year old mind I think it was practically porn She had a really naff, bright pink piercing above her top lip & the famous slicked back hair & tracksuit. It was like being part of a live sketch show. As soon as they left & were out of earshot, DP & I just fell about laughing

Then there was the really old, non-English speaking man roaming the corridor. No idea what he was looking for, but I'm very doubtful that he was in the right place - it wasn't visiting hours & he certainly didn't look like he'd been fathering any children recently The midwives ended up getting quite frustrated with him & just leading him away.

All in all, although there was a huge wait for apparently no good reason, it wasn't a horrific experience & I feel very much reassured by going. I'd still be bouncing off the walls with worry if I hadn't, whereas now I can relax a bit. The little git is somehow forcing himself into my back & practically crippling me now though - I always wonder why I love him so much & get so worried when he's causing such pain

Thank you to everyone who helped earlier, or who has asked after me since - especially Boffin

Now to catch up!

BabyBolat · 29/12/2008 19:15

Oh yay Snowy that is great news - so pleased for you and glad you can relax a bit - sure the tests will come back normal!

Now sit on the sofa, relax, get DP to make you lots of lovely food and drink and fuss over you...

SnowySunshine · 29/12/2008 19:25

Nutty, you should be ! It was fab sex! & we had sex the day before yesterday and on Thursday! I asked DP about it whilst we were waiting today & he said that he's not having to make a conscious effort with it anymore, but that he just feels like having sex a lot more now. I'm a bit in love with his medication, to be honest. I know that sounds awful ("I prefer my DP drugged up" or whatever) but he's so much happier already & it makes my life so much easier. & he's getting his sex drive back. Plus, as an interesting side point, they prescribe citalopram for premature ejaculation in some cases, so...

About hospital bags, I've realised today that it's time to get one sorted. I wasn't even intending to think about it for ages yet, but after the panic of possibly being caught short today, it's well worth doing now. I've gone a bit twitchy about how little we have ready (we literally only have a pram!) if the baby were to arrive now, so will be getting a bit more organised to put my mind at rest. I'm scared to click the £425 bag link in case I fall in love & have my heart broken I think I will have a look though, just because I'm a masochist like that. Besides, all ideas help the preparation

surprisenumber3, I'm not that much heavier than I was to begin with. I'm much larger, but was very sick for a very long time, so that's kept the weight off. Having said that I think I'm making up for all the lost time over Christmas, so I'm sure I'll soon catch up!

frekkles, very pleased to hear that you're getting a couple of scans - as Boffin says, you should definitely go for a proper look at everything. You've had enough stress to warrant a bit of exploitation of it!

Boffin really sorry to hear about your friend I can fully understand why you got so worried earlier. As I said, I've had a smear done today, so that aspect of it should be covered. I'm not that worried (because of my age, more than anything) although I am quite pleased that I've had a smear, because I do think that waiting until 25 is ridiculous (good old NHS again!). Your labour experience sounds rather terrifying, too. Thank God it stopped of its own accord! Loving your hospital bag list, too - very useful, thanks

& mathsmummy, I can't even express my thoughts at the idea of you doing maths during labour. You women all make my mind boggle

PuzzleRocks · 29/12/2008 19:35

Hooray Snowy, i'm so glad all is well. And very very jealous of the sex.

VirginBoffinMum · 29/12/2008 19:42

Yippee, you're back Snowy. I am so pleased they have checked everything out for you, and it sounds like you had a real adventure over there. The Vicky Pollard character sounds particularly brilliant.

My friend was about 26 when she died so it's always good to be enthusiastic about smears. I wasn't going to get you all worried beforehand, because as I said it's really rare, but she basically seemed to get cancer over the course of the pg and died 10 days after an emergency cs during the third trimester (I forget exactly when). We were all so shell shocked, but then her DS had his birthday a week later, so we all had a party for him and tried to be jolly for his sake, but it was very forced and we felt her absence horribly.

I was not that worried about the labour thing because I had a feeling it would stop. You get less twitchy about pg things after this many kids.

Isn't it great about Frekkles, first no scan and now two????

SnowySunshine · 29/12/2008 20:54

It doesn't matter how rare it is if it affects you or someone you love though The whole situation with your friend sounds so awful.

But yes, the Vicky Pollard girl alone was well worth the trip

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